Doing Things Alone

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Frank V. wrote:

Being a alone is not always loneliness.

Being in a bad marriage is the worst loneliness I have ever heard another man describe.

Solitude can be grand.

Frank V.

I can attest to that. When I was married was the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life.

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

I have been doing stuff alone for the past 6 years. When you adjust in your mind, to not needing the company of others, it is great. I like eating out on my own, shopping on my own, reading/watching stuff on my own. I feel sorry for the guys who are hen-pecked by some woman, but they chose it. Complete silence does not bother me. Complete silence drives women crazy; it is so funny to watch them trying to create some drama to fill the lack of noise, messing on with their stupid smart-phones, talking crap, making childish noises, doing crap for attention, etc.; just like stupid little children. I have no sympathy for them whatsoever.

[OneLaneOnlyPlsParticipant 1747]

Anonymous wrote:

Greetings Gentlemen. For many years of my life I have been doing things alone, or solo if you will. From vacations to dining at restaurants I simple do them by myself. That doesn’t mean that I don’t talk to people or hang out with others on occasion. It’s a liberating lifestyle. I’m able to prioritize my time and focus on the things that I think are important. My living space has me and no one else.

Over the years I spoken with married men about my bachelor type lifestyle. Most of them have told me to stay single. Every one of them has emphasized that they love their wives and their children and want to be married, but they told me that in comparison it’s not always for everyone. One fella even told me that marriage is more for women than it is for men.

I want to pass on the above written things. Not just for the newbies but for those who have been here for awhile and are died in the wool MGTOW titans. Running solo isn’t a bad thing at all. In fact it’s quite a character builder and also the only way I’ll ever be. If I fail, it’s because of me. If I succeed it’s because of me. If I’m going to survive then it’s up to me to do what it takes.

Great post Travis, and echos how a lot of us here live nowadays.

You mention vacations above. That is one thing so far I am feeling bit uneasy about doing solo. I know that I will enjoy parts of it, but other parts might feel bit weird? Am planning a trip next year, might be spending part of it in USA.

As for the rest you mention, I do that on easy-mode. From going to the beach, the gym, the movies, it just feels natural. I LOVE having my own place.

With the friends bit, the ones I know that are married are always time-poor, tired, frustrated, and cannot really be relied upon. I’ve learnt to prioritize without them, and enjoy doing most things on my own.

[Anonymous 6]

OneLaneOnlyPls wrote:

Travis3000 wrote:

Greetings Gentlemen. For many years of my life I have been doing things alone, or solo if you will. From vacations to dining at restaurants I simple do them by myself. That doesn’t mean that I don’t talk to people or hang out with others on occasion. It’s a liberating lifestyle. I’m able to prioritize my time and focus on the things that I think are important. My living space has me and no one else.

Over the years I spoken with married men about my bachelor type lifestyle. Most of them have told me to stay single. Every one of them has emphasized that they love their wives and their children and want to be married, but they told me that in comparison it’s not always for everyone. One fella even told me that marriage is more for women than it is for men.

I want to pass on the above written things. Not just for the newbies but for those who have been here for awhile and are died in the wool MGTOW titans. Running solo isn’t a bad thing at all. In fact it’s quite a character builder and also the only way I’ll ever be. If I fail, it’s because of me. If I succeed it’s because of me. If I’m going to survive then it’s up to me to do what it takes.

Great post Travis, and echos how a lot of us here live nowadays.

You mention vacations above. That is one thing so far I am feeling bit uneasy about doing solo. I know that I will enjoy parts of it, but other parts might feel bit weird? Am planning a trip next year, might be spending part of it in USA.

As for the rest you mention, I do that on easy-mode. From going to the beach, the gym, the movies, it just feels natural. I LOVE having my own place.

With the friends bit, the ones I know that are married are always time-poor, tired, frustrated, and cannot really be relied upon. I’ve learnt to prioritize without them, and enjoy doing most things on my own.

Look traveling is nothing solo. Think about it, you already go to the store alone, also other places. Vacation is different but not entirely as there are some commonalities.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

One fella even told me that marriage is more for women than it is for men.

