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1. Do 50% (or more) of housework.
You need to do your share of housework all the time, of your own accord, without procrastinating, without being asked, without making excuses. Recognize that our domestic habits and our internalized ideas about unpaid domestic work are hugely gendered and hugely benefit men, and accept that it is your responsibility to fight against this. If feminism is the theory, clean dishes are the practice. Over the next week, take note of how much housework you do as compared to women you live with and note where it is or is not an equitable division.
2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.
Recognize that women are disproportionately responsible for emotional labour and that being responsible for this takes away time and energy from things they find fulfilling.
3. Consume cultural products produced by women.
In whatever your interests are — French cinema, astrophysics, baseball, birdwatching — ensure that women’s voices and women’s cultural products are represented in what you are consuming. If they are not, make an effort to seek them out.
4. Give women space.
Many women walk around — especially at night or while alone — feeling on edge and unsafe. Being in close physical proximity to an unknown man can exacerbate this feeling. Recognize that this is not an unreasonable fear for women to have, given how many of us have experienced harassment or abuse or been made to feel unsafe by men when we are in public spaces. Also recognize that it doesn’t matter if you are the kind of man who a woman has any actual reason to fear, because a woman on the street doesn’t have a way of knowing this about you or not.
Examples: If a seat is available on public transit next to a man, take that seat rather than one next to a woman. If you are walking outside in the dark close to a woman walking alone, cross the street so that she doesn’t have to worry someone is following her. If a woman is standing alone on a subway platform, stand some distance away from her.
5. … but insert yourself into spaces where you can use your maleness to interrupt sexism.
Examples: challenge men who make sexist comments and jokes. If you see a female friend in a bar/at a party/on the subway/wherever looking uncomfortable as a man is speaking to her, try to interject in a friendly way that offers her an opportunity for an “out” if she wants it. If you see a situation where a woman looks like she may be in distress while in the company of a man, stand nearby enough that you make yourself a physical presence, monitor the situation, and be in a position to call for help if needed.
Things like this can super difficult, awkward, and complicated to know how to do, but it’s worth trying anyway. Making yourself feel momentarily uncomfortable is a fair tradeoff for making a woman feel more comfortable.
6. When a woman tells you something is sexist, believe her.7. Educate yourself about sexual consent and make sure there is clear, unambiguous communication of consent in all your sexual relationships.
8. Be responsible for contraception.If you are in a relationship where contraception is necessary, offer to use methods that do not have health risks for women (use of hormones, surgeries, etc.) and treat these as preferable options. If your partner prefers a particular method, let her be in charge of making that decision without questioning or complaining about it. Don’t whine about condom usage, and be responsible for buying them and having them available if that’s the method you’re using.
Assume financial responsibility for any costs related to contraception. Women earn less than men, and also have to assume all the physical risk of pregnancy. Further, in instances where contraception involves any amount of physical risk, it is virtually always women who must assume this risk. As a gesture that redresses a minuscule amount of this disparity, heterosexual men should finance the whole cost of contraceptives.
9. Get the HPV vaccine.
If you are a young man, get it. If you have a young son, ensure he gets it. Since women are the ones who are disproportionately affected by the consequences of HPV, as a matter of fairness men should be the ones who at least assume the potential risks of getting vaccinated. (I am hugely pro-vaccines in general and don’t believe there actually are significant risks, but this is a matter of principle.)
10. Have progressive name politics.If you and your female partner decide that the institution of marriage is something you want to be involved with, be willing to both keep your existing surnames. If having a common surname with your spouse is important to you, be willing to change your surname and treat this as a preferable option to your spouse changing hers.
11. If you have children, be an equal parent.Be willing to take paternity leave and to stay home and care for them when they are young. Divide childcare responsibilities so that you are doing at least 50% of the work, and ensure it is divided such that you and your partner both get to spend an equal amount of “play” time with your children too.
12. Pay attention to and challenge informal instances of gender role enforcement.
For example, if you are at a family function or dinner party, pay attention to whether it is mostly/only women who are doing food preparation/cleaning/childcare while men are socializing and relaxing. If it is, change the dynamic and implore other men to do the same.
13. Be mindful of implicit and explicit gendered power differentials in your intimate/domestic relationships with women…whether a partner or family members or roommates.
