Advice from everyone on here if you start liking someone

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Needs some advice…..

I’ll give a brief history of the last few months; I hate my job with a passion. It pays the bills and they do treat me ok but I have just been here to long and hate the work and it is REALLY getting me down at the mo (there is nothing worse in my experience of hating your job as it infects everything you do)

there is a woman at work who I have started to get along with and I can feel those first pangs of starting to like her.

I am probably only starting to go this way because I am feeling like crap at the moment so in some way reaching out for anything to try to get rid of this depression, but what is the best way to proceed? I can’t cut contact as I work with her but is there a way anyone else on here would deal with this?

I don’t want to start dating or put myself through the mangina wringer as my dating past has been very blue pilled and if I got roped into a relationship I’d probably end up a loser again so I’m just not going there.

Any advice would be appreciated!

[Jim01Participant 6678]

It’s tricky to answer that with limited information. Just rabbling now, does she like you? Are you gonna quit? Do you want a cure for your depression of the job or girl, or both? Mgtow would probably say don’t s~~~ were you eat. Nothing wrong with liking a girl. Don’t be surprised if she disappoints you, don’t forget women nature. Other alternative, quit your job and say f~~~ that s~~~, leave, get a better job, get her phone number before you go, also not sure if you can afford to quit, like I said, I’m just rabbling here with limited information, sorry if I wasn’t much help, I wish you the best, I have a girl I really like too in my personal life, I know the feeling too, especially being mgtow is a mind f~~~ I know.

Thanks for the reply

we get on and there is probably scope there if I put some effort in but obviously I don’t want to.

Job wise I am looking for new one (same field) but there is literally nothing around so I am stuck here for the foreseeable future. This place is really getting me down although there are other things in my life like a poor diet I need to sort which would help I suspect. Think Cap on here might have said the same thing helped him (apologies if not Cap!)

It is a mind f~~~ like you say as I have no interest in getting hitched up but then my whole system is leaning that way as we are programmed (biological and media brainwashing) to get a girlfriend etc

[Anonymous 11]

You’re in a tough position. Keep looking for a new job is one positive thing you can do for yourself. It’s easier to get a job when you have a job. I’ve always thought work and women have a lot in common.

Yes, I’m going to give you the don’t s~~~ where you eat advice. I have seen cases where people pull it off, but it’s always been a poor outcome for me. If you do go there, do your damn best to keep it secret from the work grapevine especially in the initial stages.

It’s natural and normal to want a good partner of the opposite sex. The problem is as we all know many, many women are difficult shall we say.

Personally, I’ve finally reached the conclusion to just have zero expectations from any woman. They are so potentially deceptive and manipulative that I always assume they have some ulterior motive not for my benefit whenever one is seemingly friendly to me. Such is life for non Chads the overwhelming majority of men. I’m just glad to be red pill now.

[RoyDalParticipant]

A wise mentor once told me never date coworkers. He was right.

If you are not happy with your current job, then what makes you think changing jobs will make you happy?

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Jim01Participant 6678]

RoyDal wrote:

A wise mentor once told me never date coworkers. He was right.

If you are not happy with your current job, then what makes you think changing jobs will make you happy?

To be honest it won’t

I am looking for a short term fix to a long term problem – I hate what I do but I am trapped at the moment through not having any idea what I want to do instead(and this place is paying off my mortgage)

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Anonymous wrote:

You’re in a tough position. Keep looking for a new job is one positive thing you can do for yourself. It’s easier to get a job when you have a job. I’ve always thought work and women have a lot in common.

Yes, I’m going to give you the don’t s~~~ where you eat advice. I have seen cases where people pull it off, but it’s always been a poor outcome for me. If you do go there, do your damn best to keep it secret from the work grapevine especially in the initial stages.

It’s natural and normal to want a good partner of the opposite sex. The problem is as we all know many, many women are difficult shall we say.

Personally, I’ve finally reached the conclusion to just have zero expectations from any woman. They are so potentially deceptive and manipulative that I always assume they have some ulterior motive not for my benefit whenever one is seemingly friendly to me. Such is life for non Chads the overwhelming majority of men. I’m just glad to be red pill now.

I won’t be going there at any time. I don’t want to be sucked into all the crap I see happen to all of the blokes around me but it is a pain when you start to like someone as I really don’t want to.

[Y_Participant 4591]

There are plenty of places that will give you s~~~ advice on women, from women.
And blue pill idiots who would love your company.

