Being led on

[Mover1799Participant 58]

Been seeing this women for 2 months, I met her on Tinder and she was from my hometown, which is 3 hours from where I currently live. To get straight to the point we hook up and she drove down to visit me and we click really well, she would always drive up to visit me even at spontaneous times, which I thought was awesome. I been aware of MGTOW for 2 years now and can usually spot signs when s~~~ is about to go down hill. Well 3 weeks ago texting and calling started to go one-way with me doing the texting and calling and maybe hearing from her once a day, if I was lucky.

I explained to her that I became unhappy and she insisted she loved me and had been going through a rough time with her mother having some heart conditions, acknowledging this I keep it together to see if things would get better, well pattern continued on and I started to get irritated once again and told her that things needs to change by her meeting me half-way in communication. Another thing that irritated me was that her Facebook relationship status said she was still single and that she would not add me as a friend because I tried to take her off once, when I tried to end it the first time.

I explained to her that if she is having all these problems why doesn’t she call/txt me about them? She made excuses that she did not want to bother me and that I had other things going on. In addition, she mentioned that I needed to grow up about the relationship thing on Facebook because every guy she “dated” keep it the same because people do not need to know her business, but she is one of those girls that has 1000+ friends.

My bulls~~~ radar went off crazy, but I been fighting the irrational side of my brain to pro-create and bargain with myself that I have started to loose self-esteem and I think she knows this and acknowledges that she has power over me. Just wanted to hear your guys thoughts.

[mp357Participant 531]

whats going on today? guys keep posting these threads, 2 guys want relationship advice, another wants to bareback prostitutes.

[Anonymous 42]

Lose interest in her the same way, don’t call her, don’t give a f~~~, and stay way! If you’re not #1 in her life then the two of you have no life.
Let her fill herself with the emptiness of 10,000 Face F~~~ friends! She’s lost to gynocertricity, let her love herself and her cats…

She wouldn’t have heard a word of dissent from me, just the vacuum of emptiness as I simply walk into history. You can’t teach a woman anything about love, it’s a concept outside of Face Book, a concept lost generations ago!

AWALT=MGTOW

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Dude,

Relationships with females are like drinking a small amount of poison everyday.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[FrankyParticipant 2338]

Mover1799 wrote:

I been aware of MGTOW for 2 years now and can usually spot signs when s~~~ is about to go down hill.

i’ll give you a 3 more signs:

1)you’re dating
2)you’re dating
3)you’re dating

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

whats going on today? guys keep posting these threads, 2 guys want relationship advice, another wants to bareback prostitutes.

Reporting in.

Don’t waste your time on a girl who won’t give you hers. That much should have already been known before you came to this site

Brother, we need to stick together.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

This is more of a redpill type question: reddit.com/r/theredpill

Best of luck to you.

I’d recommend that while you’re dealing with all her bulls~~~, and all the bulls~~~ from girls like her, you ask yourself

1) What am i putting in to these relationships w/women?, and
2) What am i getting out of them?

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Try to ignore her, she’s playing games and s~~~testing you. You’re better than that, brother.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[ChuddoxParticipant 585]

Facebook is a toxic cesspit. Its not real life. I for one, use it only to mentally masturbate trolling f~~~tards who because I once talked to them now think we are brotatos!

Stop with the digital leash bit. Leave the f~~~ing phone alone. Think of it in reverse. If some woman was calling and texting you non-stop, wouldn’t that get just the littlest bit annoying? Damn right it would.

If she doesn’t want to confide in you, so what? This is MGTOW, not f~~~ing Cosmopolitan. This isn’t exactly the center for advice on getting into blue pill “heaven”. So why are you giving more than 0 f~~~s?

“Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.” - Robert E. Howard

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Mover1799 wrote:

I explained to her that I became unhappy and she insisted she loved me and had been going through a rough time with her mother having some heart conditions

O jeez. It’s really this simple.
Grab a pen and write this down a f~~~-hundred times until it sinks in.

If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.
If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.

…….

Then say 3 Hail MGTOWs and an Our Father. Cured.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[the roadParticipant 3125]

She doesn’t care that much about you. It’s pretty obvious.

Instead of trying to *understand it* and fix it, just accept it.

