Dealing with Female Family Members

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

How do you do it?

I have one sister, who is for all intents and purposes, the only family I have left. I love her. I also love my nephew and nieces to PIECES – they are adorable. But, I have had difficulties dealing with my sister in the past.

I grew up thinking women could do no wrong, especially my sister. Then as I became of age, I realized not only the true nature of women, but also my sister.

She herself would tell me first hand (red pill bombs) such as –

“I CAN’T express (positive) emotions!”

She can’t “give“, as it were. Only negative criticisms. Nothing positive.

She literally can’t give a compliment, even to her husband. She acts as though it’s an impossibility for her to do. But, a negative criticism? No problem!

I recall countless times growing up telling her she looked so beautiful, etc. She NEVER could say anything positive; let alone a simple “I’m sorry” for something she did wrong.

Nothing close to nurturing, or even caring. Only criticism of the highest degree.

Couple this with the obvious lack of any sense of empathy, let alone sympathy, and any sense of responsibility and you have the EXACT same conclusion we all have –

F~~~ off!

So now, I really regret wanting to deal with my sibling. How can ANYONE have a rational relationship with such an irrational creature?

I have much more to say on this topic, but don’t want to make my initial post too long.

How do you guys deal with female family members?

Resident cynic.

[foolsgoldParticipant 5643]

My sister is the only woman left in my life. She married a total simp and has had his b~~~~ in her purse for three decades. She has told me more than once that she could never be married to someone like me. I told her that the reason was that there was noway in hell I would let her control me like she does her husband. She didn’t have an answer for that. I love her to death but AWALT.

[DocParticipant]

I got 3 sisters I usually ignore.
I ignore my mother.

I have a young daughter but she don’t come into the same equation.

Keeps it simple.
As a rule of thumb I try to ignore morse people outside of work.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[JuehueParticipant 1316]

I treat my mom and my sister like I treat my niece.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

foolsgold wrote:

She has told me more than once that she could never be married to someone like me

It’s simply amazing what women will say.

This married chick I was having sex with (<—-I know, that’s terrible, but she seduced the FU$K out of me when I was at my weakest and my mother passed away) told me:

“I couldn’t cheat on you if YOU were my husband!” Because she knew I would find out if she had.

My immediate (thought) reaction was – ‘is THIS her criteria for a husband?’

It seemingly was.

Resident cynic.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

I obviously still love my sister. I want to get a long with her, and I want to be a part of my nephew and nieces lives; but I don’t want to have to put up with the BS.

Above all, I want reciprocity. Women can’t comprehend the term, yet alone apply it.

Resident cynic.

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Juehue wrote:

I treat my mom and my sister like I treat my niece.

I treat all women I have to deal with in public like little sisters – “Oh, how CUTE: baby needs attention huh?” <—pats on head.

Actually, next time a chick throws an emotional temper tantrum if I’m out at the pub or what not, I’m going to smear and say –

“Does cupcake need a nap or a snack?” LOL

Resident cynic.

[DocParticipant]

My mother once told my ex wife – ‘I understsnd why you want to leave him’. WTF WTFFFFF

My ex even said she thought what my mother said was cruel.

And my mother wonders why I don’t speak to her.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[DocParticipant]

The simplest rule of thumb is to expect them to bite like a viper. So when near them just keep your guard up completely. Say whatever has to be said to keep you safe.

Long ago I was a fool who thought you could beat a narcissist until I realised a narcissist is like a viper. You just ain’t gonna win so get the hell out of there. Leave them go fight someone else.
You will never ever win.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[Ever5Participant 1008]

Yeah, I’m in the same boat. I don’t have anything to do with family. It’s a very tough call to make and anyone who makes that call is going to go through some suffering. In the end though, it gets a lot better.

This reality is a strange place. Personally I believe in eternal existence, so the family we currently have is just a small piece and I think many lessons take place in family. Probably some of the most difficult lessons.

I try to look at reality in the nature of laws to help me make decisions. Family can be a big help or be a big trap, for many, I believe it’s a big trap, especially those seeking truth and understanding.

Consent makes the law(the reality).

