"Why you're so quiet?" Women suck at communication, society has lied to us.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Einherjar wrote:

I used to be that guy, the one that always initiated the conversations and the one with the jokes. Luckily such things are of the past now…why waste time trying to hold a conversation with someone who has nothing to say themselves… Like a Roman empereror in the gladiatorial arena screaming “entertain me”, while sipping wine from a golden cup on their high throne.

Another great point. (!!!)

Have you ever been in the presence of several women who know you to be “the life of the party” or fun to be around and they say:

“Make me laugh”.

I have experienced this countless times. Like a command. Like I have an “ON” switch and they can just press “PLAY” for their own amusement. I would call them out on this and they would just laugh harder.

“There. You just laughed. Too easy. Challenge me next time.”

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Keymaster wrote:

Like they never considered it before. They will chatter about nonsense – for hours – just to avoid a silence. Like you, I can’t stand small talk about the weather, the traffic, and all these mundane things. I would prefer to sit next to a woman in car for 30 minutes and just enjoy the quiet.

On the first date with the girl that would become my first girlfriend, I brought up this topic of conversation for. She was telling me how she always needed to fill the air with noise, meaningless talk, and I was trying to tell her that silence was actually really cool.

We sat in silence, staring at each other, for like five minutes. really f~~~in built the tension (actually didn’t have sex that night, but that’s not the point).

I’m gonna have to try that with every girl I have a date with in the future.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I had lunch this afternoon with a female colleague… no romantic potential but we socialize from time to time.

At one point, she saw an aloe plant and pointed it out:

“Ooh, an aloe plant.”
“You know, you can eat aloe, right?”
“Really? How would it taste?”
“Probably not bad. You know, that reminds me of a discussion I had with a few guys a while back about what kind of natural, life sustaining items could be considered as ‘money’ in a barter culture… I was thinking water, booze, honey, seeds… but aloe would be a nice addition. It’s edible, has a high water content and some medicinal value plus it can grow in difficult conditions with minimal tending…”
“…”
“…”
“My parents are coming into town next week…”

Why do I even bother? Not only could they not care less about interesting things but they’re not even good at pretending to be interested just to be social and build connection.

For women, communication is all about making sure a man is aware that she has wants, needs and expectations… though not exactly what they are and how to address them… usually accomplished by the awkward dropping of hints, pointless whining and unhelpful complaints.

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