Working on 'Going my Own Way'

[QuantumOfPeaceParticipant 114]

Hello,

I decided to upgrade my member status today. I think this is a great site with invaluable information and also had to start getting in on these forums. Why did I decided to jump aboard….well….for years, actually for many years, I have been sensing and noticing things. Specifically behaviors and attitudes.

The strange part is that I couldn’t really put my finger on them because I guess I was brainwashed. I would think…’oh thats kind of disturbing’, or ‘that seems a bit off’ This would occur when watching shows or movies or peoples behavior. Let me get more specific.

An example is a favorite TV show of mine…ER. I used to love watching the shows on DVD. The first seasons were very cool with a lot of doctors that for me were kind of like heros. I thought man these are cool strong men, inspiring and competent. At the time I was considering med school so these shows were great for me. However, as the show got into the later seasons I saw something that shocked me. The women basically took over, and the men became these fools and bad guys. It was as if someone had taken over the script, and this someone was an angry women with a degree in feminist studies/anti-penis studies. Don’t get me started on Greys Anatomy or Sex in the City, which are blatant while ER was more subtle. Anyway, this happened with so many shows I was watching, with commercials, and furthermore I saw it with people. Comments like ‘men have the brain of a five year old’, ‘my idiot husband’ (from a woman whose husband was working at the time for a large software company paying her way), ‘white men are the cause of the worlds problems’….etc. etc.

Okay, so lets just say for years I began to see this really negative anti-male ‘thing’ growing in society. Unfortunately I was raised by a single mother and jumped into marriage in college, and was married for 13 years. It has taken me a while to get my head out of my ass an realize that I am an autonomous person and am going to be responsible for my own happiness.

I don’t watch TV anymore, even if you have content you like the ADs are horrible, and in my opinion more and more anti-men. I cook like a pro, clean my house until its spotless, and can take care of everything I need to. To see a commercial implying a man can’t do these things, or can’t take care of kids (another myth, fathers are awesome parents) is insulting and I won’t give my time to this BS.

I’ve formed a decent group of friends, and we go out. I enjoy it and enjoy some beers and laughs, but the behavior I see at the clubs and with my friends is amazing. I’m more and more giving up ‘the chase’ and just enjoying myself and having a beer, and enjoying meeting people, but I see friends chasing women and its sad. The games, phone numbers, text messages, and other s~~~ is truly amazing.

• “It’s my birthday want to buy me a drink”
• “I’m ‘kind of married’ ”
• “I have a degree in such and such” (but then she says something that has nothing to do with that thing)

It goes on….

I’ve seen dudes court women all night with drinks and then then she gets in a car with her boyfriend. Or she’s married. I’ve seen the dudes walk in the club with money and suits and the gold-diggers flock around them. I’ve seen it all. And its amazing. A nice, class guy, cannot get a break.

And you could argue that the club scene isn’t the best place to judge human behavior. Well, I see things during the day to. Entitled women with rude and horrible attitudes and behavior, and guys acting like clowns trying to impress them. Im in college for another degree and have had female professors with openly feminist agendas and speech in class.

Well, I could write a book on everything I’ve seen but I’m sure you already have seen this and know it.

Point is, all this has brought me here…to check out this MGTOW site and connect with some brothers to share stories and support. I’ve come up with a radical realizations. The vast majority of women are no longer good partners, mothers, or worth my effort. Furthermore, men have become divided and are reduced to fighting each other in useless displays of machismo and bravado. Brotherhood and esprit de corps is fading. You are either a breadwinner, a slave to the system, or some macho guy who does everything to scmooze women…or you are a loser.

Except you are not a loser, this is a lie. And this is why I see and seek out brotherhood. But it is a struggle. Hanging with a group of guys and a women comes over and you see our cohesion fall apart because guys think they have to chase the rabbit. I like looking at a nice body and big eyes like every other guy, right? But I’ve realized its just that, and I really think we have some other priorities to take care of. Like brotherhood and helping each other out. I really used to believe a woman would help me out. A good wife, a solid girlfriend, etc. Maybe they can…some can…it could be. But more and more data suggests otherwise. The best of men are left in the dust because they gave it all for a woman that didn’t give it all.

And right now thats the thing…she can get away with whatever in the eyes of this society. But we have to be ‘real men’.

Well, its going to get REAL. Because a ‘real man’ doesn’t need this BS and doesn’t need your BS. I’m going to check out of this game, friends….it might take some time and I’ll need some support. But I’m psyched and looking forward to sovereignty. Any and all advice is appreciated.

– Cheers.

(By the way I chose QuantumofPeace, because thats what I seek…that feeling of being at peace…happiness with myself and my own being…fufillment….even if I only get a taste here and there ( a quantum) its worth it)

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome sir.
i’m glad you found the path to freedom
enjoy the forums and the website

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

I decided to upgrade my member status today

the stuff you’ll learn from the forums and archives are priceless. Great decision pal.