99% of men are f~~~ed when they start doing what you are doing.
Don’t use your job as an excuse to be stupid – this means listening to your dick.

Better men than you have been f~~~ed over – you think anyone will give a s~~~ about you when this female (or any other for that matter) uses you and p~~~es on you after? Not me.

MGTOW is here to help you permanently cure your disability.
Use this site wisely and you can live as a free huMAN.

If you are looking for Ask Aunt Alice then I sincerely believe this is not the place for you.

Either way it does not matter to anyone else. The choice is yours.

[Anonymous 25]

You need to play that movie in your head of liking her to it’s logical conclusion. See her stealing all your money in a divorce and leaving you homeless and cold of the streets after having you arrested and charged with a false allegation of domestic violence. Then think of an easier cheaper way to fulfil your needs that’s far more appealing. One night stand works well usually, just be safe and use protection.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Anonymous wrote:

You need to play that movie in your head of liking her to it’s logical conclusion. See her stealing all your money in a divorce and leaving you homeless and cold of the streets after having you arrested and charged with a false allegation of domestic violence. Then think of an easier cheaper way to fulfil your needs that’s far more appealing. One night stand works well usually, just be safe and use protection.

Yeah this is the road I am going to go down. This weekend when I am sitting on Fallout 4 drinking beer, I will think to myself if I was dating her I would be out “spending time together” which means boring dates and doing what she wants to do

my favourite quote from Star Trek DS9

Odo: I’ll never understand the humanoid need to… ‘couple.’

Quark: You’ve never… coupled?

Odo: Choose not to. Too many compromises. You want to watch the karo-net tournament; she wants to listen to music, so you compromise – you listen to music. You like Earth Jazz; she prefers Klingon Opera so you compromise – you listen to Klingon Opera. So here you were ready to have a nice night watching the karo-net match and you wind up spending an agonizing evening listening to Klingon Opera.

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

If you ever feel like you’re liking someone:

“She’ll never like you as much as you like her. Just what you’d be able to do for her.”

That’s enough to make any guy flaccid if they don’t like being used.

I spent a year working as a part-time janitor. Most of my time was spent cleaning up the s~~~holes that were considered women’s restrooms. I was practically tramautized from what kind of messes I saw in those bathrooms, and the smells were even worse. Luckily, I finally had the common sense to get the hell out of that job. I already had a day job that paid 5 times as much money anyway.

To this day, when all the guys are trying to hit on a somewhat attractive “piece of ass”, I can only think, “I wonder what kind of s~~~ mess she left in a bathroom today for a guy to clean up?” Then I imagine a scenario where a woman is LIVING in MY house, and leaving her feminine trash in my bathroom, and there are blood-soaked tampons in MY garbage can, and she is out shopping for more of these items with MY money.

Situation solved! Even a nickel’s worth of attraction towards her is instantly gone. If this is about a woman I have to interact with at work and can’t really avoid her, I just think, “At least this doesn’t go beyond the walls of the company, so I’m being paid to deal with her.”

[Jim01Participant 6678]

mgtow_85 wrote:

If you ever feel like you’re liking someone:

“She’ll never like you as much as you like her. Just what you’d be able to do for her.”

That’s enough to make any guy flaccid if they don’t like being used.

I spent a year working as a part-time janitor. Most of my time was spent cleaning up the s~~~holes that were considered women’s restrooms. I was practically tramautized from what kind of messes I saw in those bathrooms, and the smells were even worse. Luckily, I finally had the common sense to get the hell out of that job. I already had a day job that paid 5 times as much money anyway.

To this day, when all the guys are trying to hit on a somewhat attractive “piece of ass”, I can only think, “I wonder what kind of s~~~ mess she left in a bathroom today for a guy to clean up?” Then I imagine a scenario where a woman is LIVING in MY house, and leaving her feminine trash in my bathroom, and there are blood-soaked tampons in MY garbage can, and she is out shopping for more of these items with MY money.

Situation solved! Even a nickel’s worth of attraction towards her is instantly gone. If this is about a woman I have to interact with at work and can’t really avoid her, I just think, “At least this doesn’t go beyond the walls of the company, so I’m being paid to deal with her.”

Genuinely good advice.

[experiencedParticipant]

Female + coworker = very negative synergy.
The effing you’d get is not worth the effing you’d get.
Your job, in a tight market = your survival.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Your only beginning to feel something for her. You still have time to stop before you s~~~ where you eat.

