You are the company you keep?

[BloodyNineParticipant 87]

Suppose you have a friend whom you’ve known since you were kids. He’s married with a couple kids of his own. He recently confessed that he’s been having an affair for the past several months with this hot younger thing at his work.

Notwithstanding the fact you advised him to *not* get married..but you know his wife and think of her as a decent person. You are also fond of his kids.

Does maintaining a close friendship with this person say anything about your character?

Disclaimer: I am not in this boat but I know someone close to me who is.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

If you stay is it loyalty (bro’s before ho’s) or are you guilty simply by associating? Isn’t guilt by association a dubious concept?

On the other hand, one could try to influence the person to correct their behavior.

Dude was likely to get divorced raped before cheating, now he has almost ensured it.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[HermitParticipant]

Not like it justifies his cheating, but if his wife hasn’t already, there’s a very good chance she will. I don’t think I’ve known any woman in my life who hasn’t had sex with at least one other man besides her husband or boyfriend. Matter of fact, I’ve known quite a few women who have had several different men while married.

Again, not saying he’s right for doing so, but anymore, who cares, what’s the big deal? Most people want to have sex with many different other people so why does anyone still get married and try to live that weird fantasy of monogamy?

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[BloodyNineParticipant 87]

It’s one thing if it’s just him and his wife. It’s quite another to screw around like that and break up the home you’re trying to raise kids in.

Cheating is just scumbag behavior. Don’t know if I’d disown a close friend that was acting like a scumbag. I don’t have any friends that are like that. Guess I’d have to be in that situation to know for sure what I’d do.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

I remember back in my younger days have women ask me if I had any single friends to set someone up with.

No
You mean to tell me you don’t have one single guy friend? They’re all married?
No, that’s not what you asked me. You asked if I had any single friends to set someone up with. And the answer to that is no.
So you have guy friends that treat women like s~~~. How could you be friends with them?
Because I’m not a woman. Look, they’re great friends. But if I had a sister and they got within 50 feet of her I’d beat their ass. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t a good friend to me. It just means they wouldn’t be a good boyfriend.

Personally I would never cheat. Never have never will. But that has everything to do with me. I don’t hold my friends to the exact same standards I hold myself to. There’s probably something that I do that they wouldn’t.

Order the good wine

[MonkParticipant 17002]

BloodyNine wrote:

Does maintaining a close friendship with this person say anything about your character?
Disclaimer: I am not in this boat but I know someone close to me who is.

Do you know why he embarked on this affair? That might make a difference.

That said, judging him, judging yourself. That’s too close to getting involved for my taste.

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Two ways to look at it; pick either side you’re most comfortable with and live with it.

One thing though, make it clear that while you won’t rat him out, you won’t lie for him either.

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[HermitParticipant]

BloodyNine wrote:

It’s one thing if it’s just him and his wife. It’s quite another to screw around like that and break up the home you’re trying to raise kids in.
Cheating is just scumbag behavior. Don’t know if I’d disown a close friend that was acting like a scumbag. I don’t have any friends that are like that. Guess I’d have to be in that situation to know for sure what I’d do.

Kids are the unfortunate victims of all marriages. I knew divorce was inevitable for me, but one of the reasons I was sticking it out was so my son would be older and it wouldn’t hurt him so bad. However, my x was only thinking of herself of course and the night she announced that she was kicking me out of the house, it broke my heart to see what it did to my son.

I hate marriage. I hate how women act. I hate how men act. I hate some of the things I’ve done. People are just no damn good.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I hate what our divorce culture does to children.

Don’t get involved. It’s none of your business. In that you are lucky. It’s not going to turn out well.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I’d still be his friend, but I’d keep him and his family at a safe distance. You already know too much about the situation, that’s a double edged sword.

Sovereignty above all else.

[GrumpyParticipant]

By “confessing” their indiscretion to another person, the confessor arbitrarily and unilaterally decided to share/lay guilt on the unsuspecting/innocent party.
Some f~~~ing friend you have there.
Guilt by association and failure to disclose. I can already hear the screaming about how “you” knew he was cheating and didn’t tell “her”

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

The most selfish thing you can do if you are a cheater, is tell others. That’s the truth. If you f~~~ed up, you better keep that s~~~ to yourself. THe reason why men tell each other is that they want other people to go down their sinking ship.