Cheers —

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Welcome. I enjoyed your intro because it spoke from the heart. Your observations square with what, I think, most if not all of us have observed. We are in a loosing battle if we think we can change society – so we choose instead to turn our heads and walk away.
I know many men here are convinced there are no women left (or ever were) who could contribute to the overall welfare of a man. Their Biology prohibits that. But I do believe that some women have learned to be more civil than others – the waning group who reject feminism.
I’ve been married twice – one to a woman born and raised in the US and the other to one born and raised in Central Asia. The differences are quite profound. And this is due to the environment each grew up in. The former, in a gynocentric culture with deteriorating values, the latter in a country where respect for men and family were taught young.
Yes, in one sense AWALT, but there are distinct differences.
My advice is to always follow your instincts and forge your own path. Glad you’ve joined us.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

and was married for 13 years. It has taken me a while to get my head out of my ass an realize that I am an autonomous person and am going to be responsible for my own happiness.

its never too late to discover mgtow and start anew.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

The vast majority of women are no longer good partners, mothers, or worth my effort. Furthermore, men have become divided and are reduced to fighting each other in useless displays of machismo and bravado. Brotherhood and esprit de corps is fading.

there has been an epidemic of men getting slaughtered by gold diggers. Women start out as angels, then after the honeymoon phase is over, many of them turn into a completely different person.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

You are either a breadwinner, a slave to the system, or some macho guy who does everything to scmooze women…or you are a loser.

OR A MAN GOING HIS OWN WAY….

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QuantumOfPeace wrote:

Any and all advice is appreciated.

don’t desire or seek female validation
never get married again
always use condoms to prevent getting a girl pregnant

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we look forward to your contributions to the forums and to the mgtow community.

Cheers mate.
D//J//T

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome to the source.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Interesting intro. Welcome.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Welcome to the source.

Nice.

QuantumOfPeace, welcome brother. The lessons here and the sense of real community are invaluable. I am so grateful to KeyMaster and the many others who have made this outlet possible. We are gathering.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Greetings QOP,

Appreciate every word of your introduction.

The peace and tranquility of my MGTOW life is important and I can’t imagine how I lived without it. You picked a good name.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

I don’t watch TV anymore

We are in agreement about how sickening the media has become. The Communist Feminists propaganda is relentless and they have made it impossible to ignore it.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

Brotherhood and esprit de corps is fading.

Our time spent with women f~~~s up our ability to get along with other guys. I have just attempted to start a thread to discuss this situation in the Political Corner section of the Forums. The post is called “Political Correctness™ & the loss of real civilized behavior.”

There are more young guys these days who are Narcissistic and unable to relate to free men. These guys don’t appreciate their fellow man, are unable to learn from other men, and have chips on their shoulders. Their behavior is savage.

The Old Time societies of men had ways of dealing with this situation and preventing it from happening. Many of them prevented the Narcissism by taking pre-teenage boys away from their mothers and began their training early.

I believe that the proliferation of pornography combined with the “men are pedophiles” hysteria is a successful campaign by our Great Enemy which stopped the early traditional training of our young men.

Now our young boys stay home watching toxic media and playing Video Games. And these new Games/ Media are very Gynocentric.

Even if the damage was done and a young man in his twenties was a Narcissist, the Older Societies of men had methods of helping him become a civilized man. My favorite Science fiction book that has some of these methods described in the story is “Starship Troopers” by Robert Heinlein.

For any men reading this excellent Introduction by QOP. Here is a link to a free PDF of Starship Troopers:

https://7chan.org/lit/src/Starship_Troopers_-_Robert_Heinlein.pdf

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

Im in college for another degree and have had female professors with openly feminist agendas and speech in class.

Those Communist Feminists have turned Academia into a living hell. Even though I am making history with my research those rotten c~~~s are sabotaging my progress at every step.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

Any and all advice is appreciated.

I just posted a thread in the Philosophy section of the Forums called “Advice from An Old Farmer.”
You already know most of it, but I thought you may have a laugh after reading it.

QuantumOfPeace wrote:

was married for 13 years

I was married for about the same amount of time and had one son.

Do you have any children?

Here is a poster for those of us who have been married:

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[QuantumOfPeaceParticipant 114]

Wow. Nice.

What great feedback everyone. Smart and concise, no nonsense. I feel this will be a great community I’m hanging in. Manipulated, I have a child and they are well thank you.

I didn’t really connect the feminist movement to the communist/socialist ideals…but I can really see the connection. Seems like destroying the family gives the state everything it wants and we become slaves to a collective mediocrity.

I’ve gone through some major-league crap in life. I like the GUTS and B~~~~ distinction and can see how both would result in death. But I’m working on having the guts now to be immune to women’s validation/ lack of validation. I’m practicing to not really care about negative comments, but also not care about positive comments. Neither seem to have much merit. One seems to be to have power over you, and the other seems a method of flattery to obtain something. Yet, importantly, as some of you mentioned, men have fallen into narcissistic woman-istic behavior. To put it bluntly, a lot of guys are more bitches then any women I’ve met. I see them trying to act effeminate around a group of women, trying to act gay-ish, or act like women.

I have a lot of observations and thoughts to share and will post as much as people want to read.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

That was a brilliant introduction. Thank you for taking the time to type that.

[John1965Spectator 17]

AMEN BROTHER!

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