You have no life

[TriviumParticipant 1029]

Yesterday I had had terrible luck with my car narrowly avoiding an engine fire as oil had decided to literally coat my entire engine due to a busted sealant ring. I had spent a good 30 mins sitting by the roadside waiting for the bastard to cool down so I could wipe the previously smoking oil off of the engine while fashioning a makeshift seal out of some bicycle tire innertube that I happened to have in my car (worked surprisingly well). The rest of the day was spent getting the ‘high quality service’ brand dealer to figure out that it might be a good idea to just give me a new sealant ring instead of being a pain about it mumbling stuff about scheduled maintenance appointment.

So I was regaling this story today at the coffee machine to a few colleagues (men) and then afterwards drifted off into a story about after all that s~~~ I really enjoyed sitting down with no one to nag at me and just spending a few hours blowing off steam playing a game. And what do you know? One of the dried up prunes sitting next to the coffee machine (she always sits there, for a while I thought she was someone’s humorous attempt at furniture art) pipes up and say : “You know maybe if you had a woman in your life you could stop wasting your time playing games and get a life”.

I had literally never heard any woman say the actual words ‘get a life’, I’ve only ever seen it as a sideline remark on forums or youtube comments but never as an opening salvo in person from what I thought was a stack of leather handbags sitting on a chair.

I turned and stared at her for a few seconds trying to figure out how what she said actually made sense (it still doesn’t to me) and then I literally saw pages and pages of MGTOW posts with smart-ass retorts rolling off before my very eyes and I uttered something I would never even have dreamed to say a few years ago.

I said : “I don’t play games because I don’t have a life, I game because I choose to have many. You show me a man that is happy in his relationship and I’ll show you a miserable liar.”

The whole thing rolled off my tongue with such ease I was literally amazed by myself. After that I did take the cowards path and scampered off back to work right away so that the horrible wench wouldn’t have time to process it and come up with some hateful s~~~ to throw at me.

I did bask in that nice warm afterglow for a good hour afterwards though… it’s not often that I feel I said the right thing at the right time and I always tend to figure out what ‘I should have said’ on the ride home in my car.

And I don’t think I am wrong. I meet guys all the time in all walks of life that will volunteer the info that they’d rather rid of their wives and make excuses to themselves just to stay with them (usually sex, or the kids or finances etc).
It doesn’t usually take a lot of prodding to get people to say it either… the only exceptions are the new relationships or the freshly married.

Even the perfect couple next door (in their late 60s together for 40 years or so with a bunch of well adjusted male children) fight like cats and dogs… the old man told me himself that he would’ve ditched her ages ago if she wasn’t at least reliable.

So thats where we’re at… you have to be satisfied with ‘reliable’ in a relationship. Men do reliable every day of the week, we get hung from the tallest tree the second we stop being reliable but the best we can hope for in woman is ‘reliability’?

It seems like such hypocrisy to me that I am held to a 100 point checklist in terms of standards and the best I can possibly aim for in a woman is reliability. If I am pre-qualified to not be good enough and I can’t even hope to get a reasonable human being as a partner why would I even pursue a ‘woman in my life’?
Why would anyone?

"Listen to all, Follow none"

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Trivium wrote:

One of the dried up prunes sitting next to the coffee machine (she always sits there, for a while I thought she was someone’s humorous attempt at furniture art) pipes up and say : “You know maybe if you had a woman in your life you could stop wasting your time playing games and get a life”.

The next time some woman tries to shame you with that s~~~, you tell her:
“I tried that with your daughter, but she didn’t like anal. She couldn’t cook either.”

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Trivium wrote:

“You know maybe if you had a woman in your life you could stop wasting your time playing games and get a life”.

Trivium wrote:

I had literally never heard any woman say the actual words ‘get a life’,

I have. When I worked like a bastard with 2 and 3 jobs (including weekends) , I heard “you work too hard, you should really get a life” too many times – and the comment never sat well with me. It was before I understood what it really meant.

“Sacrifice yourself, and give up your hopes dreams, potential and plans for a woman – else you’re a loser”.

They refused to look at me with admiration or respect, and I never heard a positive “gosh you’re so diligent and dedicated!. Thank you for this time with you.” or any appreciation for what I DID do. Always a killjoy negative jab.

But then – many years later – I had one of them visiting in town where I was located for work. My place, car, and even my phone(!) was paid for by the company for a full year. She was throwing her head back and enjoying riding around in my chariot with the top down and the wind in her hair…..

I never forgot her telling me to “get a life”.
So I finally rubbed it in.

“Remember when you used to tell me I work too hard and needed to get a life? Bet you’re eating your words now.”

She will never forget I said that until she’s dead.

Trivium wrote:

“I don’t play games because I don’t have a life, I game because I choose to have many. You show me a man that is happy in his relationship and I’ll show you a miserable liar.”

Nicely done. I couldn’t have written a better reply in that moment.

Trivium wrote:

And I don’t think I am wrong

You’re not wrong. Observe the tombstones behind their eyes….

https://www.instagram.com/miserable_men/

One of those is a picture of a man standing with her purse slung over his arm waiting for her to finish wasting money at the mall. A woman left a comment next to it: “LMAO!!! She trained him well”.

