The benefit that I have found from reading all of these experiences is they reveal the more wide-spread behavioral pattern of women. We usually have contact with a limited number of women, and so as individuals, we may not recognize that wide-spread pattern of female behavior. I admit that I did not. It is easy to just dismiss such behavior as just that one person who we know who just acts that way. I look at situations much differently than previously, because of the ideas and experiences that members have told. You younger guys can learn a lot from these stories, and once you do understand, I guarantee you will look at women, married men, and married women, differently.
Exactly. I learn from the stories that I hear from other men, who have (had) a girl-friend/wife, as well as from what I read on here. When you understand that such female behaviour is not isolated, then you realise that it is better for you to just avoid contact with women. It is just the years that I wasted that annoys me, but it is better to learn the lesson later than never.
If it is okay. At what age are you in now? And how old were you when the worst experience happened to you? I am 25, about to turn 26, and I feel like I AM too old and have wasted too many years on this s~~~. I recognize that many of you gentlemen here say that ‘if you’re in your 20s and you learn this now, you’re much better off than us, whom have gone through this and learned it at the age of 40 – 50’, yeah but it still is f~~~ing painful…
I am 43 years old, at the moment. I have had a variety of bad experiences with women before, although none of my previous associations with women had ever reached any formal stage; they had always failed before they had even reached the dating stage, and not due to any fault on my part. I finally decided to go MGTOW when I was 42 years old.
My memorable bad experiences with women, although there have been many more;
1. When I was 16 years old, I fell in love with a girl who was 2 years younger than me, who played me off for 2 years against a Chad guy, and she eventually chose the Chad guy (I was a slow learner, having been brought-up to believe that women really did want the Nice Guy, but alas I was young);
2. When I was 18 years old, I fell for this drop-dead gorgeous girl, who knew that I really liked her and that I was a shy Nice Guy, but I walked-in on her having sex with a complete ass-hole loser guy, after which I found out that she had actually specifically set-up the scene, to try to invoke some kind of reaction out of me (I just walked away from her and gave her a look of disgust, at the time);
3. When I was 18 years old, I tried to dance with this lovely blonde girl, and after not being able to dance, she just laughed me off the dance-floor (a romantic moment/opportunity spoiled, I have never attempted to dance again);
4. When I was 33 years old, I fell really deep for this quirky blonde lady at work, and after building-up the courage to actually ask her out and buying her a romantic card/gift to give to her on Valentine’s Day, I found out, the day before Valentine’s Day, that she was engaged to somebody else (she never wore any rings and nobody at work told me; it took me a good 3 months to get over her, and I finally threw-out the romantic gift when I was 42 years old, after keeping it out of sentiment and not being able to bring myself to throw it out for 9 years, after finally giving-up on love/women).
Now, a lot of the guys on here will rightfully say that these ‘bad experiences’ are not really bad (especially #3 and #4), and I certainly have not gone through a divorce and I have not lost any children, like some other guys on here have, but these previous experiences with women nevertheless were sufficiently bad enough, in my view-point at least, for me to eventually lose my faith in love/women, since women had shattered the Blue-Pill Dream that I was brought-up on, since I was a young boy, which girls/women were verbally perpetuating, although their actions constantly betrayed that dream. Of course, I have had more bad expieriences than those listed above, which have just accumulated over the years. After a subsequent 6-year period of analysis/reflection on all my previous bad experiences with women, I decided that love/romance was bollocks and that modern women were no good (for me), so I went MGTOW Monk. I now see through it all, for the bollocks that it is/was. I have never had any good experiences with girls/women; they were all bad, in my view-point. At least a fair proportion of other guys had some good experiences/moments with women, even if they turned sour afterwards; but I had never had any good/positive experiences/moments with women, just a constant stream of lower-level bad experiences with women, but no major bad experiences with women. I suppose, in a way, if you think about it, I have been lucky, since I have never had any really bad experiences with women, although on the other hand, I have never had any good experiences with women either; I suppose it is “6 and 2 3s”, as the saying goes. It all doesn’t really matter any more now. It is just the wasted 20 years of my life, chasing a dream that could never come true; but I have mentally adjusted now. Sorry for the long reply. I was not sure whether I shold have posted this response, but I hope that people will be sympathetic to it, bearing in mind my previous Blue-Pill up-bringing from a young boy.
