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I already made a similar post to this in the “Marriage/Divorce” section, so I’ll make my pathetic background story quick. I married my only girlfriend (EVER) of 5 years & she ended up cheating on me after we were only married for a month. I quickly moved for an annulment, so thankfully it’s all over & I didn’t get financially raped. In retrospect, it was a blessing.
Unfortunately, my next move isn’t nearly as simple as I would like it to be. She didn’t have anywhere to go, so I didn’t kick her out. The guy she cheated on me with was her first bf, & he had just gotten out of prison a few months prior. So, he had nothing. I’m now stuck in limbo because we are basically back in a “relations~~~” together! I realize how stupid this is & I’m completely aware that it can’t continue. Luckily, she does have a job & she does support herself, but still — she couldn’t survive on her own currently, so I’m basically the safety net.
Even after she broke my heart, I can’t bring myself to tell her we’re done & she needs to leave. The only thing I can think of is keeping her around until she gets enough money together to get out, or keep her around until she finishes her LPN course (9 f~~~ing months). On top of it all, she was looking forward to moving into the house I’m having built to “have a family home” together. I sort of lead her on about this after her cheating because I somehow thought it should continue at that time.
Now I’m not sure how to tell her that it’s not going to be. It’s just a really weird feeling/situation.
I’m sure most of you will be like “WTF, just tell her to leave,” but it’s really, really not that simple. I wish it was. If I would have just let her go right away it would have been. At least we’re not married haha.
I’m sure most of you will be like “WTF, just tell her to leave,” but it’s really, really not that simple.
Yes it is. KICK THE F~~~ING BITCH OUT. It really IS that simple.
14 years ago I was you. I was with a chick who I had the “you should leave” conversation with. She was crying and asking me how I could be so mean. But the t~~~ was having a fling with some dude she met online. Honey as long as Im not bashing your f~~~ing skull in, Im being much too polite. I pay your f~~~ing rent. But not anymore. GET THE F~~~ OUT.
Cellsworth, you really do need to not care if she has to suck dick to have a place to sleep tonight. All of the good s~~~ and leniency you are offering is not anything she will respect you for. Have the b~~~~ to let a woman hate you. It’s important.
She f~~~ed up and there are consequences for her actions. Jesus Christ, she could LIE and say you HIT HER – TONIGHT – and you will be the one sleeping in jail. NO!! You will not place yourself in this position. You will kick the f~~~ing slag out with zero feeling or remorse and you will enjoy every motherf~~~ing second of it.
Press record on your mobile phone….. and then tell her:
“You have 24 hours to leave and this is not negotiable. I don’t give a f~~~ where you sleep tomorrow night but it will not be here. I am going out and spending the evening in a hotel and will be out enjoying myself in other ways. When I return at 6PM tomorrow you will not be here. The computer is taking time-lapse images and broadcasting them to my phone to make sure you don’t take anything that’s not yours. This conversation is now over. Get out. ”
Done.
Let her hate you. Because we both know that’s the only think stopping you.
ENJOY IT. A soon as she put another dick in her mouth, she’s not your responsibility or problem.
We don’t “rescue” sluts from themselves. Bed. Made. Lie.I would say “good luck” but luck has nothing to do with it.
I expect confirmation here at 6PM tomorrow.Don’t disappoint me.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.WTF?? She doesn’t have a place to go??? And she has a JOB??? Kick that Biech Out! Conjure your Inner Asshole! She f~~~ed her ExBoyfriend!!!
There’s Craigslist! There’s Rooming Houses! There’s Youth Hostels! There’s Brothels! Tell the Biech to live in her Car! Buy a f~~~ing tent!
Tell her to move into his Urethra and lay her head on his Nuts!
It is so funny for anyone to say a woman, has no where to go, where are the men’s shelters, when a lying bitch wants to get you kicked out of your own home? Women have far too many handouts in this day and age. You are whipped, you can’t kick her out despite her sucking and f~~~ing god know how many c~~~s. If you want to put up with that s~~~ being treated like an asshole, sucker fine, just don’t whinge about it, I know it hurts when you got feelings involved but the quicker you man up and f~~~ the whore off the better. How do you expect to get over her while you are living with her, please I can’t believe it.
It is simple for anyone looking in to the situation, harder for you experiencing it, but just think if the shoe were on the other foot, how quick do you think she’d boot you to the curb, and believe me you got no battered man shelters, and handouts to rely on. Snap out of it, do it because it is the right thing to do, respect yourself, and get over any bad feelings later. Man, really, what do you want? She did everything to let you know she doesn’t respect you and you should just get rid of her and instead you’re going to do what?
When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan
I’m sorry to sound harsh but you are White Knighting to a bitch that has treated you with contempt. Get some self respect and kick that bitch to the curb
Have the b~~~~ to let a woman hate you. It’s important.
Holy s~~~, a thousand times this.
The anger is palpable and completely justified. You have given this worthless, desperate, cheating bitch the power to destroy you and every second that you let her hold that power only magnifies her contempt for you and everything that you have done for her.
