CONFIDENCE – cure for social anxiety I rediscovered

[alchemistParticipant 484]

I’m so glad I came back to get a refresher.

I suffer with social anxiety so usually I’d feel pretty bad when more than half a dozen hot girls get on my train carriage, dressed in revealing outfits and skirts so short I saw their underwear without even trying.

But this time was different.

I can’t put my finger on exactly what it was, and I want you guys to help me figure out the mindset shift I had here, to better help our brothers here with the same problems.

Because that’s what it was, a deep paradigm shift.

Had I simply ruled them out now? but what had changed inside from before? Was I previously thinking that maybe I had to try and woo them? maybe I cared about what they thought of me? maybe I was afraid I was going to try and get involved, knowing on some deep level I was putting my heart on the butcheress’s block? What do you think it was?

I know one thing though, this deep paradigm shift completely erased my social anxiety. I didn’t look at them the same because I wasn’t afraid anymore. I knew if they said anything to me, I was ready. I would annihilate them in the politest way possible. I would drop truth bombs left right and centre, if I saw their bulls~~~- I’d call them out. They had no power over me anymore. That’s what I’d do but what the f~~~ changed inside my mind?

[bladeParticipant]

alchemist wrote:

maybe I cared about what they thought of me?

Probably this bro . Been a pussy pig and just wanting ya head in there trough 24/7 you were looking in on yourself to much .

Next time your out look around at some of these young guys all f~~ged up smotherd in perfume because they think it will score them pussy .

See lurkers pussy even f~~~s the brain and not just your c~~~ .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 1]

Zero F~~~s.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

^in reply to both above. I’ve been thinking about this a bit today.

Yeah it’s some combination of the two; shifting to zero f~~~s, but how did that happen? On top of that, yes, I definitely was looking “out” at them more than “in” at myself.

This is possibly the key …

I think the confidence may arise out of having a good knowledge of who you’re dealing with and what is about to go down (often vapid, emotionally unstable, gold diggers and bullies who will, lie, make veiled insults, humiliate you for fun and toy with you when you try to “woo” them) AND a knowledge of how to deal with them and what to do (a polite “No” is the only option and answer to their advances untill you’ve thoroughly examined and definitively found a unicorn, who probably wouldn’t be out dressed like that anyway).

Also rather than thinking too much, just live in the moment, be present, and examine what they’re really saying; Don’t let any of their bulls~~~ slide. Answer questions with questions.

e.g.
Why do you have such a big mustache?

Cos I like it, why do you have one too?
(wrekt, [air horns])

or even…
Do you actually give a s~~~ or are you just trying to find a vulnerability to exploit for your own sadistic amusement?

“why do you have ____ ?” when said with a tone of contempt rather than genuine curiosity, is a classic thinly veiled negative judgment or it is often an attempt to find an insecurity they can exploit.

So, to conclude, it’s also very important to be aware of ANYONE’s ulterior motives and underlying attempts at manipulation, emotional projection and downright abuse often hidden behind their seemingly innocuous words. Don’t get lured down the rabbit hole, call them out when they start to f~~~ around with you.

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[Anonymous 3]

I’ve always found it funny that when a man sees an attractive woman, he always automatically assumes she is single and has been waiting all her life for him. The men if they talk to her are outright surprised that she has a boyfriend, even a husband, and might not want to hop on his dick. Many of these men are openly offended that she wouldn’t insist on having sex with him, boyfriend or not.

In my lifetime, I’ve met only three single, attractive, young women. I believe I met them all at parties I was invited to, these girls all approached me and began speaking to me, they were alone probably for all of 15 minutes, a day or two tops, and probably were lying about being single anyway. Even then the biggest reason I knew of their interest wasn’t in anything they said, but because they had made inquiries towards me, which were then relayed to me.

Attractive young women are just never single. If they are, they have serious mental problems that drive all rational men away from them. This has been true for decades, and if it’s becoming less true in today’s world it’s only because more and more women are so toxic that rational men want nothing to do with them, not some other change. You will not find your unicorn.

And once you understand this, and especially if you’ve gotten that pressure of having sex and being “good” at it out of the way, eventually at some point you need more than just sex from a young attractive woman, not that the vast majority of men are able to even get that much when they desire it on demand. And you either have enough experience to understand that only a young virgin can possibly pair bond and have any shot at becoming a mother to your children, or you gain that knowledge through observation, or you realize even that is a long shot, and you stop caring.