Work to recognize where inherent structural power differentials based on race, class, gender, sexual orientation, age (and so on). Where you benefit from these structural imbalances, educate yourself about your privilege and work on finding ways to create a more equitable balance of power. For example, if you are in a domestic partnership where you are the primary income earner, educate yourself about the gendered wage gap, and work on dividing labour and economic resources within your household in a way that increases the economic autonomy of your partner.
14. Make sure that honesty and respect guide your romantic and sexual relationships with women.
The way you treat women with whom you are in a relationship is a mirror of your values about women in general. It doesn’t work to espouse feminist theory and then treat your partners like trash. Be upfront and open about your intentions, communicate openly so that women have the ability to make informed, autonomous decisions about what they want to do.
15. Don’t be an online bystander in the face of sexism.
Challenge people who make, say, or post sexist things on the Internet, especially on social media.
16. Be responsible with money in domestic/romantic relationships.
Know that if you are irresponsible with money, this necessarily impacts your partner and since women still make less than men overall (and live longer), this is a feminist issue.
Example: Your credit card debt/money wastage/gambling problem impacts her economic livelihood and future. Share budget making, tax filing, and general personal finance duties and be open and honest about household money management.
17. Be responsible for your own health.Men go to the doctor less often than women for issues troubling them, and when they do, it’s often at the urging of women in their lives. To have a long and healthy partnered life for both you and your spouse means being responsible for your own health, noting any issues, and taking them seriously. Since we’re dependent on one another, your long-term health is also her long-term health.
18. Don’t ogle or make comments about women. (i.e., Keep your tongue in your mouth and comments to yourself.)
Even though women may be more prone to wearing more revealing outfits than men, don’t ogle them just because you want to and can. Though you may find someone attractive, there’s a line between noticing and being creepy/disrespectful. It makes the ogler feel uncomfortable, as well as any women who notice the ogling or are aware of the comments.
19. Pay attention to the sex of experts and key figures presenting information to you in the media.
When you are watching an expert on TV, reading articles, etc., notice how often this information will come from men and, at the very least, wonder how a female perspective might be different.
20.Ensure that some of your heroes and role models are women.21. Praise the virtues and accomplishments of women in your life to others.
In everyday conversation and in communication in general, talk to others about women you know in a positive light. Suggest your female friends for projects, jobs, and collaborations with other people you know.
22. Have integrity with your male friends. (i.e., Don’t be a “bro.”)
When a male friend is doing something sexist (being a deadbeat dad, down-talking women, ogling women, secretly spending shared money, lying to their partner, etc.) have integrity and say something to your friend. It’s not enough to think it’s wrong; let them know you think it’s wrong.
23. Don’t treat your spouse like a “nag.” If she is “nagging,” you are probably lagging.
24. Know that acknowledging your own sexist opinions and stereotypes you hold is not enough. Do something about them.
25. Befriend women.
If you don’t have any female friends, figure out why you don’t and then make some. Make sure they are authentic, meaningful relationships.The more we care about and relate to one anther, the better chance we stand of creating a more egalitarian society.
26. Find female mentors/leaders. (i.e., Be subordinate to women.)If you are seeking a mentor, or want to volunteer with an organization, go with a woman, or woman-led organization. Know that there’s a lot you can learn from women in positions of authority.
27. When in a romantic relationship, be responsible for events and special dates associated with your side of the family.
Remember your family members’ birthdays, anniversaries and important events. Don’t rely on your spouse to send cards, make phone calls, organize reunions, etc. It is your family, and thus your responsibility to remember, care about, and contact them.
28. Don’t police women’s appearance.
Women are taught to internalize intensely restrictive beauty norms from the time they are small children. Don’t do or say things that makes women feel like they aren’t meeting this norm, or create pressure on them to meet it. At the same time, it is equally not a feminist response to do or say things that pressure women to use their body to resist these norms if they don’t want to. Recognize that there are significant social sanctions for women who disobey beauty norms and they shouldn’t be expected to act as martyrs and accept these sanctions if they don’t want to.
Whether according to your personal aesthetic or ideals you think she wears too much makeup or too little, removes too much body hair or not enough, it is none of your business how women choose for their bodies to look.