You let her stay there and she will end up f~~~ing you, literally and figuratively and then literally again. Just think… she could shed a few tears, make a pitiful apology and promise to change then slither back into your arms tonight, blow you, save your sperm and impregnate herself and then claim you raped her and your life would be over. Other men here have had women do worse things to them… ruined families, stolen homes, crashed businesses, emptied pensions, murder attempts… do you really think this woman is incapable of willfully harming you given everything you’ve seen from her so far?
Take KeyMaster’s advice. Do it now.
This is a SIMPLE problem to solve. DITCH THE BITCH NOW! Seriously, you’re only 22. You have no business being married or otherwise tied down. You should be out slaying as many Bettys as you can with your pork sword! (Safely of course) Trust me. You are both young and the relations~~~ ain’t gonna get any better. Get rid of her now or risk losing your assets, paying for ex-con boyfriend to live in your house and f~~~ your ex, and catching herpaghonnasyphillaids. Add your child in to that mix too. NEVER TOLERATE A CHEATING WHORE EVER! Hit the eject button the moment you catch them cheating and don’t look back. Don’t volunteer to be a chump. Life is hard enough without signing up for this s~~~. F~~~ that with a 10lb. sledge hammer!
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...“She has no where else to go”
Well, she actually has a lot of places to go, unless of course you guys are thousands of miles away from any civilization like south of butt f~~~ nowhere Yukon Territory BC, she has options.
1. Hotel/motel/Hostel
2. Family members/Friend’s house
You gotta weigh out the Pros and Cons, and right now the Cons are outweighing the Pros. I understand, you don’t wanna kick her out, that’s understandable. However after she cheated on You, You no longer have an obligation to Her. She f~~~ed up, therefor She needs to get the steppin’.
Believe Me Bro, Women know how to use those puppy dog eyes and those crocodile tears to their advantage. Don’t believe it for one second, just like in the Exorcist when the older priest told the younger priest “Don’t believe a word IT says, and don’t believe anything you see“. Same rules apply.
Food for thought, if you cheated on her with some bitch who got out of Prison, and came back and lived with her, would she let you stay?. would she be willing to “Start a family with you?”. Think about it Bud, and get back to us on your progress.
Best of luck.
"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb
Finally got the time to write back since I’m on my weekend (Thursday, Firday), but alas, I am drinking. As far as my current comprehension, I am detection high levels of logic here. I’ll read again tomorrow & let you guys know my current status. I’m thinking I’ll use my drunken state as an opportunity to tell her what I’m really thinking.
Thanks, guys.
-C
By the way, thank you so much (MGTOW in general) for making me realize the product of evolution between men & women. That’s probably not how all MGTOW look at it (evolution), but I feel like the majority probably do. I’m tired of being provider guy. I always knew marriage was bulls~~~! I saw it since I was a kid. I can’t believe I changed my mind. I guess I just felt safe because of the prenup.
I’m hoping this is understandable to the sober haha. I read it a couple times…
SoulMan said:
This is a SIMPLE problem to solve. DITCH THE BITCH NOW! Seriously, you’re only 22. You have no business being married or otherwise tied down.
Soul Man / Deus Ex brought up a great points. I overlook age because it kinda doesn’t make a difference… but in this case, yeah it does. Don’t even THINK about having a girlfriend (or a wife) until you are at least 26 or well on your way to achieving your dreams. I wish someone would have told me at 18 that the girls who didn’t wanna dance with me were going fall onto my c~~~ at 32. But there was no “manosphere” back then.
If everyone sounds like they are giving you a hard time, we aren’t. It’s a kind of “tough love” (if that’s the phrase) but nobody is against you here or trying to make you feel bad about your decision. We all want you to win and come out on top. More than she does. That’s for sure.
I had an afterthought after I posted my first thoughts… but didn’t sit down to write it until now. Keep in mind your kindness is not truly respected by her. Perhaps you can feel it. And allow me to leave you with a quote from The Manipulated Man…..
“what a great advantage a man can have over women…. if he only knew what cold an calculating thoughts are going through her mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears”.
I read that book 15 years too late.
But when I read that line, the flashbacks of all the tears used to get me to do something I knew I shouldn’t suddenly made sense.Listen to your manstincts.
They are never wrong.If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Be thankful the cheating happened early enough for an annulment. However, she needs to be out of the house and out of your life soon. You posted while you were drunk. This means you are walking around drunk with this woman in your home. Are you crazy?!?! All she needs to do is put the moves on you while you are s~~~ faced and she is ovulating and, annulment or not, you WILL be financially responsible for her for the rest of your life (or at least the next 25 years.) Not only will you be paying for her but you will be providing a home for her ex con boyfriend who will be your child’s primary male role model while you see the kid two Saturdays a month!
You dodged a bullet but until she is out of your house and out of your life for good you are vulnerable. GET HER OUT NOW!
Man when I was 22 I was hanging out all night, playing music and burning through women left and right…sometimes 2 at a time in a night. THAT is what being 22 is meant for….as for your current situation…let me draw you a picture!
