Being Single: Pros and Cons

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

In my experience, being single is a blessing, but sometimes it’s depressing.

It’s a good thing to have my own personal space (my apartment), and to manage my money (without someone else spending it).

But it’s a challenge to be self-reliant. There are times when I wished someone would pick me up from work when my car is in the shop, help me pay the bills, or just hang out with me when I’m going places.

I like having an independent life, and I understand that having a nagging wife would ruin it. I want something that’s probably unreal: a female companion that understands how I feel, will put her energy into making my life easier, and won’t make me feel horrible because I made a mistake, said something stupid, or neglected to get something done. Someone who will accommodate instead of interrogate. Someone who will aid instead of jade.

I like to hang out with friends whenever I can and go on dates, occasionally. I have to remind myself that a long term commitment with a woman won’t necessarily be a cure for my occasional feelings of loneliness. It’s better to spend a weekend with a woman who is a “friend with benefits,” drop her off at her place, and go back to my place and my rat race alone. Living with a woman seems like a good idea in my imagination—-but not in the real world.

What’s great about my situation? I have time. Time to read books. Time to learn new skills. Time to plan my goals. Time to develop myself without the distractions of a wife and kids. I have control over my money. I can move to another state or another country if I get a job opportunity. I can come home at 3:00 a.m. without seeing a woman’s angry face and hearing her asking me where I’ve been all night. I can focus on my goals, hobbies, etc. My free time belongs to me.

What’s not great? Sometimes I feel like hanging out with people, but I don’t know how to reach out to them. I have two good friends who are married. I talk to them once in a while. They live far from me. They are busy with married life and raising kids. Sometimes I feel isolated. I feel like it would be nice if somebody was by my side to help me with the burden of living, but I realize that I’m completely on my own. Whatever problems I have must be solved by ME. I’ve got to get the rent paid on time or else I’m out on the street. That gets me worried. I can’t afford to miss days of work if I get sick or injured. I’m totally dependent on my ability to work and earn a paycheck. I don’t have the luxury of taking a leave of absence from my job to raise a child or take classes while a spouse pays the bills. I have the understanding (as most guys do) that I’m doomed to work consistently after high school/college until retirement…or until I figure out a way to make a s~~~load of money. No one is going to rescue me. Women get rescued. Men pull others to safety.

I have to fight for my life everyday. It bums me out sometimes, even though I know this is the path I’ve chosen for the sake of my mental and financial well-being.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Find yourself a rich woman and live off her money.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

FunInTheSun wrote:

In my experience, being single is a blessing, but sometimes it’s depressing.

It’s a good thing to have my own personal space (my apartment), and to manage my money (without someone else spending it).

But it’s a challenge to be self-reliant. There are times when I wished someone would pick me up from work when my car is in the shop, help me pay the bills, or just hang out with me when I’m going places.

Trust me, if you are married you will get no help with any of those things. You will have to pick her up all the time, pay her bills and she will never do anything to help you. You life will be twice as hard as you will have to support and look after two people.

Being in a relationship is basically all about being her slave and wallet.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[Anonymous 16]

Be glad, a women is just trouble, you are alone with out a bag on your back.
Whats the other choice?
Been alone with a bag on your back.

[Anonymous 3]

FunInTheSun wrote:

But it’s a challenge to be self-reliant. There are times when I wished someone would pick me up from work when my car is in the shop, help me pay the bills, or just hang out with me when I’m going places.

I am not single yet. My wife does not pick me up when the car is in the shop, I ask a friend or I walk! It is to much work asking a woman to do anything for you. They complain to much and they make it into a huge favor they are making you.

Also applies to paying bills. There is her money and our money (mine). It costs you more to use her money that its worth it. Actually in my case I HAVE TO RETURN IT.

And last, the one thing wives are specialists is hanging with you. You are certainly getting your wish here. The hang with you like an anchor! It means that YOU CANNOT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT INCLUDING HER! And good luck getting her (and therefore you) to do what you want.

My friend, coming from a yet married man: there are no “pros” in marriage, it is all misery with random crumbs of happiness. And even that gets bitter when you consider the price.

The only good thing in marriage is that you learn to appreciate being single.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Pros – everything

cons – never been married but I know loads of people who are. They are all apart from one person complete doormats. It is like they have a new mum who they have to ask permission before they do anything or go anywhere

f~~~ that

[Anonymous 42]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

Trust me, if you are married you will get no help with any of those things. You will have to pick her up all the time, pay her bills and she will never do anything to help you. You life will be twice as hard as you will have to support and look after two people.

Being in a relationship is basically all about being her slave and wallet.

I BELIEVE! I won’t get fooled EVER! Leave alone AGAIN!

You hear that ladies? Now go get your free house, free money, and free car from another man! If you can’t find a man in that Sahara Desert where water is more plentiful than men, go stand in a welfare line and extract it that way and get a large dog or the usual fleet of feral cats!

You’re only two things to me and that’s Dog f~~~er/catfood.

That has a nice ring to it, I should start a new line of catfood; Dog f~~~er Catfood!

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Been single for 14 years now I don’t count having sex once in awhile as a relationship if I only see them a couple of times. Some nights I feel lonely but it passes really fast other than that there is no downside at all to being single only upside.

If you worry about not paying bills and having to rely on yourself all the time to do things it will only drive you mad. There is no woman on this earth that will help you or make think “if something goes wrong I have her to take the reins, make the decisions, and support me financially” unless you want to be with a rich psycho who has a SMV market value of 0 because that is all you will find. Even then she will make sure to put you under her thumb and get you back on the plantation and you will be much worse off. Soon as you get sick and get meet her needs you get kicked to the curb and she finds someone else to use.