29. Offer to accompany female friends if they have to walk home alone at night…or in a public space where they may be likely to feel unsafe.
But don’t be pushy about it or act like you are being the Ultimate Gentleman for doing so.
30. Inject feminism into your daily conversations with other men.
If your father doesn’t do his fair share of housework, talk to him about why this is important. If your friend cheats on his girlfriend or speaks negatively about her, talk to him candidly about respecting individual women with whom he is intimate is part of having respect for women in general. Have conversations with your younger brothers and sons about sexual consent.
31. If you have a tendency to behave inappropriately toward women when you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, do not consume drugs or alcohol.
32. Be aware of the physical and emotional space you occupy, and don’t take up more space than you need.
Use your fair share of “air space” in conversations, give as much to relationships as you take, don’t sit with your legs splayed so that other people can’t comfortably sit next to you, etc.
33. Walk the walk about income inequality.
Women still earn about 77% as much as men. If you are in a position where you are financially able to do so, consider donating a symbolic 23% of your income to social justice-oriented causes. If 23% sounds like a lot to you, that’s because it is a lot and it’s also a lot for women who don’t have a choice whether to forfeit this amount or not.
34. Get in the habit of treating your maleness as an unearned privilege that you have to actively work to cede rather than femaleness being an unearned disadvantage that women have to work to overcome.
35. Self-identify as a feminist.
Speak about feminism as a natural, normal, uncontentious belief, because it should be. Don’t hedge and use terms like “humanist” or “feminist ally” that reinforce the idea that the F-word itself is a scary word.
Thoughts???
yay… Another list from women and manginas.
1 practical step.
Don’t support feminismFeminists are “equal” they can support themselves.
F~~~ing retards.There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it
Anonymous7Eh, too much work.
How about instead IGMOW and just f~~~-off down the road and let the laydeez fend for themselves?Venom thank you for bringing us this s~~~.
Little doses of red pill is a good thing.OH MY GOD!
Good lord! Is that all these hoes can do is make lists for men to follow?!?
How many f~~~ing lists are they going to come up with to say MEN! BE OUR BITCHES! ?
How many minutes are we men going to waste on reading their Nazi crap?!?
Haven’t they figured out by now that Men will do whatever the f~~~ they want in a FREE society?!? That they cannot DICTATE to Men what is and isn’t sexism like we’re some kind of snotty 5yr-olds?
What in the f~~~ing hell do they take us for?!?
On one side they say they’re NOT our mothers and on the other they’ll go ahead and act just like them?!?
Who still gives a s~~~ about these lists?!
What MAN will call himself a feminist?!I’ll print this list and put the sheets in my toilet.
Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!How feminism takes a sugar coated f~~~ of my dick. If it can find any f~~~s to give
Anonymous42Venom, dude, put the lid back on the sewer!
P.S. PLEASE put the lid back on the sewer!
Anonymous6Eh, too much work.
How about instead IGMOW and just f~~~-off down the road and let the laydeez fend for themselves?Venom thank you for bringing us this s~~~.
Little doses of red pill is a good thing.You know me man, I like to start a dialogue. I came across this and I knew it would be something to talk about.
Get the HPV vaccine.
This.
Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.
I have an idea:
Live alone, there house work 100% me.
Don’t have a relationship covers everything else.
MGTOW 😀
Hey guys we are the greatest supporters of feminism ever.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
Anonymous25I’m just going to leave this here:
So what constitutes a cult? Eichel listed several factors:
“Beware of any kind of pressure. That’s probably the single most important advice I can give anyone. Any kind of pressure to make a quick decision about becoming involved in any intensive kind of activity or organization.”
“Be wary of any leader who proclaims him or herself as having special powers or special insight. And, of course, divinity.”
“The group is closed, so in other words, although there may be outside followers, there’s usually an inner circle that follows the leader without question, and that maintains a tremendous amount of secrecy.”“The group uses deceptive means, typically, to recruit new members, and then once recruited will subject its members to an organized program of thought reform, or what most people refer to as brainwashing.”
“Typically cults also exploit their members….mostly financially. Within the group, they’ll exploit members financially, psychologically, emotionally and, all too often, sexually.”
