Why Some Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Mothers Sabotage their Children

[LucidLeoParticipant 65]

I have been around a lot of mothers, single or otherwise, that engage in behavior like is talked about in this article and in the comments following it. Mothers that home school, that do what is called “attachment parenting” and that co sleep with their kids on a nightly basis begin using the kids (most often boys) as dumpsters for their own unmet needs and wants. One such case, the boy is not able to learn to sleep on his own, his mother expects him to sleep in her bed every night, and a few nights he will insist on sleeping in his own bed, but it is rare and she discourages that, but withdrawing from him and being emotionally distant. She wants him to be dependent on her because she wants to feel needed. Here is the article and I wonder how many here had a mom that had/has some of these characteristics. I know my mom had some.

http://shrink4men.com/2012/10/02/why-some-borderline-narcissistic-and-histrionic-mothers-sabotage-their-children/

 

this is also a good link

https://outofthefog.net/CommonBehaviors/Top100Traits.html

Many mothers, especially SINGLE MOTHERS, are narcissists and abuse their kids, either physical abuse or by infantilizing them and refusing them a “normal childhood”. I do not think with as many single moms out there as there are, that an abuse free childhood is normal anymore, its actually out of the normal.

[peterfaParticipant 833]

This is called “emotional incest.” It’s perverted, says Captain Obvious. You are correct to point out that it happens. It’s where the adult depends on the child for his or her needs. An adult does not use a child for his or her needs but deploys his or herself for that child’s needs. Abuse is not just the correct term, it’s that this is where we get our concept for “abuse” that gives the term its meaning.

Emotional Incest is apart of sexual abuse and a lot of perpetrators use this with sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is not really a fun topic to read about, I prefer treatises personally to this. Treating the child like an adult really screws with that child’s head.

These mothers have seriously poor emotional health. Being narcissistic cannot save you from loneliness or other emotional needs. A narcissist will attack a child and turn that child into a slave to fulfill emotional needs. Later this can lead to physical incest. This doesn’t explain all sexual abuse though. Some of it could be grooming the child, some of it could be that the adult “bonded” with the child (I’m really guessing possible routes to sexual abuse and only to keep from saying that all sexual abuse is because of this).

A huge power over boys do mothers have. I love my mother and she never did any of this s~~~ with me. I know she didn’t. I was pushed to be independent (though I will admit, when I was older, her unwillingness to recognize my independence was frustrating at times). Rather, I wish my mother was there for me to explain things to me. She was a tad distant, especially when I was going through hard times and really needed help.

Having contorted one’s own mind to break free from morality, why wouldn’t a narcissist use emotional control, manipulation, to train a child to become psycho-attached to his mother? He would be very useful to her agenda.

I knew a man who had this happen to him. He’s a bright man, handsome, and with a good job. His mother is a twisted c~~~. He got away from her. She was nasty and brought him up to be a slave.

How much must that suck to realize your mother is that nasty that she’ll use you? Imagine realizing that you were never loved but rather all that was done for you was really against you?

[RoyDalParticipant]

These personalities jam the top ranks of corporations, politics, and all other hierarchies. Which means escaping mom might not be such an escape after all.

I just now looked up “narcissistic sociopath” on google and got “about 416,000 results.” Wikipedia is as good a place to start as any: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_manipulation#Antisocial.2C_borderline_and_narcissistic_personality_disorders

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