That’s what women mean when they tell you to “get a life”.
Be her little doggy.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

I’ve heard the “get a life” many times—interesting how it always ALWAYS comes from married women, never men, never unmarried women. Thinking about it—it makes no sense. What does a married woman gain by saying this to you—she already has a walking ATM.

I used to know a woman at work who would say to me “You’ll he single forever!” as though this was something bad…I would tell her yes, and I will be much happier too.

[TattooDaveParticipant 6952]

When I’m with a woman I have no life. There is no disputing anecdotal evidence. Seriously how could you actually have a life and have a woman it’s like growing up and being a drummer you can’t do both. Maybe a rhythm guitarist

I can see their heads have been twisted and fed with worthless foam from the mouth. Bob d

[Anonymous 6]

Sometimes get the line or something along the lines of “You should get a wife” and I just throw “I’m not giving up my life” at them.

[Anonymous 42]

You need to marry up and get a life.

Tower Translation:

Such a beautiful strong stallion, you need a BIG FAT SADDLE and reigns and for my 400lb. ass to pull on.

EYE WASH!!!!!

MORE EYEWASH!!!

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Get a life

=

F~~~ you and the horse you rode in on.

Fuck this planet.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Keymaster wrote:

I have. When I worked like a bastard with 2 and 3 jobs (including weekends) , I heard “you work too hard, you should really get a life” too many times – and the comment never sat well with me. It was before I understood what it really meant.

I’ve had similar remarks many times when I was younger as well. I busted my ass to get through college debt free, which meant I spent many nights and weekends working. All the carousel riders would always say things like “You need to get a life,” “You need to get laid more,” “You need to have more fun,” etc.

Fast forward 10 years…carousel riders are all swimming in debt and hitting the wall, and I’ve had more times than I’d care to remember that one of them would look at me giving me that “save me!” look. Guess I’m glad I didn’t spend more of my time “having a life” like them, otherwise my life would be equally as s~~~ty as theirs right now. Its amazing how dedicating just a few years of your life to getting your act together can make the rest of your life so much more enjoyable yet most people can’t be bothered.

Trivium wrote:

“You know maybe if you had a woman in your life you could stop wasting your time playing games and get a life”.

Lol…if I didn’t have a life I might be dumb enough to think adding a woman to it would be a benefit. From my experience my “life” got less enjoyable every time I’ve had a girlfriend. It was fun for a few months when it was loads of sex and they were acting cool trying to get you hooked, but soon as they start to think they own you and start acting like themselves, its always just been like wtf…why do I spend so much time with this person?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Beer wrote:

All the carousel riders would always say things like “You need to get a life,” “You need to get laid more,” “You need to have more fun” etc.

@beer every word and experience identical to my own. That in itself is staggering. You and I separated by geography and completely different lives… hearing exactly the same thing. Like they are programmed of the same hive mind.

THAT’s what gets me more than anything. That we don’t even know each other and have identical notes to compare on exactly the same dialogue. Who brainwashed them? Who told women all over the place to tell hard-working men that s~~~??

I really wanna know!

And why aren’t older women telling younger women to stop doing it??

The comments and jabs I can handle.
The AWALT part … is remarkably horrifying.

“You need to have more fun / sex”.

“Then get naked or shut the hell up. I’m BUSY getting a life.”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

“You should get a life.”

“I have one. You are not welcome in it.”

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6414]

“You know maybe if you had a woman in your life you could stop wasting your time playing games and get a life”.

I’d like to ask her exactly .. what kind of life .. would that be? Is she thinking servitude? .. or maybe she is suggesting substituting the mutual relationship game .. which, for the guy, leads to emotional devastation and financial turmoil. Is that the kind of new game she want’s me to play? No thanks. I’ll enjoy life and make my own sandwiches, tyvm.

[Anonymous 5]

As they say misery loves company.it’s like they need fresh men to chew out and humiliate no thank you.I rather be alone than in bad company .

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Hey Trivium—Just a total side note for you brother, if you are needing to try to find something to clean all that s~~~ off your car, WD-40 on a clean rag and wipe…This also works on tar, and just about any other horrible nasty s~~~ that won’t come off the car, also it does not hurt anything, as far as I can tell, I have used this little trick about a million times so far, picked it up when I was doing volunteer work at the fire station about a million years ago or so…..Sorry about sidetracking just thought it may help with your oil everywhere situation…..

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Jack123Participant 324]

I like the comment from goodfellas where Joe Pesci’s mother asks him “why don’t you find your self a nice girl”.

Pesci pipes back with a big grin, “I do ma, I get a nice one almost every night, Ma.”

Pesci’s mom “yea but get yourself a girl so you can settle down.”

Pesci: “I settle down almost every night – and then in the morning I’m free!

That dialogue and that whole film is some MGTOW s~~~ right there.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWucb3Estr8 @ 1:33

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Or how about flip it all on them.

: “You need to get a life.”
: “You’re just bitter.”

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[rorickParticipant 682]

According to them, anything be it money, time, energy, effort etc., that you wouldn’t spend on a woman is a waste and you are a loser.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

XSDBS wrote:

The next time some woman tries to shame you with that s~~~, you tell her:
“I tried that with your daughter, but she didn’t like anal. She couldn’t cook either.”

Top bantz

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

“You need to get a life”

“I dont live”

“huh”

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[sidecarParticipant 35842]

: “You need to get a life.”

: “You need to get another cat.”

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