Don’t do it, it causes diseases, like sexual harassment charges at work.

If your self esteem is so low that only having a parasite in your life will make you feel relevant to someone, you should go see a therapist and avoid relationships.

Your condition is too vulnerable.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 0]

[quote you think anyone will give a s~~~ about you when this female (or any other for that matter) uses you and p~~~es on you
After?
Here’s a thought. Maybe she’s just using you to get ahead/get your job. Eventually she will stab you in the back. Never trust a woman.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Good advice from everyone.
It sounds like you are depressed.
1. Address the depression. Consider help to elucidate the cause and treatment.
2. You know better than to get involved at work. Stop it.
3. Picture the perfect job- one that you would enjoy- and then figure out how to get it. You can do it.
Good luck.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

Good advice from everyone.
It sounds like you are depressed.
1. Address the depression. Consider help to elucidate the cause and treatment.
2. You know better than to get involved at work. Stop it.
3. Picture the perfect job- one that you would enjoy- and then figure out how to get it. You can do it.
Good luck.

pretty much

and to Puffin – I definitely don’t need a woman to give me self esteem thankfully and it is completely work related for sure.

I have been tempted to sell up my flat and move out to the sticks as I hate the hussle and bustle of cities and London is a complete dump. I need to save up cash though so a job change(short term fix with fresh scenery), combined with clearing my debts and then saving up means I can make the move and have a safety net of money until I find something I actually want to do rather than being tied to a desk all day 9-5

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

Smoek pott. Itt duz wundaz fo’ da spelz n’ meks u feelz gud 2.

Seriously, get your feelings to back the f~~~ off from her. Magnify every small detail that you don’t like about her – her Aardvark feet, those pimples on her chin, the fact that she looks so ordinary, her snorting laugh, how gross her tuna must smell (I once met a girl who smelled like a full English Breakfast. I almost gagged, didn’t go through with it, and I’ve never been down on a woman since.) That’s waiting for you in her crusty knickers.

Get the depression sorted first. Smoek Pottt.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Ever since I hit puberty 12 years ago, I have been going through this. I develop a crush and then a few months or so later I finally get over it, so I’ll tell you what works for me.

Step one: I often remind myself that the fantasies in my head are exactly that….. they are fantasies, not reality. She will not cure the unicorn blues that I am feeling. I’ve seen friends go through relationships, and I’m not going through that s~~~. These fantasies are as good as it gets.

Step two: this sexual energy needs an outlet. In the past, I used songwriting. I would write songs about how I feel as a form of venting and it ended up being very good for my band (I wrote a lot of quality material) and help alleviate much of the frustration. Months of “unrequited feelings” launched my creativity to new levels I had never experienced before. I’ve had a girl at school express interest in me last semester and admit that it has gotten to me. She is attractive and has the gentle type of personality that turns me on, but I’ve ignored her and now she leaves me alone and chats up other guys. I still have the feelings in me though, so I am channeling them into my studies. It will pass, all I need is patience.

[MIKETOWParticipant 757]

As a few others here have mentioned, think in the long run. You know as well as we do that more likely than not, she’s no unicorn. She’ll probably end up using you or screwing you over somehow. she’ll use mind games and shaming tactics to keep you in check. She’ll take up all your time, money, and privacy. In a worst case scenario she’ll leach you dry and ruin your life. Anytime I find myself beginning to have feelings for some woman, I just think about the future and how she’ll most likely affect it. That usually helps.

[narwhalParticipant]

There is a woman where I work at that I find rather attractive. Lucky for me, I don’t have to see her much. I know she has kids and lives far away from me, so that helps.

I think what has really work best for me though, is that she has a good friend that works close by to me, and I have no doubt they talk. It wasn’t exactly my plan, but I have definitely convinced this friend that I’m not BF material, and boring…she’s basically told me that’s the case. So has that info gotten back to the woman I’m attracted to? Without doubt. Of course, this could backfire as I may seem like more of challenged, but I think this woman has more then her fair share of guys she could potentially trap, so I don’t think I’m much of a target.

So in your case, you could directly tell this girl about yourself, things that make you not too appealing. It might be better to go through her GF(s) as it’s the same as talking to her directly really. You won’t appear like much of a prize if her friends think you’re a loser.

Ok. Then do it.

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