I almost f~~~ed this female once but stopped short when I found out she was a single mother and that having a baby had ruined her. Five year old kid and she never took the weight off, plus baby chewed t~~~. Not pleasant.
Anyway, she asked me if she could buy my small gun safe from me so I agreed… so we met today to do the transaction and have a beer and “catch up”. Among other things, here’s the advice she had for me:
1) “You should call your mother.” My mother said she doesn’t want me to be her son any more and I have honored her wishes. If she wants to take it back, she knows how to use a telephone. But this female thinks I’m unemotional because I don’t care enough to be “better than her” and let her know that I still care. That’s just it. I reject bulls~~~ in my life, I don’t care for people who don’t care for me and I don’t need to prove I’m better than anyone.
2) “You should buy a house, settle down and become part of a neighborhood.” Because she lives in an area where she is trauma bonding with her neighbors because they have crack head burglars in their yards nearly every night and she has to keep a handgun in the bedroom with her 5 year old in order to try to protect herself while I live in a safe, modern apartment building with a 24 hour security presence.
3) “You’re too set in your ways, you need to be more accepting of other people and think about their feelings.” Then I asked why she was divorced and she said she split up with her husband because he was arrogant did what he wanted without caring what other people thought… so yeah, I should stop thinking, believing and doing what I want in order to make a single mother’s life easier.
4) “You should lie to people… you’re an asshole because you tell the truth.” We were talking about fawning over other people’s dogs and kids and she said I would have more friends if I told them what they wanted to hear rather than what was true or nothing at all. Because I want to be friends with people who only like people who bulls~~~ them.
5) “You should use Facebook… there are events on there you won’t hear about anywhere else!” And then she told me about the “Stars and Stardust” event at the Las Vegas Neon Museum this coming week that she learned about on Facebook… and I said “Yeah, I’m a member of the Las Vegas Astronomy Society and we’re putting that event on. I’m going to be there with my telescope and I’ll see you and your kid if you show up.” because I DO THINGS in the REAL WORLD, not just read and blab about them online.
So let’s recap… I should follow what other people are doing, lie to them to make them feel good, sacrifice my ideals and values in favor of theirs, risk my health and wealth to fit in with them and even force myself on people who have clearly stated they have no interest in me. Basically I should do what everyone else does and believe what everyone else believes rather than using my own judgement to choose what I feel is right and good for me.
This is gynocentric collectivist society. In the end, however, she summarized our discussion with the following:
Everything you say makes me upset and irritated but I can’t really argue with any of it.
Somewhere in her heart, she knows.
IronSoldier 5 years ago.
