Best friend going through a "breakup"

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

I explain more about their (and our) relationship here

/forums/topic/best-friend-turned-blue-pill-as-phuck/

I am far from celebrating because they’ve broke up and got back together a few f~~~ing times and they always act like it’s final (you know how that goes).  Right now he is in his head about it and is depressed but trying not to show it.  I’ve talked to him about red pill stuff while he was in his relationship (not forcibly) but he obviously wasn’t open to it.  Now he seems a lot more receptive to some of the things i say (how conveinent, but i also know how that goes as well.  Take away the heroin (pussy) from the addict (boyfriend) and he has to go let the fog clear to see the light.

How would you guys suggest me to handle this?  This happened before and he just ended up getting back with her making all of my attempts to help him think straight futile and drained me of my energy.  I want to be supportive but not too indulgent.  As of now, I’ll throw out one-liners or something to think about, but i’m not talking to him about it extensively.  For example, he mentioned how she keeps texting him when he won’t answer, and I said, “funny how the power is in your hands when you don’t care, but it’s in hers when you do”…..or since she is a single mother, I casually told him, “hmm….it seems like she is benefiting from this relationship a lot more than you”.

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

Take him on a vacation overseas where there is no cell phone or internet access. Just two bros bonding. Show him a good time with the local girls there.

When he comes back, he’ll move on automatically.

[Sessna12Participant 119]

Really nothing you can do besides lead the horse to water.

He will only drink once he is ready or his survival depends on it. I have cut ties with guys like this. Dead weight

Sebastian

"We can no more stop him from marrying than we can stop him from making a well researched decision to poke his eyes out with a stick."
-Sidecar

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

Take him on a vacation overseas where there is no cell phone or internet access. Just two bros bonding. Show him a good time with the local girls there. When he comes back, he’ll move on automatically.

Bro, I’m definitely not ballin like that

Sessna12 wrote:

Really nothing you can do besides lead the horse to water. He will only drink once he is ready or his survival depends on it. I have cut ties with guys like this. Dead weight Sebastian

I didn’t think so….

[Executor MaxwellParticipant 591]

If he’s been though a few cycles you might be able to point out that the relationship seems to get worse every time they get back together except for a brief time right at the start when they get back together so she can make sure he doesn’t just run.

Also if he’s in a bunch of photos with a time line social media or something take a look at them,… there is a decent chance you could bring them up and point out how he seems so miserable in the photos when he’s in the relationship lack of smile, dead eyes and such.

In the end it is a “leading an ass to water” scenario you can give him the tools but he’s gonna have to pull himself out.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I went through a similar series of cycles with the longest of my LTRs. I had to wise up on my own. Sessna12’s “horse to water” analogy is a good one.

However, I would not turn up my nose at a chance to spend a month in the low dives of Bangkok if my best friend offered to take me along with him.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

just be a buddy.  take him out for a beer, ball game, strip club to cheer him up.  whatever you guys do for fun.  just be a friend and have fun together.  i bet he misses that and doesn’t even know it.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[MENGINEERParticipant 583]

Agreed with the brocation. Clears your mind.

After my first LTR ended my roommate took me to Reno for a weekend and we had a great time. Had a ONS there with a postal worker out of sheer luck and forgot all about the bitch!

Easiest way to get over an old flame is to get under a new one. Or just bro it out and have fun regardless..

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

uchibenkei wrote:

just be a buddy. take him out for a beer, ball game, strip club to cheer him up. whatever you guys do for fun. just be a friend and have fun together. [b]i bet he misses that and doesn’t even know it. [/b]

what a coincidence, because I missed it too when he got this hell sent of a girlfriend and stopped chillin with me.  But let me stop being bitter.

 

now she is sending him honey the pooh memes and he is talking about going to the bathroom to cry.  I legit want to smack the s~~~ out of him man.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

MENGINEER wrote:

Agreed with the brocation. Clears your mind. After my first LTR ended my roommate took me to Reno for a weekend and we had a great time. Had a ONS there with a postal worker out of sheer luck and forgot all about the bitch![b] Easiest way to get over an old flame is to get under a new one. [/b]Or just bro it out and have fun regardless..

and this is what I fear.  He will find a replacement and have the same blue pill tendencies regardless.  The problem is within him, not the chick.  I hope he doesn’t just latch onto someone else.

