You should have told me about the problem before you told me about the problem!!

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

Hi guys,
Just wanted to share this stupid nuggets I recalled today from my ex-girlfriend.

So basically, I was feeling very disrespected at the time – she was going against the rules SHE established at the start of the relationship that I attempted to stick to faithfully. That might sound very blue-pill, I guess it is, but I should point out I have Asperger Syndrome and this was my first relationship when I was 25. There are many social things I did not understand, so needed guidance to be told things about relationships.
Things like she got upset if I did not text her good morning and good night, because it made her feel unwanted. So lesson learnt – I attempted to always do this because I thought it was the right thing to do.

Do you think the rules work both way? No, of course they didn’t. How stupid of me to think otherwise.

There was a bunch of other stuff, but it was little things like this where such double standards began to be applied, and I got so fed up with it I called her out on all of it and told her I was no going to stand for it any longer etc.

Her response?
It’s a classic
“I’m sorry, but I didn’t mean to make you feel that way, BUT I do not appreciate you getting cross with me before messaging me first to talk about these problems”
Come again?

Let’s examine that statement. First off, I was not cross. I was very rational and matter of fact about it all. Secondly – WTF?
She was annoyed I had raised a problem BEFORE talking to her about the problem………..

Somehow she made me feel bad about it. :/

Anyway, just my musing of the day fella’s.

Keep up the good work everyone. This is all helping me feel sane.

 

[experiencedParticipant]

Thank you for sharing this.

Hi guys,
Just wanted to share this stupid nuggets I recalled today from my ex-girlfriend.

Congratulations. Great decision. From the rest of this post it’s clear she’s a c~~~.

So basically, I was feeling very disrespected at the time –

You were disrespected so you’re conclusion was correct.

she was going against the rules SHE established at the start of the relationship

The seventh circle of hell is reserved for the hypocrite = her.

that I attempted to stick to faithfully.

You’re a faithful guy. Good.

That might sound very blue-pill, I guess it is,

You didn’t know then what you do now.

but I should point out I have Asperger Syndrome and this was my first relationship when I was 25. There are many social things I did not understand, so needed guidance to be told things about relationships.

Where was your dad?
Things like she got upset if I did not text her good morning and good night, because it made her feel unwanted. So lesson learnt – I attempted to always do this because I thought it was the right thing to do.

We’ve all fallen for this, doing what they said they wanted. Now you know that NO female is worth this.

Do you think the rules work both way? No, of course they didn’t.

Correct + smart

How stupid of me to think otherwise.

you’re here, so no, your not stupid.

There was a bunch of other stuff, but it was little things like this where such double standards began to be applied,

those things say a lot.

and I got so fed up with it I called her out on all of it and told her I was no going to stand for it any longer etc.

Good!

Her response?  It’s a classic “I’m sorry, but I didn’t mean to make you feel that way,

to get her foot in the door

BUT I do not appreciate you getting cross with me before messaging me first to talk about these problems”
Come again?

Let’s examine that statement. First off, I was not cross.

TRUE

I was very rational and matter of fact about it all. Secondly – WTF?
She was annoyed I had raised a problem BEFORE talking to her about the problem………..

Good lesson for all of us, the nuthouse workings of the female’s organ inside the cranium.

Somehow she made me feel bad about it. :/

No more.

Anyway, just my musing of the day fella’s.

Keep up the good work everyone. This is all helping me feel sane.

You are helping others with posting this.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

Thanks Experienced. Much appreciated for all your thoughts on the matter and further examination of the situation.
It was something that was bugging me, so thought I would share.

As for the Questions about my Dad. Well, he also has Asperger Syndrome! So is very much the same way as me. Not really in a position to advise me.

However, he did once the relationship was over – namely that I was too much of a free spirit to be held down in a relationship like that, and I would have gone crazy in the end.

Guess he wanted me to learn from my mistakes!

[FermatParticipant 3478]

@ManaKnight I have Asperger’s Syndrome as well. Understanding social cues had always been a challenge for me. However, ever since I graduated form college, I have possessed an increase in social knowledge and literature related to societal structure and MGTOW has aided in this. I encourage those who have trouble understanding social cues to embrace their condition and use to QUESTION societal norms and practices. It will only aid you in the battle against gynocentrism and if used correctly, will literally save your life. It has certainly saved mine.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[RoyDalParticipant]

Fermat wrote:

@ManaKnight I have Asperger’s Syndrome as well.

Me too (self diagnosed, not official). I can understand social interactions intellectually, but the spinal reflex that dishonest manipulators seem to have is absent. Hence, we Asperger’s people are easy pickings for the con artists of this world, trusting souls that we are.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Mana KnightParticipant 333]

Thank you everyone. How interesting that there are so many here with A.S! (Ok  at least 3, but I don’t meet many in real life,)

I agree I did use it to question alot of her “norms” – often in a genuine way as I honestly wanted to know why things happened or what was expected, or even just things about women. She often found herself lost for words when I questioned these things, she would just tell me “that is how it is, but I don’t know…stop asking me why.”

She hated me asking “Why”.

 

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Mana Knight wrote:

She was annoyed I had raised a problem BEFORE talking to her about the problem……….. Somehow she made me feel bad about it. :/

Isn’t she “wonderful” 🙂 5/5 Loki Points, great subtle manipulation… screw her.

It’s a right thing to question/ask if unsure as it’s helpful and a wonderful defensive move aswell, as you can see.

 

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[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

I would say that, when it comes to human relationships (informal), “rules” are merely ways of communicating expectations.  They aren’t something that is followed blindly as an end in and of themselves.    And with women, expect them to change on the fly and possibly be forgotten.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

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