A best mate getting married: what to do?

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Guys, I would appreciate your thoughts. You may have been in a similar dilemma.

One of my best mates is getting married this summer. He’s my age, mid-30s, and never really had a stable relationship before. His parents divorced when he was a teen and I know it affected him quite badly; he’s had a fairly unstable existence as an adult, drank too much, and I think he thinks he’s found stability with this woman. He moved from the UK to the US, which is where he met her, and she’s making a good show of being the all American housewife-to-be, baking goodies and putting it on her Instagram, that kind of crap.

I’ve met her once and she’s a bit of a church mouse. Frankly though I don’t care who she is; the objective reality of marriage today is that he is highly liked to be royally f~~~ed in every hole, and then some.

What to do in this situation? My intuition is to tell him that I can’t stand by and watch him do this when I know what I do about marriage. I f~~~ing wish someone had done that before I got married. Has anyone done this with a mate and got any tips?

The worst irony is that, at the height of my wife’s abuse, he was the guy I first reached out to, and that was the catalyst for leaving her. So we have a lot of history.

I’m not really worried about p~~~ing him off or him thinking that I’m being unsupportive. I think someone needs to tell him he’s being f~~~ing dumb. My plan is to tell him in no uncertain terms that I think it’s a bad idea, but it’s his choice to go ahead, and I’ll be there for him when it goes south like he was when it went south for me.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Anonymous 13]

Show him this forum.

Show him our horror stories.

I know some say let them be.

That’s not me.

F~~~ing at least TRY.

Then your conscience is clear.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Anonymous wrote:

Show him this forum.

Show him our horror stories.

I know some say let them be.

That’s not me.

F~~~ing at least TRY.

Then your conscience is clear.

That’s not a bad idea. Then it’s not just me.

Then again, he’s a liberal mangina so he’ll probably dismiss it out of hand.

But as you say, at least I’ll have tried.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Anonymous 13]

I believe in trying.

I always did.

If hundreds of lurkers read these threads and 99% dismiss us as bitter basement dwellers, fine.

1% said, hang on a mo 🤔

Da f~~~, gonna cancel that s~~~ show wedding she’s planning.

1% is a whole lot better than 0%.

I’ll go down spreading the word.

The TRUTH has a certain RING to it.

The truth is sweet.

The truth will set you FREE.

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

LionOnTheLoose wrote:

he’s a liberal mangina

He’s going to be tough to convince, but you should still give it a try.

Manginas are ruled by their emotions, just like their vagina counterparts. He will be impossible to reach with logic when it comes to his cupcake. Perhaps you can mention how much happier you are out of your marriage and that you’ll never marry again because AWALT.

He needs to understand that cupcake isn’t special. She isn’t “the one”. She isn’t a unicorn. She’s just another woman that he’s the current highest bidder on.

I think it’s going to be tough to talk him out of it, but trying puts you in the clear when s~~~ falls apart.

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[Anonymous 42]

Okay, bu-bye!

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22510]

LionOnTheLoose wrote:

Guys, I would appreciate your thoughts. You may have been in a similar dilemma.

One of my best mates is getting married this summer. He’s my age, mid-30s, and never really had a stable relationship before. His parents divorced when he was a teen and I know it affected him quite badly; he’s had a fairly unstable existence as an adult, drank too much, and I think he thinks he’s found stability with this woman. He moved from the UK to the US, which is where he met her, and she’s making a good show of being the all American housewife-to-be, baking goodies and putting it on her Instagram, that kind of crap.

I’ve met her once and she’s a bit of a church mouse. Frankly though I don’t care who she is; the objective reality of marriage today is that he is highly liked to be royally f~~~ed in every hole, and then some.

What to do in this situation? My intuition is to tell him that I can’t stand by and watch him do this when I know what I do about marriage. I f~~~ing wish someone had done that before I got married. Has anyone done this with a mate and got any tips?

The worst irony is that, at the height of my wife’s abuse, he was the guy I first reached out to, and that was the catalyst for leaving her. So we have a lot of history.

I’m not really worried about p~~~ing him off or him thinking that I’m being unsupportive. I think someone needs to tell him he’s being f~~~ing dumb. My plan is to tell him in no uncertain terms that I think it’s a bad idea, but it’s his choice to go ahead, and I’ll be there for him when it goes south like he was when it went south for me.

Just tell him you hoped he learned something from hismfolks breakup and yours, and that after all hes been through and overcome, you dont want to see him put himself into something that that can happen to him.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 18]

$50 iTunes Michael Buble´ special edition giftcard.

Eat well and have a jolly time.

/

[ZerenityParticipant 500]

Im gonna have to say im with Matrix on this one.

You can try, but just like you can lead a horse to water, you cant make him drink.

The truth is exactly that, the truth. If he isn’t willing to see it, you cant do anything.

You said she seems like a church mouse. Instantly suspicious right there. I respect the church, but lots of two faced bitches fill them halls looking for redemption.

May shes a unicorn, I wouldn’t bet on it though.

In game you cant win its best not to play.

