Work place obsession with bonding over drinks

[Non ServiamParticipant 91]

First off, I am straight edge. I don’t think I’m better than anyone because of it and I have never ever criticized anyone for their choice to indulge (unless they completely f~~~ed up their life and drugs are the reason). This was just a choice I made 10 years ago because I for one don’t like alcohol (or any other mind altering substances for that matter) and two; I don’t like the crowds and environment associated with the night life. I find drunk people insufferable and people I know will always reveal their true colors to me when they have had a few bottles of liquid courage.

Whenever I tell people at any workplace my choice to abstain from drinking – I almost always detect some form of resentment from them as if that must mean that I either think that I am better than them or they resent the idea that I am putting those would be wasted hours getting drunk with them into things I actually enjoy and are leading to a better career and future. I continuously get teased and harassed by people on the job and always get asked jokingly if I want to go out drinking with them or if I got drunk on the weekend when they full well know by now (been with this company for 5 years) that I am straight edge. Of course at times the conversations eventually lead to the always pertinent “getting laid” argument as if I should waste every waking moment outside of work trying to pick up some THOT in a nightclub just to have an orgasm and because I would rather just jerk off (far more practical and essentially leads to the same result) – their rebuttal is always me being “lame,” “a virgin” or “gay.” The people who bring this s~~~ up probably don’t get laid as much as they brag about I imagine because I don’t think my choices would be that big of a deal to them if they were truly content with their own. It seems like people who obsess over getting laid all the time are similar to pretentious travelers who go to exotic places just to say they went and take a few selfies rather than experience anything worth while. The mere fact of talking about getting laid and the perceived status it brings seems far more important than any enjoyment they get from it.

Regardless of what their true intentions may be, I doubt that they are well meaning and inclusive. I think a lot of people I work with would be joyed to see me fail to uphold my values and make an idiot out of myself for their entertainment. As I said above – I don’t care what people choose to indulge in, but for me this is just one more trap to avoid. I want to put everything I possibly can into making money independently so I can break free from employment, phase out all the bad people and live a peaceful carefree life eventually on a ranch or in the mountains.

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

You are right about their intentions.

I am an occasional drinker and when I’m not drinking, the pressure is really on.
You might have to declare yourself a victim of alcoholism to get these assholes off your back.

I think one of the ulterior motives of getting you to drink in their presence, and also to assuage an insecurity they may have, is so they will have some “dirt” on you to keep you from criticizing them or feeling superior to them.
“You are one of us, now” is not, necessarily a good thing.

I have had this happen many times and many of my so-called friends have actually become offended that I choose not to drink in their presence.

I would call that a red flag.
I have learned that people trying to get you into compromising situations are not your friends.

[MorpheusParticipant 2177]

You really have a bunch of assholes in your workplace.

[MorpheusParticipant 2177]

I would advise you to have bare minimum talk and show some attitude to these people.

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

It was bulls~~~ like this that made me want to leave the corporate life and start my own company, which I have now done.

As a non-drinker, I was referred to as “not a team player” by the rest of the f~~~wits, despite bringing in about 70% of the business.

When pushed on my non-drinking I would paraphrase one of my favourite quotes from Red Dwarf:

“Why would I want to achieve advanced states of mental incompetence by the repeated consumption of fermented vegetable products?”

The actual reason for my non-drinking is none of their f~~~ing business.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22534]

All women and most men today have no idea that other people may actually enjoy choices different from their own. Your living truth that exposes this makes them very upset, it puts the hamsters on max overdrive.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

MoreSky wrote:

As a non-drinker, I was referred to as “not a team player” by the rest of the f~~~wits, despite bringing in about 70% of the business.

Yes I have to endure that s~~~ at every job I had.
On Friday we all had to come up with idea for a charity fun day they have several a year….

My idea was this faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaak off.

I said pool competition(there’s a table in the canteen for the warehouse workers) because I thought we wont have to do much an not wear a stupid costume of course tuna and the mangina crew didn’t like that idea…

They wnated bouncy catsles in the car park and a bbq and cakes … jesus h fcuking christ I go to work to pay the gas bill.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[experiencedParticipant]

I agree with you.
Do not drink at work or associated with work.
There are some people whom if I inform them that I abstain, they think “who the eff do I think I am, doctor discipline / captain control?”
So say instead that Any alcohol makes me feel like s~~~ the next day = headache = nausea = weakness = wrecks the next day.
(I don’t tell them it’s not worth it because they will twist that into my saying they’re not worth it.)
TOO many times the expert drinkers will use alcohol to gain a tactical advantage; they bring up stuff Knowing that you don’t tolerate the booze as well as them and Hoping that you will say something quotable, to the destruction of your career. Job drinking is like the office Christmas party is basically a minefield and you are smart for staying away from it.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

im lame? thanks
Virgin? im saving my self for marriage.
gay? taking into consideration you have kissed and licked stuff where thousands of c~~~s have been in, i will soy you are a thousand c~~~s more gay than me.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Many People are Assholes.

There really is just no way around it.

Continue to Ignore and Ghost as Much As Possible because you’re not about to change em !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

The beta cucks you work with are experiencing cognitive dissonanace when you explain why life is better without a woman making it miserable. They question their own life choices and rather than face facts, attack you and the MGTOW alternative you represent. The gay comments show how much your world view makes them question their own relations~~~s. It’s infantile behaviour, but that’s soy boys and blue pill cucks for you.
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#ManOut

[JVBParticipant]

To be straight edge in this modern society must be very difficult. You have my total respect bro. F~~~em all !!

Peace is > piece.

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

Non Serviam wrote:

people I know will always reveal their true colors to me when they have had a few bottles of liquid courage.

It’s been proven in studies that alcohol reveals a person’s true thoughts and personality. If they’re asshole drunks who insult you, now you know the truth behind the daily facade. It might be a good idea to have drinks with enigmatic people occasionally to find out who they really are.

Non Serviam wrote:

I don’t think my choices would be that big of a deal to them if they were truly content with their own.

Spot on! Ignore those fools. Do what you want. This is your life!

bstoff wrote:

“You are one of us, now” is not, necessarily a good thing.

ONE OF US! ONE OF US! ONE OF US!

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[Anonymous 1]

TheSpice wrote:

It’s been proven in studies that alcohol reveals a person’s true thoughts and personality. If they’re asshole drunks who insult you, now you know the truth behind the daily facade. It might be a good idea to have drinks with enigmatic people occasionally to find out who they really are.

Yes, that is why I occasionally have drinks with the Boss and Senior Employees. Its good to know. Of course, I have 1-2 beers everyday, so I have a very high tolerance for drinking.

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