48 hrs. post "I want a divorce" conversation

All those times you wanted to stand up for yourself and put her in her place, it’s not too late. NOW is the time to settle the score. Either you sit and wait 6 months for her to see all the lawyers and save up cash to ruin you, or you lawyer up and file asap cold as ice.

Be ruthless, because her lawyers and support network will be. You said you only really have yourself, well, rely on yourself. You’ve given enough over the years, she’s taken. Draw the line now and try to claw back what you can before she royally f~~~s you over and takes everything.

Stay here, get advice, I have not been divorced but those here who have, wherever you live, will know what to do. Show her exactly what you are capable of as a man that has taken too much s~~~…going around your house with a hammer smashing things?, two mental health councillors?, She’s crazy and no matter what she does she can blame her mood swings or medication.

You have tried your best and given so much, for this to be how it ends. She is a master manipulator and her network will paint you as a villain. Even if you gave her everything and killed yourself they would hate you and say you were a coward. Be the bastard they are making you out to be, f~~~ing rinse her as much as possible, protect your cash and assets before she gets applauded by her network for taking it away.

She might accuse you of being abusive to gain favour with the courts. Nothing is off limits. Record every interaction and non interaction. Make a diary so you can account for who you saw and when and what you did on what days, this could help if she says you threatened her in the supermarket or some s~~~. She is now the enemy and she will use tears and sex to draw more power.

This is what you get for all your years of service to her?. It’s not over, make sure it is and make sure you finally come out in top, as the man you always have been.

Stay strong soldier, you’ve got this.

You will battle these periods of self doubt and blame for a while. After I filed for divorce, I had a few nights of crying while driving to my brother’s house. I thought I was a horrible person, a monster, to do this to our family.

However, after filing for divorce, her true persona revealed itself. She was a calculating and selfish person. She didn’t apologize for treating me poorly, even after I admitted my failings as a husband. She continued to lay all blame on me. Working to afford our large house, bills, cars, a maid, vacations was seen as work obsessed. Helping her with her calculus and chemistry homework was seen as arrogantly showing off how smart I was. Working in the yard was castigated as ignoring the family. Spending more time with the family led to being blamed for ignoring the yardwork.

We all have our faults and know our own motives. If you can say you tried, then that is all you can do.

When I met with my lawyer for the first time, he asked how I wanted to proceed. I told him that I wanted to be able to tell my son when he’s older, that I acted reasonably, fairly, and can hold my head up. My lawyer’s partner wanted to meet me because she’d never had a client that was willing to negotiate fairly. My trial is almost over and I’m not going to come out as good as I’d hoped, but I will be better off. More importantly, if my son ever questions the divorce, I can look him squarely in the eye and tell him I was honest and fair. My mind rests easy knowing this.

I kept mine too long finally threw her out with the statement (die in the gutter you c~~~) yeh I said that but was thinking worse things

Love you man.

If you’re looking for resources, Misandry Today has a talk show called the Layman’s Legal Clinic which discusses and answers questions from men going through divorce. He is MGTOW through and through (used to post on this site, in fact). It may be worth looking into if you have free time.

Ranger One wrote:

Hate to tell you this, but women don’t really love men. They only love what men can do for them.

He’s one sick Dude (just kidding Ranger One, well no, not really. :)) but Ranger One is also one smart dude and he gave you the only piece of Red Pill knowledge you need. You are a means to an end, whether that end is sex, having a comfortable life while doing the least work possible, or your sperm. You stopped doing it for her, whatever that “it” was and now she is done.

But how like a woman to leave the actual work, i.e. the break-up, to you. She has been molding your mind to this resolution for some time, only you know how long. My wife did the same thing.

Take care. Every man on this website has been through the same thing and every man on this site will tell you the same thing, its better now.

You are like a heroin addict going through withdrawal. But when the shakes and the nausea are over you will wonder what you ever needed her for.

Don’t worry about posting an intro, I think you just did.

Focus wrote:

5 – I’m starting to be afraid of that. About two weeks ago she went through the house with a hammer destroying everything, and I mean everything. It took me two days straight to clean up the amount of glass. I have never seen such a thing. I’m new to be able to post so not sure if there’s a way to share pics or not, but you would be impressed.

Goodday Sir.

I appreciate you sharing your life, but never share pics, or names.
You are the hunted one, and this is a public space.
You would not stand on the Town square and expose those pictures like an art gallery, would you.
You would not walk through Wallmart screaming your story at the top of your lungs would you.

All the Boys and Men here do is one thing: Try to save your bacon, now and in the future.
do not paint a target on your forehead, stay discreet.

because your wife… she is reading this topic as well.

Welcome.

Focus wrote:

Fortunately she had her s~~~ tied up long before I met her. Been dumping it in for 11 years… zero chance she spits out a kid. Literally the only saving grace I have.

I know who the guy on deck is. I don’t think she’s actually f***ing him yet, but I’d give that another few days, maybe a week or two at best. When my head is on straight it doesn’t bother me because omg I feel sorry for the next dude in line. He has NO idea what he’s getting himself into. She’s under the care of two different mental health professionals and was diagnosed bi-polar years back, but over the years they’ve kind of changed their mind and her current diagnosis is PTSD from past sexual abuse, generalized anxiety disorder, and clinical depression. The depression part has been a thing over the years… she wakes up in the morning, nothing at all bad happens, within 30 minutes she’s walking around crying, can’t tell you what’s wrong or why she’s crying, gets back in the bed and doesn’t get up again until the next day.

Those were the days I went outside and drank a couple beers and washed my car because I knew she was done for the day and wouldn’t come out bitching at me…

Check your state laws to see if you have adultery laws on the books. If she is cheating while married you can get these laws executed against her. In my state, adultery is classified as a felony and it is a prosecutable offense. Not many people know this though. So check it out.