[GunslingerParticipant 242]

It sounds like you have been doing everything a bro can do in this case. Sometimes it takes them falling right on their face to figure it out. I was that guy, and have been trying to transition out of it for a couple of months now. I wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for one true friend and this site. Now I see the truths in all women, and what they become after a certain amount of time. Let’s hope your friend eventually realizes this. And if he get’s away from her, keep reinforcing to him that they all are this way, so he doesn’t fall into the same trap.

When divorce was first being brought up, I kept thinking “well there is someone else out there that will appreciate me” but there isn’t. No one will appreciate me, except myself and my closest bros. So keep doing what you are doing, it may be draining on your part, but that’s what true friends do for one another.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

Gunslinger wrote:

It sounds like you have been doing everything a bro can do in this case. Sometimes it takes them falling right on their face to figure it out. I was that guy, and have been trying to transition out of it for a couple of months now. I wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for one true friend and this site. Now I see the truths in all women, and what they become after a certain amount of time. Let’s hope your friend eventually realizes this. And if he get’s away from her, keep reinforcing to him that they all are this way, so he doesn’t fall into the same trap. When divorce was first being brought up, I kept thinking “well there is someone else out there that will appreciate me” but there isn’t. No one will appreciate me, except myself and my closest bros. So keep doing what you are doing, it may be draining on your part, but that’s what true friends do for one another.

he has that severe nawalt syndrome.  I keep trying to tell him but he leans on it so hard whenever i make a point and im just like “oh, ok….so You subscribe to that philosophy”.

[GunslingerParticipant 242]

Oh the NAWALT…yea they all say that. I thought the same about mine as well. First couple of years she played video games with me, loved watching football, sex was amazing, blow jobs for days. Then the closer to our wedding the more it slowed down, outside of football watching. We went through a rough spell after a month into our marriage and decided to work on things. Stuff went back to normal, and then the last year and half it’s went back down hill. She got what she wanted, a grad degree that I basically payed for and allowed her to not work while doing it. Worked my ass off to move us to NYC so she could get a good job. A year later of being up here she’s ready to call it quits…again.

If  only I would have listened to my bro when we had our troubles 3 years ago…smfh. But if he want listen, then just make sure to be there when that grenade goes off. It’s in his lap right now, and it when it blows up he’ll need someone to help put him back together. Like I mentioned before it’ll be tough for you but he will repay you back one day.

[MotivParticipant 441]

I can relate with you on this due to holding up mate thats been split 3 years…he still loves her even tho shes with some else and he would drop everything (which is not alot due to still waiting) if she snapped her fingers…Just be there for him as a mate and keep dropping lines/quotes hoping he will wake the fk up..

Cool story babe now go make me a sandwich

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

So she has been calling and texting him cheap memes and he has been ignoring her…..until now.  He says he “want closure” and is going I meet up with her lol.  Such bulls~~~.  So her persistence got slipped through the cracks of his heart to manipulate him to meet up with him and make him give her. Another chance. He says he is not going to get back with her, but his track record says otherwise.  Bitch broke up with him nine times and he took her back each one.  “Closure” my ass.

 

Its ta already over in my eyes.  They’re already back together. RIP best friend.  I might drink more liquor out than I pour out tonight.

[Dark KenshiParticipant 2132]

BlackPill wrote:

So she has been calling and texting him cheap memes and he has been ignoring her…..until now. He says he “want closure” and is going I meet up with her lol. Such bulls~~~. So her persistence got slipped through the cracks of his heart to manipulate him to meet up with him and make him give her. Another chance. He says he is not going to get back with her, but his track record says otherwise. Bitch broke up with him nine times and he took her back each one. “Closure” my ass. Its ta already over in my eyes. They’re already back together. RIP best friend. I might drink more liquor out than I pour out tonight.

 

She only does that because she wants to ride in another c~~~ for a while…

Try to tell him this, and show it to him… Show that she is a ho, show that when they “broke up”, that she went on riding more c~~~s per day as he can count.