But even more than that, move on. Who knows if she is f~~~ing someone else? But it doesn’t matter if she is, she is just not in to you in the same way you are about her.

You are putting yourself into the role of the pursuer and you just gave all the power to her. Don’t get caught in that loop brother, you’ll be sorry. I’ve been there more than once in the past just like many others here have. Don’t do it.

#MANOUT

[Anonymous 12]

She sounds like a f~~~ing mess, she might not even know or care that she is wasting your time. But you should know and care, so just walk away.

[ChuddoxParticipant 585]

Keymaster wrote:

strong>If you’re not her priority, you’re only an option.

Here I disagree. You are never her priority, she only pretends you are her focus in order to make or keep you an option.

“Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.” - Robert E. Howard

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

coquette: a woman who likes to win the attention or admiration of men but does not have serious feelings for them—circa 1611

A woman who f~~~s around with men for the sake of attention has been such a common occurrence (at least since the 17th century) that there was a linguistic need, for fast, efficient communication, for a word solely dedicated to describing that behavior.

Let that sink in for a moment.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[CodeBleuParticipant 161]

Mover1799 wrote:

Another thing that irritated me was that her Facebook relationship status said she was still single and that she would not add me as a friend because I tried to take her off once, when I tried to end it the first time.

There are more important things to worry about than a FB status. Everyone on there has a friend that’s a little too political in their posts, has a relative who’s sick every other day and needs a prayer, constantly traveling and feels the need to post pics of their adventures instead of living in those moments, etc. FB is just a microcosm of attention seeking neuroses.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

1. C~~~s flirt with guys, but secretly want nothing to do with them.

2. She believes every man wants her.

3. You actually give a f~~~. “He, who cares least wins.”

4. Her attitude towards you, “You want her.”

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Anonymous 11]

Mover1799 wrote:

she would always drive up to visit me even at spontaneous times, which I thought was awesome

That would seriously irk the living f~~~ out of me. These spontaneous times as you call them are when she has a random open slot in her book of c~~~s and feels like hitting up her bench warmers. You met her on Tinder for God’s sake. She riding multiple c~~~s, and you are being played.

Get the f~~~ out before you catch an STD.

[Mover1799Participant 58]

Think I am just more disappointed in myself more than anything, I was aware and yet I still let my male biological urges take control to some extent, I feel I left with half of my dignity since I just stop calling/texting her when I was not getting no reply’s.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Mover1799 wrote:

I was not getting no reply’s.

Perhaps you have no idea how common this is. It’s not “you”.

Mover1799 wrote:

I left with half of my dignity

That’s what it’s supposed to do. It’s very common for women to see if they can get you to follow them far out on the branch – and go the extra length for them – only to find you’re standing there by yourself when you get there.

The problem is.. when you actually DO IT, she thinks “what do I need THIS guy for. I can do MUCH better than him”. It’s counter intuitive because you think going the extra mile and making more effort means you are “elevating yourself in her eyes”.. but it has the reverse effect.

So here’s the formula.

For every 3 texts she sends , you send ONE.
For every 3 sentences she writes, you send ONE.

Frequently, a girl might text “hey”. That’s not enough for you to respond. So you give her “?” at the most. That’s how to make sure you don’t feel like a bonehead after saying “HEY! HOW ARE YOU?! GREAT TO HEAR FROM YOU!! WHAT ARE YOU UP TO?”… and then she’s radio silence after that.

Be careful what you blame yourself for.
Most of the things you blame yourself for are not YOUR “fault”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[narwhalParticipant]

Agree with KM on this, but it isn’t easy to do. Your instinct (as is mine) is to show that you care. So how do you make yourself not care, when you really want to?

The easy solution is to give yourself something else to care about. That could mean you don’t stop pursuing other women, if a woman’s what you really want. If you have 3 options, the one that isn’t communicating the way you want will lose appeal rather quickly…she will not look like a snowflake anymore.

Better yet, find something else to care about. Your career, your health, your friends, your family, your hobbies, anything but her. You can let her go a lot easier if your life is indifferent to whether or not she texts you back.

And FYI, this is exactly why she’s not texting you back to begin with…she’s got other things she cares about.

Ok. Then do it.

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