Do you ever get lonely?

[hmskl’dParticipant 6405]

Not any more. I’d say lots more about how I believe any residual loneliness has disappeared over the years .. but I guess I’ll just have to leave it at that for now. I guess I’ve never had much of a tendency towards loneliness.
Right now people are thinking .. everyone gets lonely .. sometime?
Ok, that might be absolutely true, but right now I don’t recall dwelling on it in the recent past.
.. so this guy is stretching the truth. I’m not .. I’m being completely honest .. so here goes, this evening, Saturday night I’m at home working on a stack of overdue projects, I’m also installing a new SSD in a notebook while listening to some 70’s & 80’s music quietly in the background as I work until about midnight or slightly after .. and if I hadn’t read the title of this excellent thread .. loneliness wouldn’t have even entered my mind. I’ve had a tastey dinner of homemade tomato soup with crackers, a sliced gala apple, two pieces of three cheese pizza on the side .. and a banana split.
The day has been busy but overall .. great weather.
Sometime, someday .. maybe tomorrow, something might just possibly tic a memory or a thought that might make me think for just a moment about some path I didn’t take or something from the past that I still recall .. that thought only lasts a few seconds.
I just contacted a couple of friends via CW ham who are traveling round world on their 43 foot sailboat. How great is that .. no loneliness here. Maybe I’ll sell out someday and try that, too. Just the thought of it makes me smile.
Things are basically good. If loneliness was an issue for me I’d probably tweak my path to deal with it .. as long as it’s my path, I’m still going my own way.
The bottom line .. if loneliness exists, find out what it is causing it. I can’t think of anything that can’t be fixed.
A guy can be married and lonely as ever, painfully lonely within a relationship .. conversely, a guy can be single and lonely, too.
Whatever the cause of loneliness, dissect it and resolve it and solve it. There always is an answer. It might just be high-tech. It might involve discovering a new interest. Everyone’s path is so unique. Over time, melancholy is something that can be positively resolved by tweaking interests and surroundings. Have great weekend.

[The Black ScorpionParticipant 2142]

It is impossible to feel alone if you like the company of the person you are alone with.

The greatest tragedy in life is to spend your whole life fishing only to discover that it was not fish you were after. - Henry David Thoreau

[OldBillParticipant]

Slayher wrote:

Anyone else get asked this question?

What’s that famous phrase? Hell is other people?

Anyway, when I get lonely I find a way to get busy.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

OldBill wrote:

Slayher wrote:

Anyone else get asked this question?

What’s that famous phrase? Hell is other people?

Anyway, when I get lonely I find a way to get busy.

I don’t get busy, that’s a distraction, I just deal with reality and remember why I’m alone in the first place.

Then when I come out of memory lane and see my selft alone and safe. A smile comes to my face.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 12]

i make a point of having “loner-time”

to clear my head from, inputs and clear out the everyday shyte.

[Fr JackParticipant 926]

I thought I would get lonely, but I am not. loneliness is lying next to someone you love, just hoping for some sort of intimacy, or at least recognition that you are man and wife, and receiving nothing but coldness and indifference.

[JVBParticipant]

I never get lonely. But I’m thinking maybe that’s part of the reason why none of my relations~~~s ever really worked. Women likely sensed that I didn’t need them.

Yes sir indeed. I think you just summed up all my failed relationships.

Peace is > piece.

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

No. Even though I am alone, I am never lonely.

In my 20s, I was conditioned to believe that I was lonely and that being alone and lonely were one and the same.

However, thanks to the life lessons I have experienced, I am free from that conditioning.

I also find that it’s easier to find peace when you can escape the collective mindset of people who want to shame you when, in reality, they want to make you feel miserable like them.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2096]

Yes I do and then remind myself how much worse a woman can make you feel. I’m more of an extrovert than introvert so like being around people but I think existential loneliness is remnants of blue pill programming, which runs deep.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[Anonymous 38]

Did Morpheus or Neo get lonely?

“Loneliness”, as some kind of continuing pain and not merely a transient state, is for women and blue pillers. It’s for people who don’t know what to do by themselves.

Being alone is very natural to a man. Yes, we also evolved to yearn for a family of our own, but I’d argue we’ve evolved past that now, at least psychologically. We know it’s not worth it, so we’re doing what men do best – which is to carve out a good life from the environment we are in.

[narwhalParticipant]

I get bored, I don’t get lonely. There certainly have been times in my life where I’ve been lonely, but not in the past several years.

