A Brief Background and Thought

[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

Why Liberalism is a Red Flag in Dating
(Personality Disorders)

After you’ve been with a couple of these people, it gets a lot easier to spot the red flags, emotionally detach, and desert. At first it seems cruel to do so, but I’m okay being the “insensitive asshole” now, mainly because, no matter how much you listen, care, and give, when the inevitable happens, you will still be the insensitive asshole.

I was married to a narcissist for eight years and left. I chose to live in my car and gave her everything we worked for together (this allowed me to negotiate a dissolution, which is far cheaper and quicker). The next girlfriend was borderline (BPD), and wow…this was just hell. A narcissist is cold and selfish, but a borderline is cold and selfish with absolute inability to filter emotion, and so, you’re better off living next to an active volcano. She only got three months of my life.

I took a year break from dating and tried again. I broke up with this girl just last night. I was counting the red flags already, and the same signs were starting to show (they have predictable patterns) as she desperately tried to hide her radicalism and emotional instability. However, I got the easy ticket out when the triggering happened (over a political disagreement). I just remained calm, didn’t comfort (which she was begging for, but it was enacted over a political topic, and deserved no comfort) and told her that things will not work out, walked away toward freedom, while hearing, in the background, the infantile rage and word salad.

I am leading toward belief that the first red flag is liberalism. Modern liberalism attracts these types of people since the ideology is designed around emotion. They are good people because they say they believe good things. Emotional belief is all that is needed to be a good person. It requires no sets of action, just words and feeling. That is their definition of “compassion”. That is why words mean so much to them. In fact, the meaning of words are so important that they want to see certain words banned.

Liberalism caters to the weak. It comforts without actual comforting. It validates you. It creates the illusion that you’re a loving and compassionate person, and formulates the belief that anybody who is not liberal, must not be any of those things. If they were, then they would be liberal. It is a religion.

Because liberalism requires no need to act on their “selfless principles”, this delusional, self validating, emotionally charged ideology, has created a populace of egotistical, self serving, lethargic, depressed, judgemental, and irresponsible, adult infants, who never need to take responsibility, or be held accountable, for their actions.

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[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

Thanks. I am digging the relatable stories here, but some of it feels a little “collectivist” in the organization, so far as a new member.

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[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

Yeah, I would never have joined if it was too big of a concern. I appreciate the welcoming. I wouldn’t want to see mgtow turn into the male feminism. I do carry the wish that more men would quit bending their selves for women. It has been quite the journey realizing how less you’re perceived by women when you stand your ground and don’t give in to their emotional scrambled “logic”.

One woman asked me, “why is it when men fight, they act like it never happened the next day”

Well, men, in general, aren’t emotionally tethered to the argument. They can push that emotion away and realize it just wasn’t of any importance. Women take every single tiny thing as a personal attack, and they can’t let it go because their unfiltered emotion tethers them into forever hatred. I will never understand that thought power instilled, and makes me damn glad I am not a woman.

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[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

Lol, you learn to shield when you date an SJW (unknowingly) and realize they are BPD. It has created amusing results.

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[Anonymous 1]

sleepytercel wrote:

They are good people because they say they believe good things. Emotional belief is all that is needed to be a good person. It requires no sets of action, just words and feeling. That is their definition of “compassion”.

Oh yes, this is so true that I would write it on every f~~~ing wall. I’ve met a lot of girls like that, the moment they speak about a “greater good”, or “god” or “love” etc. they are automatically the best people on the planet(RED FLAG). They identify being good with speaking about a fantasy, because they need to believe in a fantasy, if there is not a greater good then what can happen to them?

From words to action there is a sea, and actions are the only things that identify a person, but don’t say this to a woman, they hate the truth. Welcome.

[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

I think that’s the problem. Without action, you can’t experience accomplishment. They self validate themselves their goodness, but it leaves them depressed. They use Facebook friends (most of these women have like 300 friends and more) for validation of their goodness, but still…no action…no feeling of accomplishment.

They have the shovel, but keep digging the hole to the point it becomes their grave. They should be filling the hole so they don’t get stuck when it gets too deep.

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[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

I too have done time in a BPD relationship. Never again. You don’t come out of a relationship with a BPD the same way you went in. It changes you.

Welcome to the forums.

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

Welcome. Being called an insensitive asshole by a women is the highest compliment she could give you

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[sleepytercelParticipant 53]

I feel you buddy. I never knew my spirit could be so broken. The rollercoaster ride was one that came close to contemplating death. I had to remind myself that no single person is worth such contemplation, but their manipulation skills come naturally, and they know how to make you feel like the best person to the absolute worst. It took recovering logic to see her evilness, and you have to do it alone. Nobody understands the psychological damage these people do, and as a man, not many care.

You’re right, you don’t come out of it the same. Their perceptive reality becomes yours, and there’s just hint of yourself that knows their world and perception is f~~~ed up. I do feel for you.

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[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Welcome bro

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, SleepyT
Beer’s in the fridge
Looking forward to your posts

[TuneoutParticipant]

sleepytercel wrote:

Liberalism caters to the weak.

Welcome brother and therein lays the difference between a libtard and conservative,one blames others for their situation and does nothing while the other takes action to improve it.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[HitmanParticipant]

Welcome.
Enjoy!

[SilverOneParticipant 440]

sleepytercel wrote:

Lol, you learn to shield when you date an SJW (unknowingly) and realize they are BPD. It has created amusing results.

Being as conservative as I am, I a prone to agree with you about liberalism, but just as willing to admit it may not be the same for everyone. But BPD….
Oh man, you have my sympathy…. I just ended one with BPD, who was a closet liberal. She hid both from me. And couldn’t understand why I left. I am still the bad guy here LOL Welcome to da house!

I don’t believe in female magic anymore. And will never again gut myself to make room for it. --Narwhal--

[SilverOneParticipant 440]

Mr. Man wrote:

I too have done time in a BPD relationship. Never again. You don’t come out of a relationship with a BPD the same way you went in. It changes you.

Oh man, Truer words never spoken…. I wish I could upvote you a thousand time!

I don’t believe in female magic anymore. And will never again gut myself to make room for it. --Narwhal--

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