Divorced after 8 years, 1 child, taking the high road after her affair.

[letgoandletgodParticipant 37]

narwhal wrote:

She may never realize how horribly she treated you. Doesn’t matter, you can be happy regardless.
Also, it’s great that you are insulating your son from all this. However, there will come a time where he needs to know the truth.

Yes absolutely, I have thought about it before and came to the conclusion that I wouldn’t get any pleasure from seeing her suffer. In fact, despite what happened I would still offer support as a friend if her life came crashing down, I just wouldn’t be there romantically or allow her back into my heart. But you’re right about me being happy regardless of how her life turns out, I have to not focus on her and him and focus on me and my son. I can’t compare myself to her on any level, it would be unhealthy.
I just have to look at my end of things and how I want my life to be and make it happen.
I understand where you’re coming from about the truth, I think everything could come to light one day, how or when or why I don’t know, but I think everything unfolds when it needs to. The wisdom I’ve gained from this experience will definitely help him in the future in many situations.
Hope your kids were able to see what you did for them and how humble you were about it for so long.
Thank you for the input, very meaningful.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Letgoandletgod,

I got your pm but for some reason cannot reply back. So this is my reply.

Take great care of yourself; mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. That is the best way you can take care of your children. Hopefully you have some good men around you to give you support. I’ll try to contact the administrator to see if I can figure out the pm.

BIB

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[letgoandletgodParticipant 37]

Back in Black wrote:

Letgoandletgod,
I got your pm but for some reason cannot reply back. So this is my reply.

Thx brother, I am trying my best to work on all of those areas, will admit I gave up exercising but need to get back on it, I know how much it will benefit me, I just need to get motivated again.

[letgoandletgodParticipant 37]

Well, been doing pretty well lately but something came up that has made me quite sad at the moment. She is planning on moving about 30-40 minutes away from this area. It isn’t going to affect our custody arrangements as her bf is going to be dropping off and picking up my son and he’s staying in the same school as well so it’s going to be their job to bring him down here whenever necessary. I don’t want my son to be further away when he isn’t with me but there isn’t anything I can do to stop it if it isn’t disrupting my time with him.
She is only thinking about herself and the “new” life she is starting, she doesn’t care how it might affect our child and the commuting he will have to be doing all the time. Just hurts to think of the distance there will be.
Can’t do anything but be the best dad possible when he’s with me and hope for the best.
Just trying to accept this change that is going to happen in about 2 months.
Working on taking care of myself and being around good people.
I am doing what I can to ensure I’m ok for my son.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

letgoandletgod wrote:

She is only thinking about herself and the “new” life she is starting, she doesn’t care how it might affect our child and the commuting he will have to be doing all the time.

Yup that sounds like a woman to me. Mine left the state and a good paying job for a better life (as she claims),but in reality she left to find a sucker all while taking the daughter from her father. Kids are ornaments to women not humans.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

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