Compromised by Divorce Rape

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

For the first time in m life I’ve lost my job. Literally, I have not been without a job since I was 15 years old. In college I worked 2 and 3 jobs.

Once I graduated I put my head down and clawed my way up and have had a lucrative career for the last 20 years.

Well, I tripped up and my previous company (run by a slime bag who tampered with our 401(k)s, was caught screwing me and other guys on commissions, didn’t pay our vendors… the list goes on-and-on) was able to bring suit against me and get me fired from my current job.
(former post in the work forum).

This comes on the heels of my divorce which was final last Fall. The Selfish One in her true petulantly childish style ran up a huge legal bill for me, ruined my beautiful home during the year I moved out (I’m back in the home) and took half of my hard earned retirement.

I am still baffled how our courts can look at a woman’s balance sheet and see that she worked and made good money and never saved a dime and conversely was only a financial drain – and then say, “Oh – let’s give her half of all his s~~~”.

Wish me luck, boys. I haven’t slept in weeks, losing weight and stressed beyond belief. I know I’ll get through it, but this f~~~ing sucks. Had I not lost my ass and accrued that legal debt I’d be OK, but the Selfish One has compromised my finances. F~~~ing Bitch.

I’m trying to keep my chin up, not touch my remaining retirement and land a job. Send some vibes my way. I have some work to do here.

[AwakenedParticipant 35206]

CombatRoll wrote:

I am still baffled how our courts can look at a woman’s balance sheet and see that she worked and made good money and never saved a dime and conversely was only a financial drain – and then say, “Oh – let’s give her half of all his s~~~”……… I haven’t slept in weeks, losing weight and stressed beyond belief. I know I’ll get through it, but this f~~~ing sucks. Had I not lost my ass and accrued that legal debt I’d be OK, but the Selfish One has compromised my finances. F~~~ing Bitch.

CombatRoll wrote:

Well, I tripped up and my previous company (run by a slime bag who tampered with our 401(k)s, was caught screwing me and other guys on commissions, didn’t pay our vendors… the list goes on-and-on) was able to bring suit against me and get me fired from my current job.

Is there ANY WONDER WHY more and more men WALK AWAY DAILY?

The MATRIX has a way of PUNISHING/DESTROYING the Men that build it and maintain it. THIS is a HUGE part of the Obvious Decay that is all around us in this f~~~ed up matrix.

You are in the RIGHT PLACE.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

I wish you the best of luck, bro!

I hope you find work and can keep your home.

While you should be focused on finding a new job, I’d at least consider reporting that SOB to the IRS or other such entities, for the 401k issues.

You have a pro-active enemy that may be a problem in the future.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5118]

I lost my job and marriage within 6 months. It left me completely broke. I serious when I say that I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and always a step away from homelessness. In two more months my income will increase enough to have at least some disposable income, until then I have to agonize over every penny spent.

Sovereignty above all else.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Ranger One wrote:

I wish you the best of luck, bro!
I hope you find work and can keep your home.
While you should be focused on finding a new job, I’d at least consider reporting that SOB to the IRS or other such entities, for the 401k issues.
You have a pro-active enemy that may be a problem in the future.

Thanks – over the years I’ve paid my mortgage down even giving her half the equity my mortgage is less than an apartment payment. So, no risk of that – I could bartend and pay that.

You are correct. My enemy – former boss knows I am a huge threat to their business and he is desperate to keep me out of the market.

I’ve been without a job since Friday – so this is still pretty raw.

Thanks for the well wishes.

[SwimcatParticipant 3599]

CR you still have your most valuable asset, your ability to make money. I always say about divorce, women win in the short run, men win in the long run. If you persist. If you keep working hard. Hang in there brother, it will get better.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Knights Templar Rising wrote:

I lost my job and marriage within 6 months. It left me completely broke. I serious when I say that I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and always a step away from homelessness. In two more months my income will increase enough to have at least some disposable income, until then I have to agonize over every penny spent.

Sorry about that – talk about some s~~~ty stress to live with.

I think my take away is of course never f~~~ing marry again, but the other lesson learned is to live more simply and lower my overall costs of living.

As I get longer in the tooth the material things mean less.

[Duke TogoParticipant 2664]

All the best CombatRoll and Knights Templar Rising. Keep on keeping on and you both will get to your place again.

[Daryll55Participant 2958]

I have worn BOTH of your sets of shoes at different times in my life.
Combat & Knight,…..gut it out BRO’s! A lot of us have been through what you are going through; and though it is not easy, it does build one’s character!
You will both get thru this, MEN know how to persevere.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[HermitParticipant]

Daryll55 wrote:

I have worn BOTH of your sets of shoes at different times in my life. Combat & Knight,…..gut it out BRO’s! A lot of us have been through what you are going through; and though it is not easy, it does build one’s character! You will both get thru this, MEN know how to persevere.

I was going to say something similar as I’ve also been in both of their situations. It isn’t easy and it is stressful and sometimes it takes a long time to recover, but we can and do recover.