Divorce is for women.

Marriage is merely a necessary prerequisite.

If women could get your s~~~ without it, they wouldn’t give a f~~~ about marriage. And believe me, they are working hard to achieve exactly that in the law and courts.

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Jack Harper wrote:

Frank V. wrote:

Being a alone is not always loneliness.

Being in a bad marriage is the worst loneliness I have ever heard another man describe.

Solitude can be grand.

Frank V.

I can attest to that. When I was married was the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life.

Robin Williams and I agree with you (though I was not married).

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

Being alone is not the worst thing. Being with people that make you feel alone is – Robin Williams

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[CurmudgeonParticipant 64]

Anonymous wrote:

marriage is more for women than it is for men.

Travis3000: The guy who told you this is correct. Having kids and grandkids is the best part of my life. However, having a selfish hypergamous bitch extract children and use them to extort money from you can drive any man to near insanity.
Develop skills,hobbies, and mental/spiritual depth…you won’t regret it. Grace and Peace brother 😀

No Bills No Boss No Bitch

[Anonymous 6]

Curmudgeon wrote:

Travis3000 wrote:

marriage is more for women than it is for men.

Travis3000: The guy who told you this is correct. Having kids and grandkids is the best part of my life. However, having a selfish hypergamous bitch extract children and use them to extort money from you can drive any man to near insanity.
Develop skills,hobbies, and mental/spiritual depth…you won’t regret it. Grace and Peace brother

Hey Mr. C. I know that you’re legit from that comment. All of the guys who I’ve talked to about this have told me the same exact thing or something very similar to your post. Every single one of them said that their kids meant more to them than life itself.

[DocParticipant]

Solitude is peace and quiet.
No distractions. No thinking about what to say.
No awkward silences.
No shaming.
No second guessing what the other person is thinking.
No doublespeak.

Just peace.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3754]

Doc wrote:

Solitude is peace and quiet.
No distractions. No thinking about what to say.
No awkward silences.
No shaming.
No second guessing what the other person is thinking.
No doublespeak.

Just peace.

Sounds perfect, man.

Sometimes, when I do something with someone else, I take a step back and imagine what it would be like if I were doing it alone… and usually wish I were.

Very rarely do I appreciate the company of others. I’m a highly introverted person like quite a few men here.

[SESQUI ano estParticipant 2534]

Mencken wrote:

At first going to the movies alone was hard, especially when others would refuse. It grew easier over time. I starting enjoying all my hobbies alone. I became a new person. I had become MGTOW!

It was the nineties, mid afternoon, I had three hours to kill before meeting my wife so I stepped into the theatre, bought a large popcorn and a large coke and sat in the movie house with about 7 other people. Maybe it was not having her constant commenting during the movie but it was fantastic. Going to the movies alone has been a fantastic intermittent practice of mine since. Seeing a movie in the theatre alone is great when the theatre is not busy. I’ve gone hiking alone and it is a fantastic experience to be up in the hills for hours without having to talk to anyone. Celebrate the silence.

sidecar wrote:

Divorce is for women.

Marriage is merely a necessary prerequisite.

If women could get your s~~~ without it, they wouldn’t give a f~~~ about marriage. And believe me, they are working hard to achieve exactly that in the law and courts.

Solid Gold Sidecar Commentary. “Marriage is merely a necessary prerequisite.” Haaaa!

Everyday above ground is a good one. Everyday above ground while single...better still.

[LonestarParticipant 333]

Just got back from a 3 week road-trip to see some sights and visit friends and family. Loved driving down the road, nice fall days, sunroof open, and my tunes on the stereo. Pure heaven. I could detect a little jealousy from friends when it was time for me to go and I was taking off down the road as free as the breeze.
I was driving down the road in Kentucky and happened to see the exit for Mammoth Cave National Park. Never been so about a 30 second debate with myself, and next thing I know I’m on a tour through the longest cave in the world.

Loneliness is the pain of being alone, Solitude is the joy of being alone. Just a matter of perspective.

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles

[DocParticipant]

‘Solitude is the joy of being alone’
Amen to that Lonestar. Amen.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

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