LionOnTheLoose wrote:

I’m not really worried about p~~~ing him off or him thinking that I’m being unsupportive. I think someone needs to tell him he’s being f~~~ing dumb. My plan is to tell him in no uncertain terms that I think it’s a bad idea, but it’s his choice to go ahead, and I’ll be there for him when it goes south like he was when it went south for me.

With this paragraph above I would say your approach is logical and respectful of his feelings. You arent closing any doors per say and are leaving the playing field open. Now just sit back, be objective and observe. Its all you got. Follow through and if it goes bad for him he will have a friend in you to help pull him out.

Hope this helps, if not just ignore and make it a great day!

God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change: Courage to change the things I can: And Wisdom to know the difference. -Reinhold Niebuhr 1951

[ViciouscunningtreacherousParticipant 823]

Let me talk to him…Ill tell him about my 4 marriages to women who were so very different and better than the last c~~~. I’ll show him the scar on my scalp from the 3rd one throw ing a bottle at me. I’ll impress him with the staggering amounts of money that was embezzled from me legally over the years and all of the custody rights I DON’T HAVE! Then I’ll assure him that none of this will happen to him because she’s special and she can be trusted. Poor man… I truly feel for him. But alas, another wise guy here has said that we won’t really learn except through the hard way. A lesson burned into our souls is one that endures. God speed my brother. You will need it.

For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

He is drunk on pussy, he wont listen..Just warn him so that in case gets tough he knows not to blow his s~~~ up…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[JakeParticipant 908]

condolence card is appropriate

[SwampFootParticipant 62]

educate him on statistics, and encourage him to get a prenup. about all you can do.

if he really identifies himself as liberal, you will probably not have a snowb~~~~ chance in hell of convincing him of even getting a prenup…

but you can still educate him.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Well I wold leave him be and stay away.

The most probable outcome:

Hard child hood, mangina, lot of psicho logical problems, he will try to be “the man” daddy wasn’t, resulting in the hate of his soon to be wife.

She will cheat on him, divorce rape him, he will probably hang himself in 5-15 years.

GET THE F~~~ AWAY FROM THAT DUDE.

Is not your problem and there is nothing you can do.

If you show him this place, you will be branded as a misogynistic pig, right wing, woman hater wacko, he will throw you under the buss to prove everyone you know he is better and you are a monster.

Your job, career, social status could be severely affected. LET HIM DIE AND WALK AWAY.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[SuggestiusParticipant 3312]

LionOnTheLoose wrote:

He’s my age, mid-30s, and never really had a stable relationship before.

He is f~~~ed up. All you can is constantly support him with unobtrusive advice on how to save as much of his s~~~ as it’s possible when the divorce comes! Prepare him for the divorce. No doubts it will happen soon.

Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Have him watch the “DivorceCorp” documentary movie:

If that does not fix him, forget it.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Carnage wrote:

If you show him this place, you will be branded as a misogynistic pig, right wing, woman hater wacko, he will throw you under the buss to prove everyone you know he is better and you are a monster.

Your job, career, social status could be severely affected. LET HIM DIE AND WALK AWAY.

You don’t need to expose your membership only for the sake of showing other men this site.

Just say:

“Look I have seen (read about) this online group who know a lot about marriage and what it means to men. They make valuable points about our current system. They call themselves MGTOW.com”

“And you also stumble across plenty of videos from these guys on YouTube… Just enter MGTOW in the search”

Be neutral and informative, don’t expose yourself.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Thanks a lot for all the responses, guys: really appreciate it, as always. I’ll say something to him because he’s a good buddy, but I don’t expect anything to come of it. I just can’t stand by while he does this; then again, as people point out, you can lead a blue pill horse to the MGTOW water but you can’t make him drink.

Zerenity wrote:

You said she seems like a church mouse. Instantly suspicious right there. I respect the church, but lots of two faced bitches fill them halls looking for redemption.

Also suspicious, but I don’t think they’re looking for redemption. They’re looking for malleable c~~~. A good Christian guy who wants to “do the right thing” will be putty in her hands. Plus, if you can justify male slavery through devotion to the Almighty, that locks it down real nice.

Gargamel wrote:

Have him watch the “DivorceCorp” documentary movie

I’d heard of this movie but not yet seen it: thanks for the link! I may well pass that on.

Gargamel wrote:

Carnage wrote:

If you show him this place, you will be branded as a misogynistic pig, right wing, woman hater wacko, he will throw you under the buss to prove everyone you know he is better and you are a monster.

You don’t need to expose your membership only for the sake of showing other men this site.

Good point, I might refer him to MGTOW as a concept but no need to blow my cover.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Space CowboyParticipant 1466]

Don’t explain too much or seem pushy just say do some research into marriage and you saw MGTOW and it put you off personally.
Quite apt to your avatar on here is a quote I’ve read before.

“The truth is like a lion; you don’t have to defend it. Let it loose; it will defend itself.”

"Have you ever thought about any real freedoms? Freedom from the opinions of others...even from the opinions of yourself?"

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I would tell him good luck. When a blue piller has a woman sucking his dick, he’s not going to listen to you. As much as you’d like to help a friend, all you can do at this point is p~~~ him off and drive him away.

Say good luck, and walk away. When he eventually comes back around, then you get to decide if he is worth helping or worth having as a friend.

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