If I consent to being abused then I consent to being abused… think about that for a moment.

My family was quite narcistic, a lot of toxicity, a lot of lying, and it made my life quite difficult. But I loved them and so I’d put up with it, I’d consent to the bs.

That in turn had an effect on the rest of my relationships.

Learning how to see my own family members, get out of the denial is what it took for me to stop being blind to other people. I had to choose to walk away, to no longer consent to it.

It wasn’t overnight, it was a long process and to be honest, probably one in still going through. However, I’m so far ahead of where I used to be. Happier as well.

The whole thing for me was to stop giving away my power. Self sacrifice is the thing toxic people will use against you. And when you don’t sacrifice yourself they will scorn you. That is not love.

The problem is if you grew up in that type of an environment, you’ve been conditioned since birth to self sacrifice, always forgive and deny reality, and many other very very unhealthy and detrimental behaviors and thinking processes.

To overcome that will be a very difficult task. But it can be done.

Truth has no place to live in the mind of a woman.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22507]

Young daughter: she isnt under the same equation, yet. Once a woman, awalt. It isnt anything personal, its what all women do, to varying degree.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Bloody HeartlandParticipant 693]

I’ve definitely seen it more with my family since getting red pilled. Had always been more of a momma’s boy, but these days it’s very difficult to put up with her nonsense, I think in part perhaps because she’s getting old and forgetful, but also that she has to always find something to get upset about even if it’s the same exact thing every day. Offer up a solution or try to fixit myself, it’s as if she doesn’t want it actually fixed.

"I have the fury of my own momentum." "With this ring I thee wed. Fire walk with me."

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

I too have a nightmare sister. She has made poor choices in her life, which she naturally blames everybody else for, and she pretends to be ‘haaaaappppyy’, but she triggers real easy. Since her divorce, she turned in to a jeykyll-and-hyde creature. Talking to her is like treading on egg-shells. Now that she lives away from me, I have little contact with her, mainly on text-messaging. The rest of the family know what she is like and what she has really done/said, which has damaged the family unit beyond repair. I call-out my other family members on my sister’s previous behaviour/choices, when they attempt to ignore these truths and pretend that my sister is ‘normal’. I just try to keep things neutral with my sister now, because whenever I have advised her, helped her, and called her out on her s~~~ in the past, so that she could make her life better, she just ignored whatever I said, did not truly appreciate whatever I did for her, threw things back in my face, twisted things around in her mind and blamed everyone else (including me) for her own failings, and when it comes down to it, she does not respect me or my advise. I don’t need a person like my sister in my life, but unfortunately she is my sister… and she has a male child (my nephew), who I hardly get to see nowadays. I’m lucky if I get to see my nephew twice in a year. I feel really sorry for my little nephew, poor chap, having a nightmare mother like my sister, he is such a great little guy too, and he has been through a lot of up-heaval in his life already. But, my nephew works things out in his head, he is intelligent like me, and he does actually know (since his was aged 9) that his mother is a useless nightmare and that she only really wants to be with some ass-hole bloke so that said ass-hole bloke can support her, because she is too lazy to bother supporting herself properly, let alone supporting my nephew properly aswell. So, I leave my sister get on with her nightmare lazy toxic state-benefit-supported life, and I send my nephew stuff on his birthday/at Christmas, and I enquire about him and talk to him whenever little I do get to see him. Women are so lazy and toxic nowadays… I just didn’t think that my ‘nice’ sister would turn in to a woman like that (she used to be slim and moderately pretty, but she is a land-whale now), but society lets them be like that and financially supports them in that kind of life-style. So, I distance myself from my sister and her toxic life, because I value myself… I get on fine with my parents, but my mother does get affected by the ‘grand-child hormones’ every now-and-then, because my sister uses my nephew like a tool/weapon, to try and manipulate my mother to get her own way in things (and generally succeeds, but they know that I am not happy with my mother allowing my sister to manipulate her, just so that she can get to see her own grand-child; my mother is not strong enough to call my sister out on that s~~~ and she keeps nagging-away at my father about not seeing her grand-child enough, when she should be directing her anger/nagging at my sister). It just all goes to show me how calculating/manipulating women really are, even against each other, even within the same family unit. My Dad is a great, very intelligent, nice guy (like myself), who has to escape to his garage, in order to remove himself from all of the estrogen-fuelled s~~~ around him…

[TwistParticipant]

Ancientwisdom wrote:

Above all, I want reciprocity.

