Being led on

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Huge red pill to swallow: the effort that you make to keep in contact with a woman means NOTHING.

She’s a woman, so she has an innate flakiness, but she probably also has a cultivated flakiness too.

You need to decide if this is a person with whom maintaining a relationship brings value into your life; no one can make that decision for you. My best friend can be super flaky, and it can be frustrating trying to arrange something with him, but the value he brings to my life is so great that I can overlook it.

You can’t change people. You need to either accept her as she is or reject her. Perhaps what she’s doing is unacceptable to you, in which case you shouldn’t maintain a relationship. Perhaps the relationship gives you enough value to keep at it; in which case, you need to accept the way she is. But no one can make that decision for you.

It sounds like this is causing you a lot of emotional distress. If I were in your situation, I’d probably just eject her from my life; I have too long and distressing a history with women like that. But, I repeat: no one can make that decision for you but you.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Keymaster wrote:

For every 3 texts she sends , you send ONE.
For every 3 sentences she writes, you send ONE.

Sentences? One word replies are best:

“Busy.”

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

She is riding the c~~~ carousel and you are one of the poles being spun around as she gets on and off the ride. Do not call, do not text, get rid of Facebook and your life will be much better for it. You will not find a NAWALT or a unicorn, if you want to continue to have sex pump and dumb them do not stay in a long term relationship for the sake of having sex. Do not marry, do not cohabitate under any circumstances and avoid single mothers like the plague and you will be able to control your destiny and stay off the plantation.

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