“A very important aspect of cult is the idea that if you leave the cult, horrible things will happen to you. This is important, and it’s important to realize. That people outside of a cult are potential members, so they’re not looked upon as negatively as people inside the cult who then leave the cult.”
I don’t get it—I thought a feminist needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle? Reading that list is sounds like they need us for lots of stuff. MMMmmmm
Anonymous7That they cannot DICTATE to Men what is and isn’t sexism like we’re some kind of snotty 5yr-olds?
Actually they can and do.
1. The fact that the system is on their side allows them to.
2. As long as there are men that worship at the alter of the stinky holie of holies they can and will.The good news is that there are men like us that know the truth and reject this s~~~ by simply NFG.
Everyday on this forum I read little truth bombs that indicate snowflakes are miserable and more and more men are GTOW.
There is a growing segment of weemins that want to return to tradcon. Here is the fun part, it is too f~~~ing late.
How about 36 practical steps in the opposite direction from any woman who thinks I’m about to do ANY of that s~~~ for her benefit.
Step 1 to dealing with those people whom write numerical lists of steps to support feminism. Run. Do not walk. Run away from such people.
Actually they can and do.
They can and do, yes. That doesn’t mean any self-respecting man will take it seriously.
Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!1. Do 50% (or more) of housework.
You need to do your share of housework all the time, of your own accord, without procrastinating, without being asked, without making excuses. Recognize that our domestic habits and our internalized ideas about unpaid domestic work are hugely gendered and hugely benefit men, and accept that it is your responsibility to fight against this. If feminism is the theory, clean dishes are the practice. Over the next week, take note of how much housework you do as compared to women you live with and note where it is or is not an equitable division.
I do my own dishes and clean my own place. But if a woman is going to be in a relations~~~ with me, she’s going to be expected to do the same s~~~ I do. That is, after all “equality”.
2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.
Recognize that women are disproportionately responsible for emotional labour and that being responsible for this takes away time and energy from things they find fulfilling.
And men do not also make this sacrifice? We work longer hours, doing harder work just so you can outlive us. What about the things WE find fulfilling? Oh right. You belittle them and mock us for enjoying them.
3. Consume cultural products produced by women.
In whatever your interests are — French cinema, astrophysics, baseball, birdwatching — ensure that women’s voices and women’s cultural products are represented in what you are consuming. If they are not, make an effort to seek them out.
I don’t NEED to do that. In fact I don’t care. As a free person, I’ll “consume” what I like. I don’t care who makes it. If it’s quality, and appeals to me, I’ll deal with it. But I’m not going out of my way “cuz wimmen”.
4. Give women space.
Many women walk around — especially at night or while alone — feeling on edge and unsafe. Being in close physical proximity to an unknown man can exacerbate this feeling. Recognize that this is not an unreasonable fear for women to have, given how many of us have experienced harassment or abuse or been made to feel unsafe by men when we are in public spaces. Also recognize that it doesn’t matter if you are the kind of man who a woman has any actual reason to fear, because a woman on the street doesn’t have a way of knowing this about you or not.
Examples: If a seat is available on public transit next to a man, take that seat rather than one next to a woman. If you are walking outside in the dark close to a woman walking alone, cross the street so that she doesn’t have to worry someone is following her. If a woman is standing alone on a subway platform, stand some distance away from her.
Why would you feel you need so much space for yourself away from men, unless it was because you hate men and find them repulsive and can’t bring yourself to be around them? That is the only logical reason. In which case, you can have all the space you like. Stay away from me.
5. … but insert yourself into spaces where you can use your maleness to interrupt sexism.
Examples: challenge men who make sexist comments and jokes. If you see a female friend in a bar/at a party/on the subway/wherever looking uncomfortable as a man is speaking to her, try to interject in a friendly way that offers her an opportunity for an “out” if she wants it. If you see a situation where a woman looks like she may be in distress while in the company of a man, stand nearby enough that you make yourself a physical presence, monitor the situation, and be in a position to call for help if needed.
Things like this can super difficult, awkward, and complicated to know how to do, but it’s worth trying anyway. Making yourself feel momentarily uncomfortable is a fair tradeoff for making a woman feel more comfortable.
You find me toxic, and overbearing, but want to USE me as a tool in your agenda. I’m supposed to keep my space until ONLY when it benefits you. No thanks.