Women are not for the most part ever worth bothering with. The irony is that the more you understand that, and the less you care, you will get far more attention from females than you could possibly ever want, as they seem to be able to sense that and then demand attention, like an unruly child from a busy parent.

[alchemistParticipant 484]

Anonymous wrote:

You will not find your unicorn.

We will see.

You must live in a very different social climate to me, because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

By the way, I made no assumptions regarding their preference towards me or availability, don’t mistake me for one of those men 😛

The prospect of interacting with anyone was anxiety inducing to me, especially attractive women. Maybe because I was not aware, only subconsciously aware, of the danger I was putting myself in.

[Anonymous 3]

alchemist wrote:

phoenix wrote:

You will not find your unicorn.

We will see.

You must live in a very different social climate to me, because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

I live in the West, like most of the men on this website. But even if I didn’t, if you actually believe in a unicorn, you’re obviously blue pill and not ready to be an MGTOW. One of the core principles of being red pill is understanding AWALT.

The only way young, attractive women will be single is if it’s an environment where there is no dating, but only arranged marriages and the like.

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

alchemist wrote:

because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

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[alchemistParticipant 484]

Anonymous wrote:

you’re obviously blue pill and not ready to be an MGTOW. One of the core principles of being red pill is understanding AWALT.

I’m actually insulted by that, you don’t f~~~ing know me. I could “rEd PiLl” you into the f~~~ing grave, don’t presume anything about me. You think I’m blue pill because I think “not all women are like that”? Well I think the AWALT attitude is the second blue pill. How f~~~ing close minded are you to think ALL women are the same? That’s just as bad as the feminists who think all men are rapists.
If you seriously believe “AWALT” you are the same problem from the other side. Get REALLY red pilled. Look at why you want to believe that. Doesn’t it make your own bad relationship choices seem easier if it was all out of your control? If the game was stacked against you and there was no possible way to win because all women are like that! doesn’t that feel better?
It’s the same responsibility avoidance and but from the other side. Let go of your jaded attitude and attempts to blame other people for your own failures of judgment.
You don’t like it? The truth doesn’t care weather you like it or not. I’m done talking to you.

Joey Alfio wrote:

alchemist wrote:

because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

Yeah, by that I mean more than the three this guy says he has met. Different social environments.

You know what, I’m out.

I’m trying to provide some help for people to get over their social anxiety with this thread, this^ is not it.

[Anonymous 6]

Jim Beam helps too.

[QuellParticipant 2538]

My opinion to you is to listen to a senior member like Phoenix instead of acting defensive. There is wisdom in his message.

If you believe so highly in your newly found self confidence then why are you even on these boards? To brag??

Go ahead and prove us all wrong that NAWALT. Have a nice trip out there in PUA land my friend. We will be right here when you down on your luck again.

[Anonymous 3]

Quell wrote:

My opinion to you is to listen to a senior member like Phoenix instead of acting defensive. There is wisdom in his message.

If you believe so highly in your newly found self confidence then why are you even on these boards? To brag??

Go ahead and prove us all wrong that NAWALT. Have a nice trip out there in PUA land my friend. We will be right here when you down on your luck again.

I like how it’s an introvert with social anxiety telling me how he’s going to school me. WTF does he even think he’s going to do? Beg me to come over to his house so he can hide inside while yelling abuse at me through the door?

[Anonymous 6]

alchemist wrote:

phoenix wrote:

You will not find your unicorn.

We will see.

You must live in a very different social climate to me, because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

By the way, I made no assumptions regarding their preference towards me or availability, don’t mistake me for one of those men

The prospect of interacting with anyone was anxiety inducing to me, especially attractive women. Maybe because I was not aware, only subconsciously aware, of the danger I was putting myself in.

Good luck to you. This website isn’t about dick measuring contests. Nor is it about preaching the NAWALT BS game that you’ve thrown. If you think that it is then please refamiliurize yourself with the message of this place. Either way we’ll still be here if and when you’ve decided to come back.

[Anonymous 3]

alchemist wrote:

I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

I would question the “single” status, because an introvert (like me) does not have the social network to know s~~~ about them.

Looks have a tendency to disable rational thinking. Beware of the “halo effect.

Get yourself another jolt in self-confidence by imagining how these unicorns will look like after The Wall, fat and wrinkled.