You have it good you just don’t realize it yet many guys who have been divorce raped and are living on the street would trade places with you in an instant. These guys truly have nothing and a lot of them commit suicide. Be thankful that you can rely on yourself to make your life comfortable without any woman there to make your life a living hell.

[Anonymous 54]

What you yern for is a friend. The problem is a women can never be your friend. A woman will never have your back. That is sad yes, but unfortunetly it is just the simple truth.You would have these same challanges, but with the added burdon of a women telling you its all just not good enough. Sorry Man.

A dog will love you, allways be your friend. Unfortunatly thought, they dont know how to drive.

[Anonymous 42]

I gotta say one more thing, a Psychologist in her 40s’ tried to reel me in a few years ago, I politely refused with silent shyness and unwillingness to take the bate, she was cold a ice to me from that day on. I went straight through the long extraction process to disposed in a matter of seconds. I gave her NOTHING but a little wasted friendliness.

She found a disposable carpenter ant (man/beast) to spruce up her home, one of two that she extracted from a failed marriage.
The carpenter ant was disposed of the day the house was pristine. Within weeks the house was on the market.
Exterior, interior, the property, all the overgrowth and brush, he worked like a savage and was always mentally in a state of PANIC! She’s a psychologist, went to school in feminazi west to learn the things she’s done! F~~~. ME!

Not even half a mile from that house is another extraxtual female willing to trade mental torture and hard labor for pussy on a string like a horse MULE JACKASS. My friend an I ran into her jackass when he was frantically gathering firewood after she threw him out, f~~~ing idiot doing the EXACT SAME THING!

I feel ill just thinking about it. It’s like getting skinned alive for a man utterly bulls~~~ted by this new tyrannical culture…

I hold myself to a higher standard, but in all logic and understanding a man is better off building his own life and hiring whores for his sexual exchange trading shaved pennies against c~~~’s 100 thousand stolen dollars! x5 marriages= HALF A MILLION DOLLARS!

C~~~ 1 has a government job with pension, she also acquired fortunes fleecing and disposing of men, tossed like garbage after extracting all she could!

F~~~ing bitch was a speed bump on MGTOW road I swerved and maneuvered to avoid!
Now I’m doing 221mph on MGTOW highway avoiding any bumps!

STEER CLEAR!

[SimpleLifeParticipant 439]

Women like what you’re looking for don’t exist anymore. After having been married for 13 years and several subsequent girlfriends, I think the pros of singlehood significantly outweigh the cons.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

Older i get, i only get to see pros.

If she was not there when i was nobody, i sure as hell dont need her now.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Get more friends dude. You don’t mention sex as a thing you are missing out on, so obviously its not a woman that you need exclusively. Just guys that have your back when you’re in a pickle.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[Anonymous 11]

Being single is total freedom. What’s there not to like?

The only con is that I have to do some woman’s work. Laundry, floor scrubbing, toilet bowls, and dishes.

Anonymous wrote:

The carpenter ant was disposed of the day the house was pristine.

BWHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

That’s why I’ll stay single.

RESOURCE EXTRACTION IS THEIR #1 PRIORITY!!!!

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

After being married for 20+ years, and now on my own for 2 months, there is NO downside to being single.

There is NOTHING any woman has been able to do for me, that I can’t already do better for myself.

Ever seen the movie Logan’s Run? When the computer asks him over and over again about where the sanctuary is located? And he just repeats “There is NOOOOOO Sanctuary!”. There is no sanctuary for a man to find in a relationship, it is a myth created by hopefuls.

Sovereignty above all else.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

What you need sir is a friend and you can rest assured a person with a vagina isn’t going to be a very good one. Not when biologically she is primed to look at you as a utility that exists to serve her needs.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

foghornleghorn wrote:

What you need sir is a friend and you can rest assured a person with a vagina isn’t going to be a very good one. Not when biologically she is primed to look at you as a utility that exists to serve her needs.

Exactly. We men face double jeopardy. First, evolution has programmed them to use us. Second, society has reinforced the idea that a man’s purpose is to serve them. Even when my ex was on her best behavior, I always felt like her utility. I am so happy to report that today the final divorce papers are being drawn!

Sovereignty above all else.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

Dating, and ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE … is a world of broken promises, including every service and desire FunInTheSun mentioned above.

You can meet the most convincing woman on earth. The most “loving”, the most “caring” … just the sweetest thing since apple pie … And she will screw your life over in a way you never thought possible. In the end … in reality, she doesn’t give a S~~~ about you.

Remember that your satisfaction, is their misery, and their satisfaction, will be your misery.

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Anonymous wrote:

What you yern for is a friend. The problem is a women can never be your friend. A woman will never have your back. That is sad yes, but unfortunetly it is just the simple truth.You would have these same challanges, but with the added burdon of a women telling you its all just not good enough. Sorry Man.

A dog will love you, allways be your friend. Unfortunatly thought, they dont know how to drive.

As I read the OP, my thought was exactly, you need a dog and another MGTOW friend.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Pros: Peace, quiet, autonomy, surfing, driving the race car, not having to listen to dog s~~~ top 40 music, leaving the toilet seat in the upright and locked position, drinking out of the jug, having the money to pay a maid to clean my house, paying a maid to clean my house, dating women ½ my age, riding the motorcycle, traveling at will.

Cons: I’m going to have to get back to you on that.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

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