Distrustful wife

[Western TigerParticipant 20]

I’m angry. I’m angry because you guys are right- women are liars and very distrustful creatures.

So I’ve discovered my wife has been telling me a few untruths recently. I’m rather upset about it, because I never really thought she was a liar. The lies are fairly big- but could be worse. I won’t go into them. Just wanted to blow off some steam really and get some ideas from other chaps on how to move forward.

What do you do when your wife doesn’t trust you?

[BoarParticipant]

Document everything in a place she cannot access. Make plans to leave that she is not aware of. When you go, go suddenly so there is no time for domestic violence charges to magically appear.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Western Tiger wrote:

So I’ve discovered my wife has been telling me a few untruths recently.

AWALTOW
All women Are Like That Or Worse

By the way, let’s face facts: Your lil cupcake wasn’t telling you untruths, She was f~~~ing LYING to you. They ALL lie because they are all self serving. They will consistently put themselves before you, and if they have to lie to do it. Oh well, that’s just part of female nature. Get used to it.

Western Tiger wrote:

What do you do when your wife doesn’t trust you?

You don’t really expect “TRUST” from am “UNTRUSTWORTHY” being, Do You ?????

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Western TigerParticipant 20]

You don’t really expect “TRUST” from am “UNTRUSTWORTHY” being, Do You ?????

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No, just looking how we can limit the damage? Be more elusive, speak fewer words etc?

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Western Tiger wrote:

No, just looking how we can limit the damage? Be more elusive, speak fewer words etc?

“We” can’t limit the damage. You must do what you NEED to do in your unique situation.

“Be more elusive, speak fewer words etc?”

Personally, I find the less I have to talk/interact with her the better off I am. I limit interactions to the best of my ability because there is just nothing worthwhile that comes out of “talking” with her, but this is my situation, and you must find out what YOU need to do. There is no “one size fits all” application.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 0]

Boar wrote:

Document everything in a place she cannot access. Make plans to leave that she is not aware of. When you go, go suddenly so there is no time for domestic violence charges to magically appear.

Boar has the right idea +1 for him.
You already caught her lying to you. That is just the ones you know about. What else is she hiding. You will never trust her again so the entire basis for a relationship is crumbling. She doesn’t deserve you. Get out now. Do not look back!

[Anonymous 0]

Western Tiger wrote:

What do you do when your wife doesn’t trust you?

Consider this quote (author unknown)
The untrustworthy are always mistrustful of others

[Western TigerParticipant 20]

Anonymous wrote:

Western Tiger wrote:

What do you do when your wife doesn’t trust you?

Consider this quote (author unknown)
The untrustworthy are always mistrustful of others

Bang on point, thanks mate.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

It sounds like you’re on the verge of an important realization here but that you’re already trying to apologize for her. The lies “could be worse”. Well sure they could be worse. Everything could be worse. Clinton could have deleted 60,000 emails from her illegal mail server rather than just 30,000 but that wouldn’t make the act any less criminal.

You must hold the people in your lives accountable for their misdeeds. And if the lie was too big for you to forgive, it’s time to move on.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

M52 already nailed it with his quote, but her mistrust of you is either a s~~~ test or the smallest twinge of guilt. Since many women are NPD or BPD, she is trying to cause you a pain to rival hers at being caught.

She is trying to pull you into the liars category because “there is no honor among thieves” so then she can set you up for some really heinous s~~~.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

For every lie you discover there are ten more you are unaware of.

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

This smells “fishy”.

Do you not trust your wife?? Or does she not trust you??

You’ve said both.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[HitmanParticipant]

trust is earned.
when it’s broken so is the relationship.
make an exit plan .
time-bomb is ticking,
get away from the blast zone.
it WILL happen.
get away as soon as possible.

[experiencedParticipant]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

This smells “fishy”.

Do you not trust your wife?? Or does she not trust you??

You’ve said both.

Thank you for the “catch”.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Old RottweilerParticipant 1520]

If she has been lying to you and the lies are “fairly big” the relations~~~ is over.

I had one leave me in 24 hours. From the time we argued to when she hit the door, 24 hours. She had been planning for months, there was no negotiation or fairness on her part.

Would you want a close friend who told you “fairly big” lies?

Plan accordingly.

[nonconformistParticipant 182]

Once the sacred bond of trust is broken it can never be recovered you will be forever mistrustfull of her….

Take it from someone who tried to recover it for 3 years only to find chad lurking in the shadows.

[JVBParticipant]

nonconformist wrote:

Once the sacred bond of trust is broken it can never be recovered you will be forever mistrustfull of her….

Nailed it!!

Peace is > piece.

[narwhalParticipant]

Western Tiger wrote:

No, just looking how we can limit the damage? Be more elusive, speak fewer words etc?

Damage from her lies or from her distrust of you? Well, I suppose they really are the same.

If damage from her lies, depending on the nature of those lies and whether you intend to stay married, I would give her conditions she needs to meet in order to meet your trust. That could mean no social media for her, or giving you access to her accounts. It could mean no going out with friends, or checking in with you regularly. She needs to go through a period where she doesn’t have your truth and earn it back if possible. Without knowing the nature of the lies though, hard to say.

As far as her distrust of her, let her know that it’s BS and not your problem if she can’t trust you. You’ve given her no reason (as far as I know) and you have no need to try and earn her trust. So if you say you’re hanging out with friends and she doesn’t believe you, you go any way and she can wallow in her doubt. And if she gives you s~~~ about it, you walk.

I suppose you could feed her distrust and don’t go anywhere she doesn’t want you too, but you’ve sacrificed your freedom for her issues. I say, take the damage and deal with it.

If you’re beyond caring, then ready your divorce plans.

Ok. Then do it.

[FreedomParticipant 965]

Once the trust is broken, you’ll never get it back.

Plan your escape. Build up your assets before they get stolen.

She cheated on me ..... my fault. I showed an interest in another woman......my fault.

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

So she lies to you and your worried about loosing her trust? Why do you give a rats ass about her trust, she should be worried about loosing yours.

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

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