Wtf. Why does time move slower when chasing the rainbow?

[OldscoundrellParticipant 412]

An inch feels like a mile.

I am a man of action. With my income to the max at the moment, all I can do is my best at controlling outgoing funds.

In goal setting mode, on paper, it is a piece of cake.

But when I hold back too long, the flood gates open, and end up making up for lost time by over indulging. Which puts me right back into the loser category. Granted, most of my recent setbacks have been out of my control…ish.

I have been working on maintaining a mindset that is towards the minimalist side, but haven’t been able to maintain.
Due to in large part of social upstanding. For a guy that doesn’t consider himself to give a fk…I am giving into what other people THINK I should be doing. A.K.A on the rebound, living the dream. But, I am also failing at that because it isn’t in my nature at the moment to take on another leach. Funny thing is, that almost all my close family and friends are married.

I guess it makes the most sense when combined with the ex (which is mandatory contact) moving on, and my competitive nature to do better for the sake of “I told you so”. Even though, someone else is the last thing I want at the moment.

This is more of a rant than a clear question. It is clear what I WANT to do. Just not clear on how, other than, “Just do it”. Any wisdom beyond that is much appreciated.

[UntamedParticipant]

First of all don’t beat yourself up over the head for it. The more you press and insist upon a determined measurable outcome to the detriment of your contentment the more it should tell you that you’re fighting with your Self and not giving it enough patience and time. What works for someone else will not automatically work for you and comparing your gains or accomplishments or even your life with another does you a great disservice.
Also, managing your income and payouts doesn’t have to be a battle to the point of exhaustion. If you’re just getting into a “minimalist” lifestyle from a lavish one it’s definitely going to take time. With certain understandings and conclusions, your whole outlook on life will evolve and change, your habits will change, too, but you can’t expect to see big results in no time. You’re struggling with the Ego here. You have to recognise your strengths and weaknesses, face yourself without judgements but don’t kid yourself either.
Lastly, I would advise you to scrutinise your psyche when famine comes to feast. Too many people are having a hard time with this one. We’ve been so brainwashed into thinking that if we don’t have the best we’re “losers” but we don’t see what goes on with the “winners” behind closed doors so don’t let yourself be fooled by appearances and tell yourself that many of those “winner’s lives are mired in debt. Keep track of the moments you feeeeeel like a loser and hold on to those moments for later examination and introspective. The impulses to overly please yourself are merely the pushing back of an Ego too long cuddled and spoiled. I went through that ’round about 2003. Keep in mind that you are your worst enemy but you have no other choice than to negotiate and find a “happy medium”. I wish I could give you more and I wish you the best with it.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
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[RoyDalParticipant]

Replace old habits that work against your best interests with new habits that benefit you. Easier said than done, but do it we all must to achieve our goals and objectives.

I agree with @untamed. It isn’t easy, but there’s nothing else to do but get on with it.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[stopmockingmanParticipant 441]

I used to leave my monitor on my bank accounts, to see the amount of debt I had, and every payday, I would pay down that debt as fast as I could, this strategy worked awesome, made me stronger, more confident, and got me financially sound in a short amount of time.
Disciplined myself with low fixed costs, low operating costs, and zero big purchases until my credit rating went positive.
I lived very strict and hardcore, I won’t talk about it here, but the sacrifices paid off big time, fast, and this was a great time of learning.
It shaped my character quite a bit, for ever.
Let’s just say that hardcore living, makes you hardcore thinking, and shapes you good.
The soft life makes you a marshmallow, the hard life makes you fitter for battle.
Enjoy conquering your living mistakes, savor your newfound strength, and move off this battlefield when you are ready.
Your life will be the great reward, built by you, by your sweat, your work, your thoughts.
I enjoyed that time, now it’s better times, indeed.

[OldscoundrellParticipant 412]

Great advice fellas. Well taken and back on track.

Mr. Murphy Law has been working overtime with me causing multiple setbacks on an already long yardstick of necessary goals needed for the short term.

And after that many fails, finally said fk it and spontaneously gave in and decided to let loose for what turned into a week, and was kicking my own ass for doing so on top of it.

In closing. Committing genocide on a six pack with an empty stomach, and creating topics is not recommended.

But the input was very much needed and appreciated.

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