As for WHAT REALLY MATTERS: AWALT

[OldBillParticipant]

Social anxiety is one of the many bulls~~~ “disorders” made up over the last few decades to 1) sell more drugs, 2) bill more therapy hours, 3) absolve parents of their responsibility to help children become adults, and 4) absolve people of their own responsibility to grow up.

Children used to be socialized as a matter of course. They were introduced to new people, new places, and new things as way of teaching them that life is all about new people, new places, and new things.

Children now are taught fear. They’re locked away at home, daycare, and school. They routed from car to bus to lockdown and back like prisoners. They’re alternately smothered and ignored, receiving too much attention or none at all depending on the schedule of the adult instead of the needs of the child. Something as simple as playing with other children must be scheduled and arranged by adults. There’s no spontaneity, no joy, nothing but the schedule and the fear. For all the human interaction they receive, they might as well be one of the 16 bit “pets” the Japanese have on their iPhones.

When I see a someone claiming to have social anxiety, someone having to pop pills, sit in sessions, or carry around their therapy iguana everywhere they go, I know I’m looking at a child in an adult’s body. They’re an incomplete person, partially due to their upbringing and partially due to their own failings.

They should have learned how to say “Hello” and shake someone’s hand in kindergarten. They should have learned that dealing with life means dealing with the unknown. Instead they were swaddled, coddled, and cocooned by well meaning idiots. They then stayed in that cocoon because it was always easier than trying.

“Curing” social anxiety is akin to “curing” wetting your pants. After a certain age you shouldn’t have been worried about either.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[bladeParticipant]

alchemist wrote:

phoenix wrote:
You will not find your unicorn.

We will see.

bro you sound like your on a hunt for the golden vagina .

Do you want a woman .

To me if any problem you have is pussy addiction .

This will not end well

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

AWALT is the truth. YOU don’t like hearing that. You’d like to believe your women are better just because they are in a different environment, but take those exact same women and give them a chance, and they WILL prove you wrong.

If they were really NAWALT, it wouldn’t matter what environment or situation they were placed in, so to think you’ve met NAWALTs just because of the environment is deluded.

The women you’ve briefly met and actually know nothing about are not different. They just haven’t had the opportunity or chance.

alchemist wrote:

Doesn’t it make your own bad relationship choices seem easier if it was all out of your control? If the game was stacked against you and there was no possible way to win because all women are like that! doesn’t that feel better?
It’s the same responsibility avoidance and but from the other side. Let go of your jaded attitude and attempts to blame other people for your own failures of judgment.

You’re doing exactly what blue-pill men do- mix divorce rape and false rape allegations down to “bad decisions” on the MANS part. Women are not held to the same standards that men are. They have the backing of basically EVERYTHING to destroy a mans life- so actually, a NAWALT mindset is even more ludicrous.

Those who truly believe AWALT tend not to make the “failures of judgement” you claim, because we don’t engage at ALL. We don’t put ourselves in that position to start with.

If all men had the AWALT mindset, there would be a LOT less “failed relationships”, a lot less men in jail, a lot less men paying child support for kids that are not theirs, a lot less men being divorce raped, because they wouldn’t have thought the one they married was a NAWALT, and therefore wouldn’t have married her, giving her the ability to screw them.

They would be more protected against false rape allegations and lies, they’d take care to protect themselves and put the utmost care into having proof 24/7- because they wouldn’t have thought “oh she would never do that to me”.

There would be a lot less judges putting men in jail because clearly it’s the mans fault- he’s just trying to shirk responsibly.

Everybody thinks they’ve met a NAWALT until they find out she is not. But then in most cases, it is too late, and that is the point of the act. To rope you in and f~~~ you over. “NAWALTS” are just very good liars.

But, like you, there are men who would fight for NAWALT even if 99% of marriages or relationships ended in divorce or jail- in fact, she doesn’t even have to KNOW you to have you put in jail. And there is no helping that type of man.

are you a chia pet in man drag

[crushhighlanderParticipant 239]

How did it happen?

I once read from a very excellent psychology page that you see some people as superheroes in the sense that they make you feel less powerful in their presence. Now, you stopped seeing them as such and therefore have less anxiety as to how you should behave.

This is the page for anyone who wantst o now more about psychology the non-traditional way.

https://www.2knowmyself.com

No more hassles, no more nonsense, no more drama. Long live MGTOW!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

alchemist wrote:

phoenix wrote:

you’re obviously blue pill and not ready to be an MGTOW. One of the core principles of being red pill is understanding AWALT.

