There is a reason why good men walk away from courts, children and the s~~~ vortex.
In the oppressive state I was divorced in, court orders concerning child support and wage garnishment are to be given to the employer. If the employer does not garnish the wages of the man, the employer is subject to fines.
I trust employers as far as I can throw the moon. I have a separate account that pays my CS, with email notifications that go in my email and my phone. If I do not see the notification on a certain date, then I have 10 days to make sure the State Extortion Bureau gets their money.Failing that, I have the Bureau on speed dial and they take credit cards over the phone.
I keep a calendar with billing dates and amounts on it. I can not miss a payment on anything, ever, no matter the cost. Everything is automated, and checked against the calendar. All the plates are kept spinning.
I check the county court schedule on line every 3 days, to make sure the bitch isn’t trying some sneaky maneuver on me. I have caught her three times trying this, and to her embarrassment, I was there in court when she told the court I would not be there. Once she saw I was there to assert my rights, she withdrew her motions. F~~~ing c~~~. I drove 900 miles to be in court, attended to my business and drove 900 miles back home 3 times. I saw too many times women doing things in court when men could not be there.
I watched a woman get custody of 4 kids because a man was not in court. Judge F~~~wit even said because the defendant is not present, she had no alternative to give the woman full custody and ZERO visitation to the man. Also included in this deal was a new child support order, 50% of his gross pay plus court costs. To top it off, an order of no contact and order of protection put on the kids, the bitch, the school and church. All motions granted. Guy was probably working, far away or maybe even in jail somewhere. Because he wasn’t there he was completely and totally f~~~ed beyond recognition. He probably had no idea what happened. Not being there, and not having a copy of the order will put him in contempt.
Life got much simpler once I signed away visitation and moved out of state. Please understand I was in a combative divorce 6 years of life and death struggle, tracking devices, car chases, private detectives, assault, knives and parental alienation. All I am now to this bitch and my kids is a check from the extortion bureau. I am running out that clock. I will be free in less than 850 days.
I hope my kids can forgive me for moving away. I hope they will understand I fought for their rights to see their father as best as I could, and that I just couldn’t win. I couldn’t even break even. I was lucky in so many ways I was not damaged further by the court and the bitch’s antics. I have struggled to forgive myself for running away from this situation. I had to run away in order to survive, and outlast the court orders I have to live with. I don’t have a choice. One of us was going to end up dead, and one of us was going to end up in jail for a very long time, none of which was in the best interest of our children. God forgive me for leaving my children with that monster and her endless string of Chads.
Jorgi42 1 year, 11 months ago.