Fortunately, the x didn’t get any of my 401K, but I couldn’t afford to start over so I had to dip into it myself and pay huge tax and penalties. I didn’t like having to do that, but thank goodness it was there and I was able to use it to get by while paying off debt.

Hang there fella’s. The rough times are no fun, but they will pass and you will make it through to the good times.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Sorry to hear about all the bulls~~~ you’ve had to endure. I saw your other thread and I was hopeful that your current employer would be more understanding (…and companies wonder why they have trouble hiring and retaining good people…).

If it’s any consolation, I’m seeing a LOT more activity in the want ads for decent jobs than I did even a year ago. I’ve had a couple of HR folks at random companies email me to invite me to apply (not just the usual outside temp agency / recruiting firm “throw it at the wall and see if it sticks” kind of emails).

[BeerParticipant 11832]

CombatRoll wrote:

I am still baffled how our courts can look at a woman’s balance sheet and see that she worked and made good money and never saved a dime and conversely was only a financial drain – and then say, “Oh – let’s give her half of all his s~~~”.

It sucks it works this way…but its not “half of his s~~~” to the judge, its half of both of their s~~~. Sorry to hear about your current situation and I hope things work them self out for you. Hopefully your story can save a few others guys from making the same mistake of getting married. You get no control over her borrowing and spending or if she remains gainfully employed at her pre-marriage level while married, but she has control over the savings on her way out the door. Its bulls~~~.

[MonkParticipant 17047]

CombatRoll wrote:

Thanks – over the years I’ve paid my mortgage down even giving her half the equity my mortgage is less than an apartment payment. So, no risk of that – I could bartend and pay that.

This is the main thing.

Take something modest and low stress – just enough to keep you ticking over financially while you look around. It’s early days.

[Handsome VicParticipant 1613]

Good luck, hopefully you will find something good before too long.

I'm going my own way. Maybe I'll see you there.

[StealthParticipant 5378]

Ditto! I lost my job and marriage at the same time also . . . a serious double-whammy.
It’a been five years of white knuckling it. Forfeited early retirement, and have gone back into turbo mode.
It’s a serious deal.

Ive been recently reflecting on why I was more in love with my own life immediately after divorce vs more recently (5 yrs later). Pretty sure it’s because I’m exhausted after sprinting this hard for so long just to “catch up”.
That idea of catching up … comparing my situation to where I would have been, or to what I actually earned & was stolen from me, has been like pouring salt on the wound. You personally will know where you should have been. Your body remembers all those years you killed yourself to earn twice your current retirement. But you’ve somehow got to let it go. Tell yourself this is the new reality, and as you say time to get to work. It’s a process. I wrote a post here called “learning to die” which is pretty much what is going on. But there’s a new life ahead of you. In my case I started a business based on my previous work, and have had mixed results but generally good. I also got a side job earning minimum wage to fill in the dow; times. Visualize the new you, set some goals to get there, and take it a day at a time.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[StealthParticipant 5378]

As for that house your ex trashed—I spent last year fixing up a house, and it was amazing how what seemed like huge problems simply evaporated with the most basic, consistent attention. It was a good reminder that if you fix a problem, the problem gets fixed… I’ll bet that fixing up that house will become a personal metaphor for the improvements you’ll make in your own life and finances (which your ex also trashed). You’ll look forward to the finishing the next project and make customizations along the way—after all, it’s your space now. It’s symbolic of how THE SELFISH ONE trashed your home, LITERALLY. Be glad she’s gone. You will look back in a year and see how much your life & house have improved now that she’s gone.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Stealth wrote:

As for that house your ex trashed—I spent last year fixing up a house, and it was amazing how what seemed like huge problems simply evaporated with the most basic, consistent attention. It was a good reminder that if you fix a problem, the problem gets fixed… I’ll bet that fixing up that house will become a personal metaphor for the improvements you’ll make in your own life and finances (which your ex also trashed). You’ll look forward to the finishing the next project and make customizations along the way—after all, it’s your space now. It’s symbolic of how THE SELFISH ONE trashed your home, LITERALLY. Be glad she’s gone. You will look back in a year and see how much your life & house have improved now that she’s gone.

DAMMIT – this really uplifted my mood! I have the skills to get it done and just need to start picking things off. As I complete these “fixes” to what the Selfish One f~~~ed up, my home value will trend upward. I’m in a really hot area with great schools. ‘

First things first. I need to land a job quickly.

Thanks for this.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22546]

CombatRoll wrote:

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And while looking for that next job, sign up for unemployment because its there for you in emergencies and you earned it because you paid into other folks all these years. You got fired so you are eligible. Its not just for women.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

Keep at it CombatRoll…You will be fine. You went through the ordeal of the entitled c~~~ for years and this is nothing. Pick yourself up, and follow Stealths advice to fix something up to lift your mood. We create a lot of things with our hands, and you sir have your life to be recreated to what you want to do. Good luck CombatRoll, you can get past this…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

When drug dealer have better job security aspects, you know something is wrong.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

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