Doing Things Alone

[Anonymous 6]

Greetings Gentlemen. For many years of my life I have been doing things alone, or solo if you will. From vacations to dining at restaurants I simple do them by myself. That doesn’t mean that I don’t talk to people or hang out with others on occasion. It’s a liberating lifestyle. I’m able to prioritize my time and focus on the things that I think are important. My living space has me and no one else.

Over the years I spoken with married men about my bachelor type lifestyle. Most of them have told me to stay single. Every one of them has emphasized that they love their wives and their children and want to be married, but they told me that in comparison it’s not always for everyone. One fella even told me that marriage is more for women than it is for men.

I want to pass on the above written things. Not just for the newbies but for those who have been here for awhile and are died in the wool MGTOW titans. Running solo isn’t a bad thing at all. In fact it’s quite a character builder and also the only way I’ll ever be. If I fail, it’s because of me. If I succeed it’s because of me. If I’m going to survive then it’s up to me to do what it takes.

[GoodKid44Participant 1524]

Yep, it’s actually about going solo and meeting new people where ever you go.

I have a friend who travels to places alone. He just got back from Peru. He hung out with all the other tourists who were basically traveling solo as well (there were some couples, but alot of people were solo).

[ghostParticipant]

I honestly feel like I just wrote that. Excellent post, Travis. I am shocked sometimes at how similar our experiences and mindsets are.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

I love the solo life too. It can be an adjustment from what was a married life. I can look at both lives with years of each to compare them and there is no contest. Alone is 100% better.
My finances are better. My mental health is better. My physical health is better. Everything is better. It’s not like I don’t see people or live some hermit life. I’m very social with lots of time I choose to spend how I want..

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

If I fail, it’s because of me. If I succeed it’s because of me.

Interesting. I’ve said same,. just with different words.

“Berating myself for my own failures. Congratulating myself for my own successes”.

I think nothing would p~~~ me off more than making someone else‘s mistake. Like when my mother tried to nail me down and pushed me into getting a mortgage – when I was WAY too young, couldn’t afford it at all, and more interested in traveling.

OR marrying a girlfriend because I thought it would make HER happy.
OR going left instead of right because someone else said so.

The pressures and forces against our man-stincts are she-normously gynocentric. If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re f~~~ed. At times, I have gotten VERY angry inside at how hard others have tried to steer me wrong. But it’s only temporary, and I get twice the personal satisfaction out of knowing I listened to myself first.

… but I also have many other men to thank for that.

One teacher in particular. Not my father actually. two opportunities came up and I was very torn. He just leaned in and said “Take it. I would.”. It was the difference between knowing my immediate future, and not knowing it. I chose not knowing and he helped.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Remove me!Participant]

Nice insight, “marriage is more for women than men”. So true. What do we have to gain by marrying?

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[AposematicParticipant 2671]

Keymaster wrote:

she-normously gynocentric

ha ha…. or even GYNORMOUS KM
narcorcas have the Genus name Cetacea gynorma.

Afinogyny.. from the Greek Afino {to abandon/ to set down/ to leave /to allow/ to let } + Gyny {Women} MGHOW’s philosophy to not engage women without “hating them”. Narcorca =Narcissistic Orca typically spouting to a bathroom mirror taking an arms length selfie ; Wallinate describes post wall females whose SMV is terminally negligible New Years resolution "To not make women happy" . Instadestitue: yet another Neologism for Men that cohabit with women that decide to pull the handle of intervention orders.

[Ja[H]xParticipant 193]

One of the hardest lessons I have had to learn, was that it is important not to entangle your path with anyone else’s. You can run parallel or even overlap for a time, but always go your own way, even if it means going it alone.

~Insert witty comment here~

[Anonymous 38]

The beauty with doing most things by yourself is there are no distractions. The ‘noise’ and the bulls~~~ is minimal. This allows you to gain a very solid sense of who you are and the freedom to live as you please.