I think in order for someone to feel lonely you have to first be conditioned to being around people often. As if your common state is being around people or a particular person. When people are a particular person is removed, then that’s when you feel loneliness.

When I was married, my common state was to never be alone. So when I was separated, I felt heavy loneliness. It was not what I was used to and comfortable with. Even though I didn’t not what all the drama and such, I did miss her.

Now, my common state is by myself, so there is no sense of loneliness. AI actually will feel stress from being around people too much sometimes, and need everyone to just go away. Even with my kids, that I spend much time with, I tend not to miss them when they are gone, and am ready for them to leave after a couple days.

I have been more social these days, and can somewhat feel myself shifting back a bit. It’s entirely possible where I am again at a point where being around others feels more common than being alone.

Ok. Then do it.

[Johndom999Participant 376]

I’d rather live by myself then wish I did.

[ManBearPigParticipant 103]

I LOVE my solitude, but the honest answer? Yes, sometimes I get lonely. The thing is, though, is I get lonely for selfish purposes, and I know it. For example, sometimes it would be nice to have someone around that could walk the dog, or cook for me, or help me move a piece of furniture, or go the the fireworks show with, or catch a baseball game with, etc.

But you know what? Almost as soon as I feel that loneliness, I remember that it’s just not worth it.

– I love walking my dog. Sure, sometimes it’s a minor inconvenience, but in the grand scheme of things, I’d rather just walk him when I don’t want to sometimes than have to deal with the blue pill B.S. There are also professional dog walkers and even dog daycares that are much cheaper than women cost.

– With the money I save by not having an expensive relationship, I can afford things like my Gobble subscription (pre-made easy to cook healthy meals) or I go out and have a great meal at a restaurant by myself because I can afford it.

– The MAYBE once per year I need furniture moved, I can hire someone for an hour, tip them extremely well, and it doesn’t cost anywhere near even one night of buying drinks for a girlfriend.

– I went to the fireworks show here in San Diego by myself and I got to go when I wanted, sit where I wanted, leave when I wanted, and enjoy it without having to worry about anyone else. What an amazing show this city puts on from 3 barges plus 2 on-shore locations and they are all synchronized. Doesn’t matter if you’re alone, that’s kick ass no matter what.

– I love going to baseball games by myself. In fact, I prefer it. I get there when I want, sit in one spot for a while then go to another spot, grab some food and go to another spot, and basically do whatever I want to do without having to worry about anyone else.

Life is far better alone, but most people hate themselves so much, they need the distraction of someone else around in order to have fun.

So yeah, sometimes I get lonely. But I quickly remember what the trade-off is, I pet my dog, and all is well.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

“I am alone, I am not lonely”

great line from Heat which is one of my favourite ever films

[TheFreeManMGTOWParticipant 119]

I like and love myself. Being on my own feels great. I guess I’m one of the few men who can spend a lot of time alone like this.

[OldBillParticipant]

Jim01 wrote:

great line from Heat which is one of my favourite ever films

Great, great film. Lots of MGTOW “pearls of wisdom” in that one. When Pacino and De Niro meet in that diner the entire conversation is red pilled:

“Don’t let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat…

Wise, wise words.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

I read book where guy made get analogy: “Life is like a symphony. When I’m in company of one person, the symphony plays a lovely tune that is delightful. When I leave the company of that person and am alone, the Symphony doesn’t stop. It continues to play a different melody that is equally delightful. And as I do everything each day, the Symphony plays gorgeous melodies. I do not need any person to be happy, no more than I need the Symphony to keep playing one specific tune to enjoy the entire collection of tunes”

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

[CrowbarParticipant 192]

I’m more lonely now that I’m married than when I was single.

[UniquecornParticipant 48]

Autolite wrote:

Do you ever get lonely?

Years ago, listening to other guys talk about women and relations~~~s, I had to admit to myself that a lot of what they were talking about didn’t really make any sense to me. I couldn’t figure out how some guy would go head-over-heels for some skank just immediately after getting f~~~ed-over by the previous skank. I knew then that I saw things ‘different’ than most other guys and I started to look into psychology to find out why that was.

What I found out was that I was of a very specific personality type that just doesn’t ever feel lonely. I found it interesting that there are others like me, 1% of the population it was claimed.

So no, I never get lonely. Me, and others like me, are actually most comfortable by ourselves. I feel bad for those who do get lonely though. I sometimes feel like I’m a ‘fake’ MGTOW because I didn’t really change the way that I am in becoming MGTOW. For me, being MGTOW and living by myself is actually in accordance with my specific personality type…

Autolite,

May I ask what specific personality type you refer to?

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