Damn, ran into ex after 90ish days…old feelings abound…help?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Good advice here. Especially the hard stuff.

Hooking up with married is capital B…..A…….D. And hooking up with MOM is already a don’t. Too many horny unmarried women to bang another man’s bride — regardless of anything else. Why even let a woman have her cake and eat it too? It’s not even because you can’t bang whoever you want, it’s because she’s MARRIED. It’s like joyriding around in a another man’s car.

It’s the anti-NIKE. “Just don’t do it”. You don’t even need to rationalize any other way. Don’t bang married women. Make it policy. She has an affair ……and gets who gets to pay for it? HIM. Don’t do that to other men.

You’re talking about your “feelings” but they take a back seat. If it were a mistake and it happened one time…. .. OK. Other guys would give you a break here, but you’re talking about her and concerning yourself with details, logistics and “feelings” — as if she’s not even married.

Women already waltz through life with license to behave like there are no consequences for ANYTHING. Why encourage it!

Her friends?

“K really loves you, she misses you so much”.

….. like it’s YOUR responsibility to running after her married friend??

“Are you listening to yourselves? What are you even doing encouraging this? “.

It’s not your role to fuel her drama circle and give women s~~~ to gossip about.

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I won’t even CALL or initiate communication with a married woman. They do it with me, but that’s not MY wrong-doing.. Even if we had a history, the day she got married = done. She’s out of the market. I don’t even permit inside jokes we used to share. When I bump into her, the conversation is “Hey. How’s it going. Looks like rain. Gosh look at the time. I’m late for a thing. Take care.”

There is no other way to handle it.

Women want to get married and have babies so badly? Fine. be a mother and be a wife. The end.

You know why women encourage this? So they can call you Justin. “Justin Case”. That’s your new name. She keeps you in the wings “Justin Case” it doesn’t work out. “Justin Case” she feels like getting a divorce. “Justin Case” she needs a date on national holidays. “Justin Case” she gets fat.

Never be that guy.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Keymaster wrote:

I won’t even CALL or initiate communication with a married woman. They do it with me, but that’s not MY wrong-doing.

When this happens to me, I’ll briefly ask about her husband/kid(s), NEVER anything about her.

When she realizes a conversation with me isn’t going to be “all about her”, she will stop making contact.

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

You are looking at this the wrong way mate.
A)You are letting your feelings dictate your judgement (btw, feelings is your subconscious controlling you).
B)You are not missing HER, you are missing the good times, and those can be had with other as well, especially if they are worth it.
C)What would you advice yourself if you could see it from aside? Best way to test this: Write down in a piece of paper all you can then wait one day, then read it.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

CatsPaw wrote:

You are looking at this the wrong way mate.
A)You are letting your feelings dictate your judgement (btw, feelings is your subconscious controlling you).
B)You are not missing HER, you are missing the good times, and those can be had with other as well, especially if they are worth it.
C)What would you advice yourself if you could see it from aside? Best way to test this: Write down in a piece of paper all you can then wait one day, then read it.

Oh yeah, from the outside I’d be super hard on someone ‘just leave man, you can find someone new’ ‘she lied about being married, goodbye’ sort of thing, unfortunately the emotions are blinding me.

Sounds pathetic but I can see a desperation for a friend, and for what its worth I feel like we are open with each other.

Are illicit things like this stepped in intensity because its wrong/forbidden?

[HeadstrongParticipant 84]

I red the first part and some more.
My response is this.

she called for reinforcements ie her friend, and the reinforcements will be present helping observing/administering your relation and its concerns til the end, and your end is at 6 feet under (i think it is unfair and on cost of your person yet just and caring from their/her perspective). What i actually mean is that youll get to be consumed by her and leave you dry for her if you keep it up with her. She probably has a nice neatly knit little plot going on in the depths of her inner self coming from a catastrophy relation a few years back. I do not know by fact but most people are up to one thing or the other when relations is about, never something which does not exist. Dont be blind brother and especially do not wish to believe something but measure and estemate, doing one thing at a time, you know that thing that only men can do 😉

