"…And I'm just here eating a burger"

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

Today, my GF found out that her younger sister is engaged. She proceeds to tell me that, “Everyone’s getting married and having babies, and I’m just over like, ‘I had a burger today’. I told her up front, and minced no words, that I’m not getting married again- to her or anyone else. In her case, I enjoy being with her (and her son for that matter), but she’s twice divorced, $30k in student loan/car debt and doesn’t have a good credit score. So, were I to marry her, we’d be using my credit score, my nearly-debt-free record and such to buy anything together and to pay off her loans. Not a good deal for me. Too much risk. I kinda got the feeling that she’s dropping hints, or having doubts or whatnot. But, I’m holding strong and not wavering. In fact, I’m considering very much getting out once our lease is up in March. Seems to me, I need to either find someone I can make headway with on a more even footing, or just not bother at all. Thoughts? Similar experiences?

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

getting a man to marry you is all part of the female game. they don’t see it as manipulation or as doing something wrong. you can say you don\t want to get married a million times and they will keep coming at you.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

but she’s twice divorced

Pretty much sums it up right there!

http://loveforsuccessfulwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/RedFlags.jpg

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

Cant relate OP. Havent met s girl I would want to marry yet. How old are you/her respectively?

If she has it set in her mind that she has to get married…Oh, I just realized shes been married TWICE and divorced TWICE and has a child.

Ask her wtf she would want to get married again.

Resident cynic.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

Mr. Weasel, you are playing with fire.

You would do well to take the following precautions:

1) Store condoms in a secure area to make sure they are not sabotaged.
2) Make sure records of rent payments are kept, and that thirty days’ notice is sent via certified mail at least thirty-five days before the date of termination. When I terminated my lease, I also sent the landlord an electronic copy of the notice, noting the USPS tracking number in the e-mail.
3) I am not sure how feasible planting hidden cameras are in this situation, but cupcake is not going to be pleased when she learns that your “beta bucks” are not forthcoming and might decide to cry rape or something stupid. Worst case – buy them new, sell them on eBay; the difference is the cost of insurance.
4) Consider skipping town. There is nothing good that can come from cohabitation (strike one) with a single mother (strike two); strike three could be that her next mistake is yours.

[BlackPillParticipant 319]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

Mr. Weasel, you are playing with fire.

You would do well to take the following precautions:

1) Store condoms in a secure area to make sure they are not sabotaged.
2) Make sure records of rent payments are kept, and that thirty days’ notice is sent via certified mail at least thirty-five days before the date of termination. When I terminated my lease, I also sent the landlord an electronic copy of the notice, noting the USPS tracking number in the e-mail.
3) I am not sure how feasible planting hidden cameras are in this situation, but cupcake is not going to be pleased when she learns that your “beta bucks” are not forthcoming and might decide to cry rape or something stupid. Worst case – buy them new, sell them on eBay; the difference is the cost of insurance.
4) Consider skipping town. There is nothing good that can come from cohabitation (strike one) with a single mother (strike two); strike three could be that her next mistake is yours.

that’s the scariest part.

She is definitely dropping hints though. In a very dumb way.

Burgers are good. She doesn’t even know what she has.

[SlayherParticipant 2074]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

In fact, I’m considering very much getting out once our lease is up in March.

Based on your set of circumstances I’d say there is not time like the present.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

I cringe reading this thread.
Have been in your shoes twice.
The second go around almost ended me.
If we were real life friends, I would be either the voice of reason to you, or
I would be p~~~ing you off with me telling you the s~~~ I would have to say.
Depending on whether you wanted to learn from my mistakes, or learn the hard way.

THIS IS THE ALIMONY DILDO… YOU GET TO WALK AROUND
THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT.

Her next move is to get pregnant by you or another and pass it off as yours.

Those 2 points nails it to the wall, but there are many more pitfalls depending on how psycho she wants to get.
I want to scream it to bro…

RUN!!!

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

You already made the first mistake; living together with a female. I highly recommend not making more!

The very best thing is of course to stay away from women all together when it comes to intimate contact, but I realize that is not always desirable. If straying from the course I don’t think females with children are any worse than ones without children, sometimes a child or two has put them more at ease and you get less pressure to produce one or two yourself. The whole trick is however ‘HER children, HER problems’: the moment she tries to make them yours, RUN.

In your case you should already have been not only out the door but on the other side of town.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Just say, “Babe, that sounds like a great idea. How about you knock out those debts you have, buy us a house, buy me a truck, and I’ll get right on that marriage license.”

