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[MERCHParticipant 56]

sooooo…. she’s already blown both her hands off playing with dynamite and is asking if you will light the fuse instead? i see an explosive future. no offense, just a thought.
MERCH

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

To answer a couple questions:

Possible pregnancy: Not gonna happen. I actually took her to the tubal operation myself.
Debt/etc: We do live together, and split the bills 50/50. I don’t even buy her dinner, we go dutch. I’ve been adamant about this.
Her kid: Good kid, I have lots in common with him. Not really buddy-buddy with him, but neither am I completely cold to him.
Her debts: I don’t loan her money, nor do I ask for or accept loans from her. No money changes hands between us AT ALL. There’s no way I’d be paying her debts.

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

Debt/etc: We do live together, and split the bills 50/50. I don’t even buy her dinner, we go dutch. I’ve been adamant about this.

Common law marriage then.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

MERCH wrote:

sooooo…. she’s already blown both her hands off playing with dynamite and is asking if you will light the fuse instead

BiG_Weasel wrote:

Debt/etc: We do live together, and split the bills 50/50.

Oneforfreedom wrote:

Common law marriage then.

It sounds like at this point, the fuse has already been lite.

Only question I have left is, how short/long is the fuse?

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

To answer a couple questions:

Possible pregnancy: Not gonna happen. I actually took her to the tubal operation myself.
Debt/etc: We do live together, and split the bills 50/50. I don’t even buy her dinner, we go dutch. I’ve been adamant about this.
Her kid: Good kid, I have lots in common with him. Not really buddy-buddy with him, but neither am I completely cold to him.
Her debts: I don’t loan her money, nor do I ask for or accept loans from her. No money changes hands between us AT ALL. There’s no way I’d be paying her debts.

You received many replies with much advice…

So, if your lady friend has had two unsuccessful matriages, and has kids then why does she want to get married again? And why would she feel any “pressure” because her friends are getting married and having kids if shes already done that?

THAT is the 2,000lb pink elephant in the room which needs to be adressed. Since everyone here took the time to give you advice it would be nice to hear about the most vital question, in my mind.

Im not sure where your from geographically, but Im in the States. The only place Ive visited that has a culture which would reflect your gfs attitude would be the deep South. Again, I dont know but you havent given us enough info as to how all of these discrepancies are reconcilable.

Resident cynic.

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

Phantom wrote:

Common law marriage then.

No, my state has no commonlaw marriage laws.

Ancientwisdom wrote:

BiG_Weasel wrote:

To answer a couple questions:

Possible pregnancy: Not gonna happen. I actually took her to the tubal operation myself.
Debt/etc: We do live together, and split the bills 50/50. I don’t even buy her dinner, we go dutch. I’ve been adamant about this.
Her kid: Good kid, I have lots in common with him. Not really buddy-buddy with him, but neither am I completely cold to him.
Her debts: I don’t loan her money, nor do I ask for or accept loans from her. No money changes hands between us AT ALL. There’s no way I’d be paying her debts.

You received many replies with much advice…

So, if your lady friend has had two unsuccessful matriages, and has kids then why does she want to get married again? And why would she feel any “pressure” because her friends are getting married and having kids if shes already done that?

THAT is the 2,000lb pink elephant in the room which needs to be adressed. Since everyone here took the time to give you advice it would be nice to hear about the most vital question, in my mind.

Im not sure where your from geographically, but Im in the States. The only place Ive visited that has a culture which would reflect your gfs attitude would be the deep South. Again, I dont know but you havent given us enough info as to how all of these discrepancies are reconcilable.

We’re in the South, yes. We talked about marriage before we dated (I met her a few years back), and she says she doesn’t want to get married again, either. But, as you well know, what people say and what they really mean are two different things. I think she’s just frustrated recently with coming to terms that she’s painted herself into a corner, and its difficult to get out. Meanwhile, all her friends are moving on with their lives.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

No, my state has no commonlaw marriage laws.

That could be a real monkey wrench, if that ever changes.

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