I’m actually insulted by that, you don’t f~~~ing know me. I could “rEd PiLl” you into the f~~~ing grave, don’t presume anything about me. You think I’m blue pill because I think “not all women are like that”? Well I think the AWALT attitude is the second blue pill. How f~~~ing close minded are you to think ALL women are the same? That’s just as bad as the feminists who think all men are rapists.
If you seriously believe “AWALT” you are the same problem from the other side. Get REALLY red pilled. Look at why you want to believe that. Doesn’t it make your own bad relationship choices seem easier if it was all out of your control? If the game was stacked against you and there was no possible way to win because all women are like that! doesn’t that feel better?
It’s the same responsibility avoidance and but from the other side. Let go of your jaded attitude and attempts to blame other people for your own failures of judgment.
You don’t like it? The truth doesn’t care weather you like it or not. I’m done talking to you.

Joey Alfio wrote:

alchemist wrote:

because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

Yeah, by that I mean more than the three this guy says he has met. Different social environments.

You know what, I’m out.

I’m trying to provide some help for people to get over their social anxiety with this thread, this^ is not it.

No need to act like a mangina. We say AWALT or EWALT because ENOUGH of them are like that. Why? Because female nature is inherent. It’s preconditioned behavior. Does that mean ALL women exhibit those behaviors? No. There are SOME unicorns. Just like SOME women go most of their life without exhibiting their basic behaviors in a relationship. Doesn’t mean they won’t. Doesn’t mean the majority don’t. Subsequently. Doesn’t mean there aren’t some dead beats, and douchebag men out there. There are. Men are equally not perfect. Any honest MGTOW will tell you that. Why? Because they can’t defend the behavior of ALL men. He’s calling you blue pill because you’re still exhibiting blue pill behavior and thoughts. That’s not deniable. No need to get mad, and call him out. You have an opportunity to learn from that, and change your behaviors and beliefs. Why? Because you’re still taking red pills. But in the end if you’re going to live like a blue pill, the red pills mean nothing.

If you want to get over social anxiety as it relates to deal with women, when the secret is repetition. You need to get the reps in on conversation, and the reps in on the approach. That’s how you build your self confidence. The more times you do it, the easier it gets. Getting shot down is the biggest anxiety that men have in approaching women. The key is realizing that when you get shot down, NOTHING F~~~ING HAPPENS. So what? You’re still alive. You didn’t get hurt. Anxiety is just your brain using fear to prevent you from taking risks. The fear of failure. It’s a PROTECTION mechanism. Once you understand it and get past it, you can do whatever you f~~~ing want.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

alchemist wrote:

phoenix wrote:

you’re obviously blue pill and not ready to be an MGTOW. One of the core principles of being red pill is understanding AWALT.

I’m actually insulted by that, you don’t f~~~ing know me. I could “rEd PiLl” you into the f~~~ing grave, don’t presume anything about me. You think I’m blue pill because I think “not all women are like that”? Well I think the AWALT attitude is the second blue pill. How f~~~ing close minded are you to think ALL women are the same? That’s just as bad as the feminists who think all men are rapists.
If you seriously believe “AWALT” you are the same problem from the other side. Get REALLY red pilled. Look at why you want to believe that. Doesn’t it make your own bad relationship choices seem easier if it was all out of your control? If the game was stacked against you and there was no possible way to win because all women are like that! doesn’t that feel better?
It’s the same responsibility avoidance and but from the other side. Let go of your jaded attitude and attempts to blame other people for your own failures of judgment.
You don’t like it? The truth doesn’t care weather you like it or not. I’m done talking to you.

Joey Alfio wrote:

alchemist wrote:

because I’ve known plenty of young attractive, single women, and as an introvert with social anxiety I barely get out.

Yeah, by that I mean more than the three this guy says he has met. Different social environments.

You know what, I’m out.

I’m trying to provide some help for people to get over their social anxiety with this thread, this^ is not it.

All women are the same. The difference is, if a man is holding the boundaries for them and they behave themselves, or they go with feminism and their natural biological behavior. The moment you think that some women are different, then you are feeding yourself the blue pill with false hope of something that isn’t even logical.

You cannot get the into the idea that by getting over anxiety that somehow you will charm a women to become something different. This is you thinking that untraveled ground is different, but that is not the case. Women are biologically programmed to behave in this manner, and we should not create disillusioned behavior to create a false reality for ourselves, essentially, creating a blue pill world.

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