6. When a woman tells you something is sexist, believe her.
Does that mean I can call out a woman when she says something sexist and hold her accountable? This whole post is sexist.
7. Educate yourself about sexual consent and make sure there is clear, unambiguous communication of consent in all your sexual relationships.
Or say away from women and not risk being thrown in jail. Women confuse consent all the time and think because they woke up with a case of buyers remorse the next morning from their sexual encounter that she can cry rape. Women are the only rape apologists because they excuse women getting free sex because of “gina tingles” and then publicly shaming a man for it.
8. Be responsible for contraception.
If you are in a relationship where contraception is necessary, offer to use methods that do not have health risks for women (use of hormones, surgeries, etc.) and treat these as preferable options. If your partner prefers a particular method, let her be in charge of making that decision without questioning or complaining about it. Don’t whine about condom usage, and be responsible for buying them and having them available if that’s the method you’re using.
Assume financial responsibility for any costs related to contraception. Women earn less than men, and also have to assume all the physical risk of pregnancy. Further, in instances where contraception involves any amount of physical risk, it is virtually always women who must assume this risk. As a gesture that redresses a minuscule amount of this disparity, heterosexual men should finance the whole cost of contraceptives.
Yes, fine. But that means females should be too. No sponging off taxpayer money and the government to get your contraceptives. Take some ownership and responsibility and pay for it yourself. Otherwise, don’t have sex.
9. Get the HPV vaccine.
If you are a young man, get it. If you have a young son, ensure he gets it. Since women are the ones who are disproportionately affected by the consequences of HPV, as a matter of fairness men should be the ones who at least assume the potential risks of getting vaccinated. (I am hugely pro-vaccines in general and don’t believe there actually are significant risks, but this is a matter of principle.)
Sorry, my body my choice.
10. Have progressive name politics.
If you and your female partner decide that the institution of marriage is something you want to be involved with, be willing to both keep your existing surnames. If having a common surname with your spouse is important to you, be willing to change your surname and treat this as a preferable option to your spouse changing hers.
Identity politics is bad enough, now you want name politics too? Jesus Christ!!! Women are less likely to stay in a marriage if they don’t change their name. And understandably so, since their nature is to see man as a resource, when a man’s resource is used up, they can jump to the next man. Taking a man’s surname signifies investment into the relationship on her part. If she won’t do that, that’s simply another flag of a reason you should not marry her.
11. If you have children, be an equal parent.
Be willing to take paternity leave and to stay home and care for them when they are young. Divide childcare responsibilities so that you are doing at least 50% of the work, and ensure it is divided such that you and your partner both get to spend an equal amount of “play” time with your children too.
Single moms will not allow men to be equal parents. To the contrary, they do everything they can to vilify the father to the children, and legally cut the father out of the children’s lives. Even if statistics show children are better off with both parents than any single parent, and better off with the father than the mother.
12. Pay attention to and challenge informal instances of gender role enforcement.
For example, if you are at a family function or dinner party, pay attention to whether it is mostly/only women who are doing food preparation/cleaning/childcare while men are socializing and relaxing. If it is, change the dynamic and implore other men to do the same.
You’re trying to enforce gender roles RIGHT NOW!!!!
13. Be mindful of implicit and explicit gendered power differentials in your intimate/domestic relationships with women…whether a partner or family members or roommates.
Work to recognize where inherent structural power differentials based on race, class, gender, sexual orientation, age (and so on). Where you benefit from these structural imbalances, educate yourself about your privilege and work on finding ways to create a more equitable balance of power. For example, if you are in a domestic partnership where you are the primary income earner, educate yourself about the gendered wage gap, and work on dividing labour and economic resources within your household in a way that increases the economic autonomy of your partner.
Men have no power. A woman can pick up the phone, dial 9-1-1, and have her husband removed from the home for no particular reason, can file a claim of rape or abuse falsely – thus destroying his entire life, costing him his job, and any future job possibilities, along with his financial resources to get out of jail, and fight any charges. Along with any divorce that follows after. Marriage is in and of itself a “structural imbalance”.
14. Make sure that honesty and respect guide your romantic and sexual relationships with women.
The way you treat women with whom you are in a relationship is a mirror of your values about women in general. It doesn’t work to espouse feminist theory and then treat your partners like trash. Be upfront and open about your intentions, communicate openly so that women have the ability to make informed, autonomous decisions about what they want to do.
