My heart broke while I was reading some of the other “men-bers” stories on this forum. There is a lot of pain and suffering here. I lie awake at night very thankful that I never married any of my previous exes, as I easily could have had a story as painful as many of the ones I’ve read here today.
So anyhow…. here’s my story of how I ended up here:
I only recently took “the red pill”… but I don’t think I can clearly define my reasons for moving over as clearly as some of the men here. I’ve never been married, never divorced, no kids, nothing concrete really. I feel like I’ve just left a series of relationships with dealing with women’s emotions have been absolute HELL! I will fully admit that I’m a sensitive man, and that I have a harder time looking past some of the things women will say and do (which is probably why I never married)… but I feel like some of the ways women act in relationships is f~~~ing horrible, and I’m really sick of it. Here are a few examples:
– I started dating a girl when I was 20 and we were hanging out at a bar when she asks me “have you ever had a blowjob?”. I was a little startled by the question but replied with “uuhhhh, yes”. “YOU BASTARD!” yelled as she ran out of the crowded bar crying. I wish I could have calmly said to myself “glad that crazy biotch is gone”, but I was too immature and inexperienced with relationships. I became consumed with anxiety with that girl and eventually impotent. I was with that abusive woman for two years before finally freeing myself (luckily the sex drive came back with a vengeance!);
– I flew out of town for business when I was 26 and when I came home I was having a serious conversation with my GF (different from above). She told me that honest was the most important thing so I told her about a lap dance I got when I was away. The next day she shows up outside of my work SCREAMING AT ME “I ASKED A GUY AT SCHOOL AND HE TOLD ME THAT A LAP DANCE IS CHEATING… YOU CHEATED ON ME!!! YOU CHEATED ON ME!!” She wouldn’t stop so I grabbed her by her jacked and said angrily “get the hell out of here!! This is where I work!” She later told me she called the police on me (she lied). This girl ALWAYS had to get what she wanted, if I didn’t comply she would make my life a living hell. My mental health really suffered with her;
– I met a girl about a year ago who was divorced. She had cheated on her husband and had allowed the “other guy” to hang around and call her or send messages. Sometimes she would pick up the phone when he called, or return his message. When ever she did she would always tell me it was my fault, that something I did motivated her to answer his messages. Anyhow, I repeatedly told her to get ride of him. Then when we became serious I told her she HAD TO get rid of him. Finally I told her “him or me”. Two weeks after this even she FLIPPED OUT on me and caused 8 days of hell, constantly accusing me of everything, saying I had abandonment issues when I told her I needed a “cooling off period”, saying I had anger issues when I told her her behaviour was unacceptable. At the end of the 8 days she calmed down and felt like everything was cool between us… it wasn’t, that’s when I told her I was done. This woman had an emotional switch that would turn her into a bull in a China shop. She would say the most epically hurtful things to me when ever the mood came to her. If I stuck up for myself, she got madder… if I walked away to cool down she BLEW UP!
Little did I know at the time (with the 3rd girl above) that I was done with women in general. I was planning on taking the next year and put all of my energies towards making myself a better person. But when I came across something on a message forum called “MGTOW”, it got me thinking… I just can’t put up with women who have no grasp on their emotions and allow it to make them be so hurtful. And in my experience this is almost all of them.
The title of my topic is a MLK Jr quote (I’m a Canadian caucasian, I just like the quote), and the point is that I have no idea where this path will take me, but I feel like it’s taking me in the right direction.
Thank you for having me, Staten.
VileNord 5 years, 1 month ago.