If not, just to quote Lord Humongous, “Just walk away. No one needs to get hurt. Just walk away.”

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[WallyParticipant]

Big Weasel, I don’t know what state you live in but let me give you a senerio my best friend experienced in the good ole’ state of Texas. His ex racked up a huge debt and at the hearing for the divorce he found out he, and only he was responsible for her debts. It was also explained that she was not responsible for any of his. I am not sure if that is the law as I never plan on testing it but that is the way the judge ruled on this. All this because of the almighty Vagina! And we all know it. Do not get married and do not co-habitat with a woman, the laws and the unspoken laws are against you.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[MadmanParticipant 772]

Why bother dating a single mother?

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Big Weasel:
She will drag you to the bottom with her, blaming you the entire time.
Don’t let her.
GET OUT. NOW.

[HitmanParticipant]

you should heed stealthy mgtow ..damn sound words !

[Anonymous 5]

Jesus christ man. Don’t wait until March to do this. End the relationship now. She is going no where in life and very soon is about to ruin yours. Get out now and eat up the short term cost. So what if you lose a couple thousand bucks and have to live with friends/family for a few months until you find your own place? You lose out on a paycheck or two VS 18 years worth of paychecks.

This c~~~ is about to ruin your life. If you stay with her even if you don’t get married, you WILL pay her all her loans and debts. You WILL pay alimony and child support. You are taking a huge risk and the only outcome is you losing if you continue to play the game. Stop playing the game and get out now.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Run!

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[Soldier-MedicParticipant 2566]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

“Everyone’s getting married and having babies, and I’m just over like, ‘I had a burger today’.

Take a look at this sentence. She has already been married TWICE and has a child. Is her internal landscape so barren that she has the need to have another wedding and another child to validate her existence? More than likely, yes.

Everyone’s getting married and having babies. She has already accomplished this. Time to move on the the next thing.

And what the f~~~ is wrong with burgers? Mustard, cheese, onion, jalapenos. F~~~ Yeah!

"I asked you a question. I didn't ask you to repeat what the voices in you head are telling you" ~ Me. ........Yes I'm still angry.

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

Soldier-Medic wrote:

BiG_Weasel wrote:

“Everyone’s getting married and having babies, and I’m just over like, ‘I had a burger today’.

Take a look at this sentence. She has already been married TWICE and has a child. Is her internal landscape so barren that she has the need to have another wedding and another child to validate her existence? More than likely, yes.

Everyone’s getting married and having babies. She has already accomplished this. Time to move on the the next thing.

And what the f~~~ is wrong with burgers? Mustard, cheese, onion, jalapenos. F~~~ Yeah!

I second this. As a man of 36, even MGTOW, I would understand if I met a woman my age wanting to have children. I really understand her thoughts but won’t agree with her. If she want children she should be in all right to pursue one, I have no complaints about that. But that would be the end of “us”, cause I’d rather cut my own b~~~~ off than father children today! However: a woman that DO have children leaning for more? She is just crazy. RUN!

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

Today, my GF found out that her younger sister is engaged. She proceeds to tell me that, “Everyone’s getting married and having babies, and I’m just over like, ‘I had a burger today’. I told her up front, and minced no words, that I’m not getting married again- to her or anyone else. In her case, I enjoy being with her (and her son for that matter), but she’s twice divorced, $30k in student loan/car debt and doesn’t have a good credit score. So, were I to marry her, we’d be using my credit score, my nearly-debt-free record and such to buy anything together and to pay off her loans. Not a good deal for me. Too much risk. I kinda got the feeling that she’s dropping hints, or having doubts or whatnot. But, I’m holding strong and not wavering. In fact, I’m considering very much getting out once our lease is up in March. Seems to me, I need to either find someone I can make headway with on a more even footing, or just not bother at all. Thoughts? Similar experiences?

Let’s do a simple math problem:

Single Mom + Crappy Financial Record + Lots of Debt + Boyfriend-resistant-to-marriage= ??

Anyone?
Someone take a guess! It’s two words.

Oops Pregnancy!

I wouldn’t bother with live-in cameras since OP is on the exit. I would just have a hidden camera/mike maybe in my shirt, sit her down, show that she is not being forced/coerced, and ask her what she thinks of me, if I have ever hurt her or made her feel bad, etc. Once that is cleared, keep the camera rolling and tell her : “I moved my stuff out of our apartment early this morning. You can keep the rest. My name is off the lease. You and I are done.”

P.S.- Have the conversation in a public place, preferably right before a delicious meal, so that you can immediately say “This tastes like victory!” after dumping her.

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