Follow your dreams and wishes, since it’s not for nothing they’re present in your mind, speaking out of experience id say you go for it a hundred f~~~ing percent, head over heels like a bat out of hell and you will see youve not only moved a mountain but modified several ones. You will ask yourself WHY am i doing this but never give up and just be tenacious as a hungry bulldog even if youre not sure about your choice. your answer will be with you when all is done. It will be a bumpy ride but youll be happy.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

LightBringer wrote:

This woman was someone I got involved with and had I kept my emotions out of it probably would have been ok, we hooked up about 1/month, it was hot and that was that but both of us started getting way too attached (she has kids, I dont). I realized I was being destroyed, a lot by her but I also admit a lot of it was my own neediness/depression. She is married but supposedly in sexless/open marriage that is just for the kids.

I didn’t stop here, but I may as well have should have. Dude WHAT THE F~~~ IS WRONG WITH YOU? Read that last sentence again. Those kids are going to blame you when they are older. Get the f~~~ out now.

1. She is married. She needs to NOT BE MARRIED. Don’t tell her s~~~ though just bail.

2. She is still a landmine. You are letting your dick and emotions convincing you to f~~~ a landmine. It may not blow now, but it will f~~~ing blow if you keep f~~~ing with it.

3. Why are you claiming to be f~~~ing MGTOW? This is beta, simp, and mangina behavior. I’m being harsh, but wake the f~~~ up.

[smoque2Participant 3]

If she’ll cheat on the man she swore before man and god to cherish she’ll have no problem doing that to you……I don’t care how hot she is….go online watch some porn and then jerk off and go about your day

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

Ask yourself do you honestly think she’d still give you a chance if you had cheated on her?

[Duke of MangafParticipant 69]

Seriously man, you are f~~~ing another guys wife. What the f~~~ is wrong is you? We sing songs songs about you. I cant say F~~~ You enough times. Jody boy.

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

My friend, a man cant have female friends.
Women put you in the friend zone so they can use you later.

Just break all contact with that crazy witch.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

If it’s a JOB you’re upset about, something in YOUR professional life that makes you feel like you are not doing what you should or could be doing, I’d deal with that. It doesn’t need her involvement in any way. Her having a job doing what you wish you were doing is as unrelated as if some dude down the street had that job. I would try real hard to separate the two, her and the job.
As to playing with the married lady, if you want to bang your head against that tree trunk I can’t really help you, but I think you probably deserve better than that.

"I am is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that I do is the longest sentence?" - George Carlin

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Hey men, surprised to see this bumped. Anyway that story is gone, she won’t be coming back. Wish I could act more badass, but it was way more painful than it should have been because emotions get involved. Its crazy how free sex can make a lot of things seem like a good idea.

[SuperPranxParticipant 25]

Once you realize that feelings are just chemistry and objectively think about it, you’ll come to realize that you can rise above all of that. Once you see your emotions for what they really are you will be able to get them under control. I’ve found that self-reflection helps profoundly when trying to deal with these kinds of situations. Emotions come and go. Pick out those emotions related to her, be their silent observer and don’t grab a hold of them. Detach and let them float away. A bit of mindfulness can go a long way 🙂

[CatsPawParticipant 423]

You might want to remember that those feelings is just your subconscious screwing you over to get laid.

Here is a tip: you can have “feelings” for anyone you choose as long as you want to get them to bed, best option, look for anything where you will spend a good amount of females… just remember, they are all dangerous, keep your guard up.

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

You can have any woman you want on the internet or you can hire a woman to leave after the sex.

Why buy a boat and spend a lot of time and maintenance on it when you can just rent one?

F~~~ing this ^^^^^^

That woman is averse to honoring a marriage , there is no way that I’d ever give her anything more than wham bam thank you maam….and since you already did that keep moving bro. There are too many women out there regardless of your age group. As for companionship , get a dog….they are the only creatures on earth that will love you unconditionally.

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