Choosing Tailwinds….

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

Good Morning,

Like so many finding this group, I feel like I am coming out of a coma to different world. It’s refreshing, it’s emotional, it’s encouraging.

A little about me, I am in my late 30’s, and twice divorced with two amazing sons. As much as it sounds like a cop-out or an excuse, I was a victim of my upbringing. A man works, supports his wife and kids, has a few defining moments that may or may not be recounted at his funeral, and then….yeah.

I worked a lot, and I worked hard. If my wife wanted a quality of life increase, I said “I can do that”. I realize now that I had no sense of self; that I was dependent on what my wife thought of me in a social sense and I let that define me. I went to grad school to get a better job, to earn more money, to support that requested change in lifestyle. Lo and behold, I find out she cheated on me 3x while I was doing all this FOR US. Of course I had no idea, I was busy in the proverbial salt mines.

Fast forward through a lot of anger, disbelief, and even more therapy to get my head turned around, and here I am. I am still healing, but WAY better off. My relationship with my children is good, and the youngest would much rather be with me than her and her meal-ticket of a spouse (which was affair #3).

Throughout this whole process the one recurring theme was “take care of you”. Admittedly, even in my late 30’s I was scared because I had no idea what that meant. I had to hit bottom in order to come up. I had to die emotionally, see the light, and be told “it’s not your time” in order to be sent back and revived.

Life is OK now. I own my own destiny and am happy being me. I still fight some of those old demons every now and then but places like this help immensely. It’s fantastic to read the similar stories out there and know one is not alone.

I do my own things, now, for me and it’s glorious. For those of you fighting the fight and just now coming up for air, welcome. I look forward to learning from everyone and passing this knowledge onto my sons.

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Welcome aboard. Great intro. Glad to see you’ve already hit bottom and are bouncing back. It’s a great ride from here on out. The view just keeps getting better and better.

Order the good wine

[narrow road travelerParticipant 1680]

Welcome to the bulls~~~ free zone.
Hard truths are revealed here. The truth will make you free though.

The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting. --Sun Tsu

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome aboard. Honored to have you with us. S M W

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 3]

Great intro. Welcome! Your in the right place. I hit a pretty hard bottom before I woke up. Swallowed a lot of Red Pills. Refused to believe my own eyes about what was happening,always thought it was my fault.
I was Mr.Nice Guy & White Knight & got s~~~ on for the first 40 yrs of my life. It took a long time from there to here.
Glad your here.
Stick with the winners.
Stick with MGTOW

[nonameParticipant 746]

Welcome brother.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. - Aristotle
Warrior asked Fear, “How can I defeat you?” Fear replied, “If you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”

[MGTOW@50Participant 225]

Welcome. Enjoyed your intro. Since joining this forum a short time ago I’ve had many ‘a-ha’ moments. I’m betting you will too.

[fixthem_flythemParticipant 89]

It’s already started. This is quickly becoming one of the better parts of my day!

If it floats, flies, or fucks, it is cheaper to rent....

[Anonymous 7]

Hello and welcome home.

[KolaxisParticipant 668]

Welcome aboard. It’s a lot easier to breathe once the smoke clears. Kick back and have a cold one.

Jackie: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.

[Anonymous 2]

Welcome to the Forums. What do you fly? We have a good aviation following here. People who fly em, fix em, and for some strange reason jump out of em. Oh well jumpers need pilots to. Glad life has turned around for you.

[MACHOParticipant]

Welcome to the forums.

fixthem_flythem wrote:

I had no idea what that meant. I had to hit bottom in order to come up. I had to die emotionally, see the light, and be told “it’s not your time” in order to be sent back and revived

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Anonymous 43]

Welcome Brother.

[Anonymous 4]

Welcome aboard it can be a little rough in here but I won’t have any other way.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings FF,

Appreciate your introduction and the replies that it has generated.

I thought I was reading my own autobiography. You are not alone.

Your story, Red Pill descriptions, and lessons learned are good examples for other men.

Nevertheless, as a Heterosexual Man in his thirties, you are not out of the woods yet.

Have you arrived at AWALT?

Here is a test to determine how free you are from the influences of women and where you are on the MGTOW Road:

Are you at a place where a group of women talking sound like a bunch of hen’s clucking or are they “fascinating” to you?

Here is some wisdom that a MGTOW Brother wrote that is sadly buried as a reply in another Post. It should be a discussion topic all by itself and promoted as a tool for fighting the indoctrination of our Great Enemy:

Keymaster wrote:

…It’s actually a requirement to generalize if you want to learn anything in the world…. as long as the generalization is true and accurate.

………… the lowest common denominator –

…….. a rare exception –

………and it’s dishonest to ignore the 99.99% in favor of the 0.01%.

The odd …………… doesn’t cancel the majority out.

Generalizations are essential to learning.

Saying “birds fly” is a true generalization.

They can’t say “it’s not fair to generalize” simply because penguins, and ostriches don’t.

The “you can’t generalize / it’s not fair!” zealots are constantly trying to disprove the actions and behavior of the vast majority by pulling focus to an odd ONE:
“Stop generalizing!”
“I’m not like that!!”
“I know millions of others who are like that, but I’m not like that!!”

……………………….

Where have we seen that before?

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[ZarathustraParticipant 2246]

Great introduction! Welcome!

[DocParticipant]

Welcome my friend.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[No CountryParticipant 759]

Great introduction. Glad you are here with us!

[GregB0Participant]

fixthem_flythem wrote:

, I was a victim of my upbringing. A man works, supports his wife and kids, has a few defining moments that may or may not be recounted at his funeral, and then….yeah.

Many many of were, though it is easier to overcome with the assistance of the MGTOW forum.

I worked a lot, and I worked hard.

Part of your upbringing that can stay as long as it is beneficial for you.

fixthem_flythem wrote:

I do my own things, now, for me and it’s glorious.

Hopefully you will be able to post in future threads. Welcome and enjoy your stay.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

Welcome brother! Lots of things to learn and read here. I’m barely beginning my journey.

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

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