People who don’t have enough respect for themselves shouldn’t warrant any respect from others. Respect is earned. The simple fact I am seen as a resource, or a tool shows what little respect as a female that you have for ME.
15. Don’t be an online bystander in the face of sexism.
Challenge people who make, say, or post sexist things on the Internet, especially on social media.
I will do no such thing. Feminism says I am a disgusting piece of garbage that should be exterminated. That because I am a man, I am therefore less than human. I will not ever defend feminism.
16. Be responsible with money in domestic/romantic relationships.
Know that if you are irresponsible with money, this necessarily impacts your partner and since women still make less than men overall (and live longer), this is a feminist issue.
Example: Your credit card debt/money wastage/gambling problem impacts her economic livelihood and future. Share budget making, tax filing, and general personal finance duties and be open and honest about household money management.
Females are the ones notoriously bad with money. Buying outfits and shoes you don’t wear. Spending money on menial s~~~. In fact right now, my stepmother had thousands spent on gambling herself, and she cares not for what the repercussions are financially to her marriage.
17. Be responsible for your own health.
Men go to the doctor less often than women for issues troubling them, and when they do, it’s often at the urging of women in their lives. To have a long and healthy partnered life for both you and your spouse means being responsible for your own health, noting any issues, and taking them seriously. Since we’re dependent on one another, your long-term health is also her long-term health.
More female hypocrisy. Men are paying the way for women who don’t care about their health. In fact it’s easier to spray 30 ounces of perfume all over your body to hide your decrepit smell than it is to actually invest in bathing and personal hygiene.
18. Don’t ogle or make comments about women. (i.e., Keep your tongue in your mouth and comments to yourself.)
Even though women may be more prone to wearing more revealing outfits than men, don’t ogle them just because you want to and can. Though you may find someone attractive, there’s a line between noticing and being creepy/disrespectful. It makes the ogler feel uncomfortable, as well as any women who notice the ogling or are aware of the comments.
Don’t tell me what to do! You’re not the boss of me!
19. Pay attention to the sex of experts and key figures presenting information to you in the media.
When you are watching an expert on TV, reading articles, etc., notice how often this information will come from men and, at the very least, wonder how a female perspective might be different.
Why?
20.Ensure that some of your heroes and role models are women.
When they do something heroic sure. But they only seem to do it when the camera is rolling.
21. Praise the virtues and accomplishments of women in your life to others.
In everyday conversation and in communication in general, talk to others about women you know in a positive light. Suggest your female friends for projects, jobs, and collaborations with other people you know.
Women are not virtuous by nature. They are deceptive. But what you really mean is, you want me to ass kiss wimmenz. No thanks. Enough simps and cucks already do that. As a general rule, I don’t talk to women at work about non work related things.
22. Have integrity with your male friends. (i.e., Don’t be a “bro.”)
When a male friend is doing something sexist (being a deadbeat dad, down-talking women, ogling women, secretly spending shared money, lying to their partner, etc.) have integrity and say something to your friend. It’s not enough to think it’s wrong; let them know you think it’s wrong.
Chaperoning society is not my job.
23. Don’t treat your spouse like a “nag.” If she is “nagging,” you are probably lagging.
Then she’s free to do the task herself. Equality and all…
24. Know that acknowledging your own sexist opinions and stereotypes you hold is not enough. Do something about them.
Sure, when feminism eats its own words first, and when women stop living up to the sterotypes.
25. Befriend women.
If you don’t have any female friends, figure out why you don’t and then make some. Make sure they are authentic, meaningful relationships.The more we care about and relate to one anther, the better chance we stand of creating a more egalitarian society.
Why? Most of them are full of drama. They’re gossip queens. The more I’m around them, the less I want to BE around them.
26. Find female mentors/leaders. (i.e., Be subordinate to women.)
If you are seeking a mentor, or want to volunteer with an organization, go with a woman, or woman-led organization. Know that there’s a lot you can learn from women in positions of authority.
Women are lousy bosses. Because they’re fickle and indecisive. Why would I want to submit myself to someone so incapable?