If that don’t wake him up, then he will not wake up EVER.

"Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

Dark Kenshi wrote:

BlackPill wrote:

So she has been calling and texting him cheap memes and he has been ignoring her…..until now. He says he “want closure” and is going I meet up with her lol. Such bulls~~~. So her persistence got slipped through the cracks of his heart to manipulate him to meet up with him and make him give her. Another chance. He says he is not going to get back with her, but his track record says otherwise. Bitch broke up with him nine times and he took her back each one. “Closure” my ass. Its ta already over in my eyes. They’re already back together. RIP best friend. I might drink more liquor out than I pour out tonight.

She only does that because she wants to ride in another c~~~ for a while… Try to tell him this, and show it to him… Show that she is a ho, show that when they “broke up”, that she went on riding more c~~~s per day as he can count. If that don’t wake him up, then he will not wake up EVER.

i don’t know about that.  The baby daddy may still be in the picture, but I know for sure that she manipulates the s~~~ out of him.

 

aaaaaand he is spending the night over at her house.  Going, going, GONE!

[Executor MaxwellParticipant 591]

[Dark KenshiParticipant 2132]

BlackPill wrote:

DarkKenshi wrote:

BlackPill wrote:

So she has been calling and texting him cheap memes and he has been ignoring her…..until now. He says he “want closure” and is going I meet up with her lol. Such bulls~~~. So her persistence got slipped through the cracks of his heart to manipulate him to meet up with him and make him give her. Another chance. He says he is not going to get back with her, but his track record says otherwise. Bitch broke up with him nine times and he took her back each one. “Closure” my ass. Its ta already over in my eyes. They’re already back together. RIP best friend. I might drink more liquor out than I pour out tonight.

She only does that because she wants to ride in another c~~~ for a while… Try to tell him this, and show it to him… Show that she is a ho, show that when they “broke up”, that she went on riding more c~~~s per day as he can count. If that don’t wake him up, then he will not wake up EVER.

i don’t know about that. The baby daddy may still be in the picture, but I know for sure that she manipulates the s~~~ out of him. aaaaaand he is spending the night over at her house. Going, going, GONE!

 

If the baby daddy is still in the picture, then more reason you have to tell him this.

Show him the whore that she is… He is not the kid’s dad, right? So, what did you (and him) have to lose showing him that the t~~~ is a true whore?

If the baby dad is still in the picture and she “eventually” rides his c~~~, then you have the most clear proof you can give him that she is a bitch.

"Young was I once, I walked alone, and bewildered seemed in the way; then I found me another and rich I thought me, for man is the joy of man." Odin, Hàvamàl, stanza 47.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

Dark Kenshi wrote:

BlackPill wrote:

DarkKenshi wrote:

BlackPill wrote:

So she has been calling and texting him cheap memes and he has been ignoring her…..until now. He says he “want closure” and is going I meet up with her lol. Such bulls~~~. So her persistence got slipped through the cracks of his heart to manipulate him to meet up with him and make him give her. Another chance. He says he is not going to get back with her, but his track record says otherwise. Bitch broke up with him nine times and he took her back each one. “Closure” my ass. Its ta already over in my eyes. They’re already back together. RIP best friend. I might drink more liquor out than I pour out tonight.

She only does that because she wants to ride in another c~~~ for a while… Try to tell him this, and show it to him… Show that she is a ho, show that when they “broke up”, that she went on riding more c~~~s per day as he can count. If that don’t wake him up, then he will not wake up EVER.

i don’t know about that. The baby daddy may still be in the picture, but I know for sure that she manipulates the s~~~ out of him. aaaaaand he is spending the night over at her house. Going, going, GONE!

If the baby daddy is still in the picture, then more reason you have to tell him this. Show him the whore that she is… He is not the kid’s dad, right? So, what did you (and him) have to lose showing him that the t~~~ is a true whore? If the baby dad is still in the picture and she “eventually” rides his c~~~, then you have the most clear proof you can give him that she is a bitch.

i’m honestly done man.  i’m just…..done.

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