Your parents push you for marriage and kids?

[MusclecarGolferParticipant 636]

Greetings,

Curious if any of any of your parents voiced support, opposition, or indifference to you (in your younger days for you elders) to get married and have children?

I was partially surprised to find out that both of my parents didn’t really want either for me; I’m 39, and their only child by the way. I say partially because I was able to infer that my mother didn’t want kids as she never oogled over them in public and just didn’t get preoccupied when she was around them in general. When I asked her about if she wanted to have me, she responded, “I gave your father his boy.” Quite an honest assessment for a mother to say about her offspring, eh? Needless to say, my mother is my best friend and actually agrees with some MGTOW perspectives that I have worked into our conversations – she grew up in the 40s and was from that earlier generation when honor, character, integrity, monogamy, and respect were not only popular, but encouraged.

I thought my father was a shoe-in as he would always do the baby talk with infants and engage with any toddlers he ran into. I was surprised to find out (from mom) that he did NOT want any grandkids because they would “screw up” his schedule. It was a shocking, yet reassuring, revelation.

In addition, dad surprisingly-admitted that he really doesn’t care if I get married as that would also likely “screw up” his schedule. We participate in a lot of car shows and I help out a lot at house and with the routine maintenance on our classic car collection.

Mother, although not really interested in seeing me married, has occasionally stated that she’d like to see me have a “little friend.” However, she seldom mentions this, and when she does, it’s usually as a fleeting comment. Although she has admitted that if that happened, she would have to find someone else to take her out golfing (dad’s mobility is deteriorating badly). I also help her maintain her sanity serving as her sounding board to societal oddities, as well as jointly psycho-analyzing dad.

Either way, I find it a bit unique that neither of my parents wanted me (their only child) to have any kids, or really get married. Your experiences?

[WallyParticipant]

Your parents are interesting and honest people. Glad you have a good relationship with them.

My Dad told me to go my own way, my mom wanted me to get married and have kids at one point but doesn’t press the issue anymore, she knows I don’t date anymore and that I will never marry or give her grandkids.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Yes, until my brother took the load off, married + 2 daughters.
So they got the grandkids.

Now I just hear “just keep looking and FIND one!!”….. maybe once a year I hear that s~~~.

It’s not a big deal anymore. 70% of America men under 36 are not married, so nobody can expect it and you’re hardly “odd” for that anymore. It’s the majority.

And if anyone asks “why don’t you have any kids???”
There’s an answer to that too….

“Why are you asking like it’s up to ME at all?”

They need some time to process that one. Whether a man wants kids ( or not ) is totally irrelevant. You have to answer with that. It simply doesn’t MATTER if a man “wants kids”. Don’t worry, they know. The question is a false pretense and a trap – just like a woman’s “OOPS”.

With +12 forms of brith control available to her – ( v.s 2 only for men ) – there is no such thing as “oops”. They phrase it that way on purpose too. “Don’t you want kids?” . . . . so nuke her right there.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 6]

I never had any pressure to have kids from family at all. When people ask I say no and try to leave it at that. Several times people have said to me, “You’ll have kids some day, just wait.” I immediately ask them this, “How do you know what I’ll be doing with my dick in the future? What do you know that I don’t?” That shuts them up fro good.

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

But I want a unicorn, (I WANT MY UNICORN GOD DAMMIT!!!)

Lol, I’m with you on that one. Cliche as it may sound, I actually am a romantic at heart and I wish things were different. But I had way too many red pills to choke down in the past three years for me to ever risk my health and sanity and welfare again.

I also told him for that to even be a possibility there has to be a girl that i actually like.

I still believe that there may be a woman out there in this planet of 7 billion people that I could love and be relatively happy with. Not a unicorn but pleasant enough that I could tolerate some of her other s~~~. BUT. What are the odds of me finding her? I would rather put $250 a week for the rest of my life buying scratchers tickets at the gas station.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

[AttonParticipant]

They stopped pressing pretty quickly on my end. I pretty much referred to women as Donald Trumps in stilettos and a dress, the issue was pretty much dropped after that.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

My dad began telling me at age 14 through the day he died- “Son, don’t EVER get married”. I wish he’d have gone into it describing how women change, view you as a wallet ,etc. I know he believed all these things. In retrospect the things he said/did indicate this. Would I have avoided it? Maybe not – like someone else said here – you can’t tell a kid what its like to grab a hot pot on the stove. He just has to get burnt to know what it feels like.

On the other hand my mom and sisters pressured me to marry my wife. They somehow wanted me to settle down – they called me Peter Pan b/c I just went from place to place and never settled with bitch for very long. Dammmmiiiittttt.

I told my bitch yesterday in one of our heated arguments that we have every 2 days, where we spew venom at each other – that I wished I’d never met her.

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