27. When in a romantic relationship, be responsible for events and special dates associated with your side of the family.
Remember your family members’ birthdays, anniversaries and important events. Don’t rely on your spouse to send cards, make phone calls, organize reunions, etc. It is your family, and thus your responsibility to remember, care about, and contact them.
Family that picks up the phone and calls me gets phone calls in return. Family that doesn’t call me, gets silence. It’s not my responsibility to remember birthdays of people who don’t care enough about me to bother with my life just because we’re related by blood.
28. Don’t police women’s appearance.
Women are taught to internalize intensely restrictive beauty norms from the time they are small children. Don’t do or say things that makes women feel like they aren’t meeting this norm, or create pressure on them to meet it. At the same time, it is equally not a feminist response to do or say things that pressure women to use their body to resist these norms if they don’t want to. Recognize that there are significant social sanctions for women who disobey beauty norms and they shouldn’t be expected to act as martyrs and accept these sanctions if they don’t want to.
Whether according to your personal aesthetic or ideals you think she wears too much makeup or too little, removes too much body hair or not enough, it is none of your business how women choose for their bodies to look.
I don’t have to “police women’s appearance”. They do enough of that themselves. In fact, they do it so much, they ask for our opinions. Frankly, we’d rather not give it.
29. Offer to accompany female friends if they have to walk home alone at night…or in a public space where they may be likely to feel unsafe.
But don’t be pushy about it or act like you are being the Ultimate Gentleman for doing so.
That’s what the police a for. A simple 9-1-1 call will suffice. I’m not going to play guardian over something I do not own. I guard my possessions. If you are not my possession, then guarding you puts me at risk. No thank you. Esp when there’s no pay off for me.
30. Inject feminism into your daily conversations with other men.
If your father doesn’t do his fair share of housework, talk to him about why this is important. If your friend cheats on his girlfriend or speaks negatively about her, talk to him candidly about respecting individual women with whom he is intimate is part of having respect for women in general. Have conversations with your younger brothers and sons about sexual consent.
Why? Feminism is a disease.
31. If you have a tendency to behave inappropriately toward women when you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, do not consume drugs or alcohol.
My body, my choice. You have a right to a lot of things. The right not to be offended is not one of those things.
32. Be aware of the physical and emotional space you occupy, and don’t take up more space than you need.
Use your fair share of “air space” in conversations, give as much to relationships as you take, don’t sit with your legs splayed so that other people can’t comfortably sit next to you, etc.
When you dangle a c~~~ and b~~~~ between your knees then you can lecture me on the space I take up.
33. Walk the walk about income inequality.
Women still earn about 77% as much as men. If you are in a position where you are financially able to do so, consider donating a symbolic 23% of your income to social justice-oriented causes. If 23% sounds like a lot to you, that’s because it is a lot and it’s also a lot for women who don’t have a choice whether to forfeit this amount or not.
Income inequality as it relates to businesses is a myth. Income inequality as it relates to reality is that women make poor financial choices compared to men.
34. Get in the habit of treating your maleness as an unearned privilege that you have to actively work to cede rather than femaleness being an unearned disadvantage that women have to work to overcome.
All I heard here was the Charlie Brown teacher talking.. “bwahbwahbwahbwah-bwahbwah-bwahbwahbwahbwah”
35. Self-identify as a feminist.
Speak about feminism as a natural, normal, uncontentious belief, because it should be. Don’t hedge and use terms like “humanist” or “feminist ally” that reinforce the idea that the F-word itself is a scary word.
How about no. Why would I identify as something that hates me? That would make me a bonefide retard.
Dammmmmn. IRuleMe, dude you read all that s~~~?
Poor men, take a rest bro you need it.
That’s a lot of bulls~~~ in that article.
To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.
Dammmmmn. IRuleMe, dude you read all that s~~~?
Poor men, take a rest bro you need it.
That’s a lot of bulls~~~ in that article.
I thought it would never end. Then I hit #28 and saw the light at the end of the tunnel. You can do me a favor though, and smash that like button.
This is going to be the downfall of civilization.
…. reading that crazy list reminded me of some good old movies.
I thought it would never end. Then I hit #28 and saw the light at the end of the tunnel. You can do me a favor though, and smash that like button.
You bet !
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