In an odd way, men might as well. Why Not? You are paying for the system. Might as well get all you can out of it right? It’s not like she cares. And let me be frank about this. MANY WOMEN enjoy this arrangement. Even defend it. Why? I don’t know. But hell, weirdly, this f~~~ that had no problem (and his first name IS Chad) was f~~~ing around on his pregnant wife. And, HIS wife defends him? Hugh?

Like it or not, women just use all this as ammunition against you and relish in it. And at the same time? They feel better due to you being ABLE to get younger and better ass. Like I said, the way women think boggles the mind! The more you cheat, the more you don’t give a f~~~, the more women respect you. And when they shame you publicly, all it does is attract more women to that “Bad Boy Man”.

And let me ask you this. How the F~~~ do YOU know she is not apart of the whole thing? You think women don’t get off on this sort of thing? Hell, CUcking is some f~~~ing great business in porn. What makes you think she does not approve? Hell, maybe she’s got a guy on the side too. You never know.

And the fact that this makes you wonder? Brother, I got news for you. I think you got the hots for her too. And want her. But that’s not of my bees wax.

Personally, I think its just jelly. He gots the Ideal setup. And you don’t. Who knows? LOL.

In an ideal world, men pay the bills. . So they should get to do what they want. The kids? Grown ups never care about them. It’s just how it is. Besides, the kids are all probably too busy doing their own thing to care. Most marriages are just lies built on top of lies. The government does this each and every day, yet you still do business with them. Why would you do anything different with this friend of a friend of a friend.

I’d just watch out when the piper comes to collect.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

My two cents:

If a person (men or female) is capable of betraying the person is suposed to be his partner, the person he sleeps with, the mother of his child, a person he has been inside of, who knows his bank account number, his credit car pin, a lot of personal information…

What do you think he is capable of doing to you? I mean you are only a “friend”.

WATCH YOU BACK.

dont trust a cheater, a chad, a f~~~ boy or anything with a snatch.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

iMickey503 wrote:

And let me ask you this. How the F~~~ do YOU know she is not apart of the whole thing? You think women don’t get off on this sort of thing? Hell, CUcking is some f~~~ing great business in porn. What makes you think she does not approve?

25 years ago, I had a gf once who was separated; she went back to her ex for a while and broke up with me. I got another girlfriend after she left, but geographically a little more distant. The old gf wanted to come back and I took her back (stupidly) because I still had feelings for her. At the same time I had car breakdown and I was too poor to get it fixed. So I technically hadn’t f~~~ed the new gf since the old gf came back, because I couldn’t drive up to see her. (for weeks)

I decided not to say anything about the newer gf, and the old gf went through my email and saw some emails to the new gf but nothing sexually explicit. She did sneak into my apartment one day (she had a key) and went through my photo albums and was cursing at the photos of the newer (and younger, 19-yr old) girlfriend, including ones where she was kissing me (saying “you slut whore child”, etc). I had misled the old gf about when I was coming home, had parked my car in another lot anticipating the old gf would do what she did. I hid in the closet, and watched her rant and rage against the newer gf. (despite the fact I had f~~~ed the new gf AFTER the old gf broke up with me)

She was all embarrassed when I popped out of my closet, and realize I had heard her epic rant. I refused to confirm having sex with the new girl. She became obsessed with the new girl, and wanted to known if I had slept with her. I was still p~~~ed over the old gf having gone back to the ex, so I refused to confirm it, knowing it would f~~~ with her head.

A week later, she confronted me over it during a lunch out (in her car), because she confessed to me that not knowing was tormenting her, and she was waking up from dreams where she was watching me have sex with the other girl, and she was apparently waking up super horny and wet and was feeling guilty about getting turned on by idea of me f~~~ing the other girl.

A woman’s mind is a crazy f~~~ing place… like a bouncy house filled with stray cats and mice.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

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