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...I’ll add one thing to what the others said. If you do summon up the gumption to kick her out, before you do, pick a time when she’s not there and move out any valuable or sentimental items that you couldn’t stand to lose…to a friend or family member’s house, or to a storage unit. Otherwise they could be subject to destruction via smashing, slashing, burning, etc.
….. and don’t forget to take the ice cube trays out of the freezer. If they aren’t bolted down, she will take them too.
That’s how a $0.40 item can cost $4000 in the divorce court of “That’s mine. This is yours.”
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Might also be a good idea to quickly go get yourself some home insurance if you don’t already 😛
My Goal: To Leave Society.
I agree with everyone else here that you need to kick her out. I can understand where you are coming from being young and having been close to her I use to be the same way. I am still young and don’t sleep around so I would always try to think of reasons why I shouldn’t break up with my girlfriends even though deep down I wanted to because I knew it wasn’t working out and I wasn’t happy. If you are like me and don’t sleep around I know how it can feel to know you won’t be getting anymore pussy for a while and it can make you think second thoughts, but you have to stay strong and realize it isn’t worth it. I remember after breaking up with my first girlfriend after I dated her again after my second girlfriend it was really hard to get over not having sex a first. Just stay strong and eventually you will be able to go back to jacking off working just as good. Also remember she cheated on you while you were married with her criminal boyfriend. Like everyone else said if things were reversed she would have already kicked you out and had an army of loyal women supporters behind her. You owe her nothing and need to get her out of your place because the longer she stays the greater chance she has to claim it is her place and you need to leave.
Also is your place her permanent address? I don’t know if every state is different, but last year my friends brother would not leave the house even though his step mom said she wanted him out on a certain date. They looked up the process of eviction and you just can’t kick some one out if that place is their residence. You have to tell them they have 30 days until you serve them with an eviction notice. Also you cannot take away things like power and water during those 30 days. However my friend and his step mom changed the wifi password, pass word locked all the tv’s direct tv boxes and that was allowed.
On a final note when you go to tell her to leave masterbate before you do it so your head is clear. That way if she takes her top off and comes on to you you will have no hormones to give you a second thought.
Guys, I’m ashamed to say I haven’t had the b~~~~ to do it yet. I have let her know that we’re not going to last, & when I was drunk (lol) I laid it all out — but I still haven’t kicked her out. She (of course) cried when I really laid it on thick, & I think it’s because she knows my whole outlook on relationships & women has changed. She told me she’s completely fine with not having anything in her name, & she completely understands why I put in for an annulment right away. She was completely cool with the prenup even! By all accounts, she did her best to not be a mooch/parasite like most women are. I really do believe that she is a rarity in *that* regard, but it doesn’t feel right. I KNOW that I shouldn’t be with her, & I’m not really sure why. But I know. It could simply be because I obviously got disrespected pretty epically. She obviously knows I’ve never been with anyone else, & she f~~~s this guy — even after I told her it was going to happen. She kept saying “Someone has to take him to drug court” lmao! And “I know I’m not going to cheat on you”. Her & this piece of s~~~ were going to the beach with my daughter! YET, I feel like her f~~~ing apology is TRULY genuine (stupid, stupid, stupid). She claims she can’t believe she f~~~ed up so badly. I should have just ended it instantly. That would have made everything so much simpler. We just rode up with my daughter & got a f~~~ing Christmas tree, lights, ornaments ect. All the years, memories, & the fact that her & her entire family is basically convinced that the house I’m having built is going to be *our* new home. They thought I was the biggest asshole for getting a prenup! I just laughed. I will never even f~~~ing think of the concept of marriage in a serious way ever again. And when I find a way out of this emotional bulls~~~ — which I will — I’m never giving my heart away like this again.
I’m going to write her brother & let him know that she’s not going to be living with me for much longer. He’s also a pathetically whipped mangina, but way worse than me believe it or not. Actually, I know most of you will scoff at the notion, but I’ve always been a MGTOW at heart. The smoking craters of lives that I saw around me as a child growing up made me realize quickly that relationships & marriage was horrible for men. It was still stupid either way, but that’s why I wouldn’t even consider it without a prenup. Anyways, if her brother’s woman permits, she could probably stay with them. Doing this before/around Christmas hurts to even think about honestly. And my daughter loves us together. I’m not going to see her as much. But I know it has to end for me.
By the way, just to give you guys a better idea of my situation, we’re currently living at my parent’s until the house is done (Dec. 15th or before). I rented out my other place to help get some cash together, so we’ve been at my parent’s for almost a year. Anyways, she hates it there. She’s been wanting out pretty bad for a few months, & now that it’s so close she’s basically frothing at the mouth to get out & “start our new life” basically. It’s just a really weird situation. The longer I wait the worse her reaction will be though.
cellsworth wrote:
Guys, I’m ashamed to say I haven’t had the b~~~~ to do it yet.
I looked at it this way. You can have a clean wound, one cut with a sharp knife — or you can have lots of scratches and bruises. The clean wound will heal quickly and there will be no pus.
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