One thing I really like about this forum is the breadth of experiences and recommendations that come for from all corners of the globe.
To answer some of the questions asked thus far:
She has already said we each pay for our own travel, she has already paid for the place, so to be fair I would expect to pay for meals which would still be a lot less than the accommodations.
In her divorce the court awarded her 100% of everything, house, cars, property, savings, retirement, bank accounts. They day he moved out, she wrote him a check for 50% of everything to “buy him out” so she could stay in the house. As most of men who have done the same thing can attest to, that takes all of your cash and usually a loan..or you sell stuff. She wiped out all her liquid assets and had $100 left to her name when he drove away.
She gave him his truck. He had 12 acres of property worth a great deal money in a development area that was a childhood gift from a relative. She gave it to him 100%.
He has not had a job for 3 years. He moved into the home of his millionaire sister and has been spending his money on Asian massage parlors and tattoos. (He kept the same checking account so she still has access to see it)
She is back working her own business (web design consultant) and starting over.
I have always wanted to go to Cancun, but never was with anyone I wanted to spend the money on to go and dreaded the horrible experience it would have been…especially with either of the ex wives screaming, complaining and nagging all the time.
I can’t actually do anything until my divorce is final, and I have no control over that…it could drag on for years. Unfortunately in this state, any sexual activity until finalized is adultery in court so not only did the ex refuse me for years, now she has the power to refuse me from anyone else as long as she wants to keep the proceedings going.
As suggested by some, a closer, shorter trip here in the states for a couple days might be the prudent thing in a few months if by some miracle the divorce is over and we both are still interested. Activities like dinner, shows, concerts etc are more enjoyable as a couple, even if you are just friends. I have done all of them alone over the past few months and have determined if I have to go alone, I will just save the time and money and do something else. I am fine with that. I save money, work on my health and business and enjoy the solitude.
This whole exercise might just be a mental coping mechanism for me right now as I try to accept “going monk” as recommended by the majority of posters as the only viable option for the remainder of my life. I have come to terms with no LTR, co-habitation or marriage. Once you get through the initial red pill rage and all the rest, it is the only logical response. No interaction with the female species in the real world (vs the virtual) is another level and can be a bit more challenging to come to terms with.
hadenough1969 3 years ago.
