Women Who Approach Me in Bars

[ReclusParticipant 96]

I am not actually dating or even on the market, but I do repeatedly get women who assume that I am and I get some very strange behaviour from them.
Usually this happens in my local. I go there to chat to the regulars and the staff (who all know me) and hang out and listen to/watch the music.
Last Saturday, this middle-aged brunette approached me. She was very touchy-feely and I was sitting there thinking “here we go again…” The problem was, I was sure I had seen her there earlier in the evening with another man.
While she is talking to me, her blonde girl friend shows up, with some guy she has picked up in the bar, and they are about to go back to her/his place for… well, you don’t need a diagram really.
The brunette then disappears for a while, and reappears, with this guy at the bar, who she then keeps pestering to buy drinks for me. I refuse all offers: I have my own drink, and I don’t accept drinks from strange men…
She is standing with her back to me by then, studiously ignoring me and chatting to him, whilst periodically pestering him to buy me a drink.
Since her back is turned to me, and this situation she is engineering is just weird, I decide to leave, which passes unnoticed. It doesn’t take a genius to work out that she is playing me and this guy off against each other: classic female string-pulling.

Just before I leave, as I am muttering “God this is just bs” to myself, she even gets the guy to ask a bar girl to ask me if I want a drink. Odd, just odd behaviour…

[ghostParticipant]

Another reason to never step foot in a bar. I would not be comfortable with this touching and feeling you speak of. That would have my gun unholstered so fast, their heads would spin. Believe me.

[MonkParticipant 16977]

What you describe is more than a casual pickup.

I suspect that had you gone along with it, it might have had a very bad ending indeed.

[finallyfreeParticipant 341]

I understand not wanting someone touching you in a bar but your gun unholstered because a woman got touchy feely? wow that’s a little extreme don’t ya think. lmao.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22506]

Where I am you cant drink in a bar and be armed. You can in private or at a private party but not a bar.

I never drink while armed. Avoid potential legal hell when you can, dont make it easy to get screwed.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

This is why there used to be men only clubs like “The Elks” etc.

Sovereignty above all else.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Always best to not be a chalk outline

Peace brothers

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Monk wrote:

What you describe is more than a casual pickup.

I suspect that had you gone along with it, it might have had a very bad ending indeed.

I agree. You were gonna be his next meal, not hers. Wake up with your wallet gone and an enlarged sphincter.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3754]

DorkShit wrote:

Always best to not be a chalk outline

Really ? It would be peaceful in its own way.

[sjt1975Participant 2536]

ghost wrote:

Another reason to never step foot in a bar. I would not be comfortable with this touching and feeling you speak of. That would have my gun unholstered so fast, their heads would spin.

I think this is a cool response. Being English, I don’t own a gun, but you could just imagine the scene… Some bitch is trying to *man*-handle you, then you’re like “Get off me, bitch!”, and then the gun gets fully c~~~ed… Cool s~~~. If she was a land-whale, you couldn’t miss her either, for extra points… a lot of fat-spread, though, so could be extra-messy… If she was a female divorce lawyer, that would be triple-points…

[ghostParticipant]

sjt1975 wrote:

If she was a land-whale, you couldn’t miss her either, for extra points… a lot of fat-spread, though, so could be extra-messy… If she was a female divorce lawyer, that would be triple-points…

Agreed.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Good idea to carry a piece of chalk with you or tape.

Someone starts up that s~~~, just create an outline of a body on the ground.

Tell them to f~~~ off, or they’re going to be lying in that outline.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[AttonParticipant]

Sounds like sexual harassment.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[ReclusParticipant 96]

A range of interestingly varied responses. I was not happy with being touched by a stranger – it is basically emotional manipulation, done while she was trying to establish dominance in the conversation she had initiated. The sort of thing that would have a woman screaming about sexual harassment. I politely held my ground verbally and showed no real interest physically, which I think may have forced her to drag this other guy to the bar.
I think that ultimately it would not have gone well if I had stayed either – the dynamic between her and him was odd and I couldn’t figure out what was going on. The gay scenario had crossed my mind, but he seemed to be unsuccessfully trying to chat her up and she was using my presence to block him. I thought it best just to get out of there as she was quite manipulative.

[TrapperParticipant 2912]

Reclus wrote:

A range of interestingly varied responses. I was not happy with being touched by a stranger – it is basically emotional manipulation, done while she was trying to establish dominance in the conversation she had initiated. The sort of thing that would have a woman screaming about sexual harassment. I politely held my ground verbally and showed no real interest physically, which I think may have forced her to drag this other guy to the bar.
I think that ultimately it would not have gone well if I had stayed either – the dynamic between her and him was odd and I couldn’t figure out what was going on. The gay scenario had crossed my mind, but he seemed to be unsuccessfully trying to chat her up and she was using my presence to block him. I thought it best just to get out of there as she was quite manipulative.

Smart to leave. Trust your guy when something seems off or strange. Maybe nothing would’ve happened. Or…

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3754]

I didn’t really reply the first time, but here it is.

It really sounds like a bizarre situation and it was best to avoid it. You did great.

I’ll agree with the emotional manipulation claim.

[ReclusParticipant 96]

Yes Trapper and SpiderHerder; better safe than sorry. This is a bar where I have occasionally had incidents in the past, so I thought it better not to have an otherwise nice evening ruined. Apart from her, I had a good night out overall.

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

I’ve been approached by women in bars only when one or more of the following criteria are met by me at the time:

01: Out of state plates on my Jeep. If in road trip mode – and a slut squad notices it when I pull in. One of them will usually see it as a good thing since every guy in her town already knows she’s a slut but the one rolling in from a few hundred miles away doesn’t.

02: Wearing a skydiving shirt. In a bar full of guys that are playing darts and pool. With more challenging hobbies awaiting them like bowling & golf. A last action hero alpha reigns supreme in the eyes of a pumpkin.

03: Being a guy in a bar alone. And genuinely giving the impression that you could care less about any women in it. A switch goes off in a cupcakes brain that you are worth pursuing – because you are not available. Last year, I was on the deck of a bar, looking at my phone, ignoring slut signals and oblivious to everything around me. Three women kept looking over (giggling because apparently I’m a f~~~ing silent comedian) and one of them came over and said her girlfriends sent her to ‘talk to Mr. Mysterious’

04: Wearing a wedding band. I tested this multiple times with a ring I got on Amazon for $19.99 and it’s a real clit magnet – And the reasons are that sluts see you as pre-trained and conditioned already by another woman. (hive symbiotic factor)

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

Spot on Sky-O, especially #2. I live in the land of Leftist Cuck Beta Males, who do nothing more challenging than golf. Every girl I have dated has admitted, even if begrudgingly, that they are totally turned on by at least one my two testosterone driven activities: extreme sports, and hunting.

Sovereignty above all else.

[ReclusParticipant 96]

Interesting points Sky-O: I know what you mean about the out-of-town and clothing thing – I tend to dress differently and stand out from the rest of the pack as a result. And just being alone and ignoring signals in a bar is more than enough to attract them. Females think you are “playing hard to get” when in fact you just want to have a quiet drink and relax for a while.

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