40 yo MD

Fascinating comments – seems even Doctors are not good enough for the modern cupcakes…

Lingo wrote:

Thank you for the welcome.

As Chir writes, I didn’t become a doc to get women, but on some level, the consideration of a vague future plan as a husband and dad has always been guiding my life and efforts. Reading philosophy, trying to answer the question, “What is the good life?” I’ve always pictured my grandfather in the days of my childhood summer vacations, sitting on the beach surrounded by extended family and telling stories and teaching me how to fish, how to use a pocketknife, how to fix things. On some level, I’ve lived my life striving towards a goal of sufficient ability and stability where I could provide for a family like he did. Although it is a nebulous, poorly defined dream, it’s something I always assumed would start taking shape and clarifying as I grew up. I just needed a good, righteous woman to work with me towards that goal of a good, happy life, with love and family at the center. These women I wrote about above, they initially seemed like good people who might have shared that journey. I didn’t go into those relationships lightly or merely for superficial or lustful reasons. It’s scary to contemplate how easily I’ve been led to misjudge. Perhaps scarier to consider how much I overestimated my own ability to judge whether someone is an honest, upright, loveable person. And it is very unsettling to contemplate a future without the goal, however vague, of settling down and living a loving life and providing for loved ones.

Heheh. Seems like you’re attracted to the drama queens. At least that way, you catch them out at their tricks early on (before marrying them) when they pull some dim-witted drama-queen rip-off.

In my case, I was attracted to the solid, reliable types. But after 5-8 years of marriage contempt would begin to creep into the marriage (in the sense of “familiarity breeds contempt”) and the wives would increasingly go nuts and agitate for better. I would either have to fall into a permanent “enabler” role to keep them happy, or fight them tooth and nail. And when I fought them, we divorced and they ended up with half of everything. Two marriages for 10 years each, two divorces.

Anyway, don’t look back to your grandfather’s day. Those days are gone. Women have too many choices, too many way to take the money and run. So they simply aren’t going to stick around for a lifetime playing the dutiful homemaker. Just not going to happen anymore.

You can still interact with women. Just don’t marry them, and don’t make them the centerpiece of your life. And when they become more trouble than they’re worth, send them packing and move on to another one. It’s the modern way.

Anyway, welcome!

Nero wrote:

90% of assets??!! Why?!! Christ Jesus! I see you have a real strong, independent woman on your hands.

Being relatively asset-poor but income-rich, and my strong desire to sever all financial commitments once and for all, this was always going to be my strategy. I’ve been paying ‘her’ mortgage for over 5 years after our separation up until this point, which I consider more than long enough for her to “get back on her feet”.

NGE

NGE;

We both forgot the cardinal rule –

“Women don’t like being married to a doctor, but divorced from one.”

You’ve had quite the experiences over the years, welcome to the site.

Eyeswideopen wrote:

NGE;

We both forgot the cardinal rule –

“Women don’t like being married to a doctor, but divorced from one.”

I wish I knew about that rule beforehand, although I suspect I was too c~~~struck at the time to have heeded it anyway.

Both of my teenaged sons want to be doctors; I am already priming them for MGTOW.

NGE

Gnostic says it so well:

“More often then not, your kids will be taken away from you and taught to hate you because the monster wanted child support.”

Great statement to tape up to the mirror so you read it every morning when starting your day.

Lol; c~~~struck.
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Yeah, I can’t claim credit for that one, it’s been used widely in Australia for a while. Some union rep said it on national TV once, which caused a FUROR in the feminazi media.

NGE

Welcome Lingo. I joined here recently and the people here are great. I’m 37, never married and no kids. When I was younger I was told “there is someone for everyone,”you’ll meet someone one day” and all the cliches. Now as my thirties wind down I’m losing that hope every month and year. You’re not alone in your frustration and disappointment. I’m glad I found this site because I know I’m not alone in solitude and that it is possible to walk away from a broken dream and be happy.

Much respect to you and your dedication for medical school. We can never have enough good doctors.