All about managing your expectations. I tried for years to get my dog to speak. He was so close – we had some fun with it. But it was a failure. I still loved him, and him, me.

Bloody Heartland wrote:

she has to always find something to get upset about even if it’s the same exact thing every day. Offer up a solution or try to fixit myself, it’s as if she doesn’t want it actually fixed.

This never gets old for me:

[Anonymous 1]

Cut all the toxic people out of your life. I cut my Aunt out completely after she sided was ex on breakup. no contact. poof gone.

didn’t even leave the empty chair.

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

Twist wrote:

This never gets old for me:

This is exactly it, the way it is dealing with women. Men use logic, women use emotions, to explain/understand things. I can’t be bothered with female attention-seeking/melo-drama/bull-s~~~.

Anonymous wrote:

Cut all the toxic people out of your life.

This is a fundamental to personal peace/tranquility.

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

I have a buddy that is not MGTOW but he has been going his own bipolar way for awhile. LOL

He’s 39 years old. Two degrees, has not had a real job in a decade. Lives rent free at his parent’s house and drives for Lyft one day a week.

He can’t deal with his mother.

When I stopped by last month, he saw me when he opened the door, then yelled at his mom in the kitchen ‘Mom!! Two mango smoothies, ASAP!’ And let me know they would be ready in a few minutes.

We hung out and he talked about how the Bildeburg Group has been controlling his life. Then yelled at his mom and said ‘Im going to have to start calling you Dad’s Slut. Because you only married him so you wouldn’t have to work’

Then when she brought us some carrot cake she had made, he made sure she was listening and he told me ‘Look. Im the byproduct of marital rape. My parents were married for five years before I was born. My mom was afraid of my dad’s penis. But when they talked to the pastor at their church about the situation, the pastor told my dad, the Lord wants you to procreate. Just get it in and his mother looked upset when she walked back to the kitchen.

He then reminded her off his previous offer last year which was that he will go away and leave his parents alone if they cut him a check for $200,000 from their retirement funds.

She ignored him then yelled that she was going to call his dad then he yelled ,’Get some water & vinegar and clean it out because I can’t take it anymore.’

Then he wanted to roll and I agreed to drive. When we were walking out through the living room he yelled at her ‘Go ahead and have dad find another group of well hung Somalian refugee guys on Craigslist to come over and service you again while he watches. I know how much it helps your relationship with him.’

And he looked at me and said ‘Come on, let’s bail.’

His 71 year old mother was standing in the kitchen crying.

That just how my bipolar buddy deals with his mom.

[DocParticipant]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

Young daughter: she isnt under the same equation, yet. Once a woman, awalt. It isnt anything personal, its what all women do, to varying degree.

I agree but I remain hopeful I can alter her mindset. She has two older brothers. Fingers crossed.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[StealthParticipant 5329]

Doc wrote:

My mother once told my ex wife – ‘I understsnd why you want to leave him’. WTF WTFFFFF

My ex even said she thought what my mother said was cruel.

And my mother wonders why I don’t speak to her.

Same situation here.

No contact for both.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I have a mother, sister and niece.

My mother is a very strong woman and the one my sister and her daughter mimic as closely as possible. They are lying, deceitful, manipulative, overbearing, matriarchal, doesn’t give a s~~~ about others and is proud of it because after all she’s 86 now and can be a sexist racist if she pleases. She is a woman and old…double points.

My sister is just like this excepts knows that something went wrong and knows I’m onto something but hates the result of my thinking which is obvious and no small difference than previous generations of bachelors, I simply hate marriage and will tell her daughter and her son not to do it.

They are in their late 20’s and are getting married along with all of their friends.

It’s a trap, don’t pull that CLABlUWE! 70% of the men are dead men walking. The other 29% will live in eternity of self imposed hell.

The top 1% are here already.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

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