This is the first time I hear about the term omega male, I have no idea what it is.
Keep in mind that the terms alpha/beta and all the other “sex market” theory have been created by the pick-up artists and have nothing to do with the MGTOW philosophy, although some are tangentially relevant.
The way I see it, understanding what MGTOW is has two sides:
1. Understanding woman behavior, especially in the context of our current society.
Hypergamy: the instinct of women to choose the strongest, richest partner; the best provider for them and their children. This is most likely a result of human evolution.
There are several problems with following such instincts in our modern society:
a. While in the prehistoric ages all of these characteristics were found together in the same male, nowadays it is usually not the case. Rich men tend to have desk jobs that do not require or do not allow enough time for physical activity, while men who are very physically active often have significantly lower income.
( Note that there are men like sport stars for example, who are both strong and rich, which are often chased by hordes of women. )
Thus it is harder for women to find men who make them “feel” happy. They have multiple solutions for this problem:
A. They sleep around like crazy (aka “the c~~~ carousel”) with physically attractive males (aka “alpha male” or “Chad Thunderc~~~”) in their twenties, then “settle down” to marry a richer but less attractive guy (aka the “beta male” or the provider).
B. They marry the richer but less attractive guy, but have affairs with Chads.
C. A followed by B
D. They marry the richer but less attractive guy. They are faithful, but they feel “bored” and “miserable” and blame their mental state on the husband, making him miserable too.
b. As men grow older, women find them less attractive physically. Another cause for cheating.
c. The divorce laws nowadays offer the woman usually 50% of everything, child support and spousal support, which covers the “provider” part of their instinct. It works like an incentive for the woman to divorce you for a young strong guy regardless of how much money he has, because you will be paying their bills for 2 decades. Not to mention that you will usually lose the kids.
d. Women have a natural clock to seek new partners every 4 years. There was a book on this finding published by a female psychologist who experienced it herself, I don’t have the reference but maybe other members can point to it.
The wall: When women reach a certain age, usually at some point in their thirties, their bodies start producing more testosterone and their physical appearance changes, causing the features that make them sexually attractive to men to diminish. Most women are aware of this change as it is not sudden; it often marks the switch from riding the c~~~ carousel to finding a beta provider. Additionally, as they lose their power of manipulating men through flirting, some may become frustrated and bitter.
Feelings: Women are emotional creatures. Compared to men, they are guided more strongly by their subconscious feelings as opposed to their reason. If you don’t trust me, read some threads from https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/
NAWALT: The idea that “not all women are like that”, as in there are “good” women who do not cheat, do not marry/divorce you for your money etc. Usually given as a rebuttal of the above.
My view on this is that while it’s true that some women are better than others, when choosing a partner it is very difficult to predict which is which and how they will react to unexpected life changing situations (e.g. you losing your job or getting sick). If you make a mistake, the risk is very high: you will ruin your life emotionally and financially; meanwhile the benefits are not that great: companionship and children. Thus many men find marriage unattractive.
In a nutshell, one side of MGTOW is that marriage in our society is very risky while offering little benefits.
2. Understanding yourself
A lot of men evaluate themselves by how attractive they appear to women, to the point that it is one of the most important goals in their life to be attractive. This is most likely another instinct evolved by our species, although it is also heavily reinforced by our culture (e.g. kid’s stories and cartoons with knights in shining armor saving the princess).
The side effects are becoming insecure when rejected, and eventually unhappy or depressed as you keep doing something that your mind unconsciously realizes is pointless.
It is indeed pointless for two reasons.
First, women prefer stronger males. Strong males are attractive to a lot of women, so they don’t try too hard to please them. Thus if you are physically unattractive and you try to compensate by working harder to please women, you actually appear even less attractive to her. So you get either rejected, or taken advantage of. There is a joke that the best way to attract a woman is to tell her to leave.
Second, it is stupid to make it a life goal to please others, regardless of them being women, gods, alien overlords etc. You should instead find things you like to do and are good at, which are also financially sustainable, and follow your own dreams.
Thus the second side of MGTOW is to focus on yourself: your education, your career, your dreams.
This is my understanding of the MGTOW philosophy. But I’m a random guy on the Internet and new to this forum and not everyone here agrees with me, so take it with a grain of salt.
My advice is not to put any label on yourself. Just take any useful info you find here, apply the principles to your own life and share with us any stories or insights that might help others.
A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)
Varun 3 years, 6 months ago.