I think a lot of people look at my life and assume I’m lonely. I spend most weekends by myself. I go to the cinema alone. I’m always cycling here and there, doing something – alone. Sat studying in a coffee shop for hours. Tomorrow I’m going to see a new museum exhibition alone. My ‘lonely’ life feels like bliss a lot of the time. How many of those people could honestly say that?

I have a few friends, but I do enjoy the alone time as I am fully free to experience, learn and contemplate. When I’m alone, I’m always in good company!

I think MGTOW appeals to all men for obvious reasons, but to a high introvert it is almost our natural state.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

I went alone yesterday for whole day to do sports in nature in foreign country.

It it always great to do things you love in good company and then you are able to laugh at memories later, but, it is better to just do it alone than with some people you don’t really connect just for the sake of not being alone.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Excellent post. It’s like you were describing me. I also truly enjoy solo work and living environment. I sometimes think about how I’d probably be a good candidate for interplanetary travel with years alone in space and tending to the needs of a spacecraft as it progresses away from Earth towards .. who knows where .. as long as there were a few virtual acquaintances for chess & poker and banter and technical advice and a good vintage music library from the 1960’s thru 80’s plus Classics .. along with me on the trip.

[Anonymous 12]

I can recall being in primary (elementary) school and always wanting to sit in the library during lunch breaks rather than play with the other kids. I am intensely introverted and love doing things alone. Except for seeing movies at the cinema, there are other people there and they ruin it.

Other person : “So what do you with so much time alone?”

Me : “Anything I want. When I want”.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

There was a thread in the past about dining alone. I enjoy dining with company in my home or alone when I am out.

I have a hobby of exploring out the way places a good drive away. I like being able to find these out of the way places and when I am alone, I can enjoy the experience without distractions.

But sometimes when dining alone, people feel compelled to comment.

Frank V.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

Keymaster wrote:

I think nothing would p~~~ me off more than making someone else‘s mistake.

Most of the big mistakes in my life were because I listened to other people.

Then I started to listen to my gut, and things started looking up.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Ja[H]x wrote:

One of the hardest lessons I have had to learn, was that it is important not to entangle your path with anyone else’s.

Well said.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 12]

Monk wrote:

Keymaster wrote:

I think nothing would p~~~ me off more than making someone else‘s mistake.

Most of the big mistakes in my life were because I listened to other people.

Then I started to listen to my gut, and things started looking up.

I so relate to that especially in regards to being louder or more socially active and going against my true self.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2145]

“You can never be alone if you like the company of the person you are alone with.” – Wayne Dyer

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[MenckenParticipant 693]

It looks like most everyone had always preferred to be alone. I cannot be the only one who learned to become this way?

I grew up around lots of people, big family and friends. I never knew it at the time but the reason people stopped relating with each other is mostly due to dating/marriage.

I hung onto a few friends after high school but they were extremely unhealthy for me. I would try to make more friends, even invited strangers, but they all were hopelessly devoted to parasites. I started a new job and discovered more of the same. It was upsetting and sometimes doubted myself as if there was something wrong with me.

I grew tired of people making excuses to bail or not returning calls. I stopped calling people, ended facebook, and began doing things alone. The transformation was unfathomable! At first going to the movies alone was hard, especially when others would refuse. It grew easier over time. I starting enjoying all my hobbies alone. I became a new person. I had become MGTOW!

No longer did I care what others thought seeing me alone in public. I discovered quality friends but now sometimes prefer to be alone. My own parents gave up trying to guilt me into doing things that I didn’t agree with. When my family gathers for holidays, they are sometimes jealous of my freedom. I ignore their screaming kids, wake up when I want, and fish without EVER making plans or asking permission. Instead of feeling insecure, I felt comfortable with myself and even respected!

I still enjoy helping others but only when I decide they are worth my effort. Naturally, the few others friends I have now are also MGTOW. Imagine that.

Not caring is liberty.

Misogynist - A man who hates women as much as women hate one another.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Being a alone is not always loneliness.

Being in a bad marriage is the worst loneliness I have ever heard another man describe.

Solitude can be grand.

Frank V.

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