Why Relations~~~s Don't Work

[Ronin XParticipant 81]

Being divorced has given me a lot of time to contemplate about of the relations~~~s that I have been through in the past. It has also given me time to actually talk to other men, both friends, relatives, associates and strangers about the common thorn in our collective asses. Women. Some were divorced, some were still married, some were separated, some were in committed relations~~~s. We were in different stages but came to the same conclusion. Relations~~~s don’t work for men. We came up with many reasons why. Please feel free to add more. Knowledge is the root of power and the beginning of freedom.

1. FALLING IN LOVE IS A MYTH-It is the most popular and strongest most enduring myth and idol of our culture. Romantic love is always a temporary condition. The euphoric feelings of ecstatic lovingness always passes. The honeymoon always ends. The bloom of romance always fades. It never lasts nor was it meant to. We always fall out of love sooner or later and come back to our senses. The one who gets hurt is the one who snaps out of it last.  The psychiatrist, M. Scott Peck once wrote that the myth of romantic love is a dreadful necessary lie in that it ensures the survival of the species and traps us into marriage. It is a sex-linked erotic experience. He defined real love as the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.  He saw it as a temporary and partial collapse of ego boundaries.
2. YOU CAN’T MAKE/KEEP THEM HAPPY-If you try, you will eventually slam into three walls. The first wall is the external circumstances and drama that exists outside your control. It could be her family, her boss, her kids or her friends. Any and all of these will stop your attempts to make and keep her happy dead in its tracks. Outside negative influences is kryptonite to emotional creatures and a man will end up with all sorts of medical issues trying to deflect that one. The next wall if you should so effectively climb over the first one is her internal insecurities and psychological issues. I’m talking about the low self esteem, the inflated ego, the mood swings and the bi polarism. She will instinctively project and attribute her failures, shortcomings and frustrations on the one she is around on a daily basis. You will be the scapegoat for whatever is wrong with her life. Now if you somehow survive the second wall, the third time’s the charm. The third wall will be your own personal weaknesses, shortcomings and failures. The more time you spend with her, the more your flaws will magnify. Familiarity will breed contempt and her happiness with you will begin to wither. You begin to experience a sort of reverse fairy tale syndrome where you start off as Prince charming and end up as a warty toad. Dissatisfaction and disillusionment will set in and herald the beginning of the end. In her mind, everything in her world exists to meet her needs and serve her interests. A woman is a selfish creature. If you are in her world then guess what your new job is? Even if you make her happiness the goal and purpose of your life then you will still lose because she will lose respect for you.  A woman cannot respect that which they have in the palm of their hands. They misuse and abuse and take it for granted. Manginas and simps will never get that fact it seems. They are attracted to that which they can’t get but become frantic over that which they already possess but are in danger of losing. I noticed this when I got divorced. My ex-wife lost it when I stopped taking her s~~~. I noticed it when I became MGTOW. Women at my job lost it when I stopped taking their s~~~.  Another reason why you can’t make them happy is because she will pull drama out of her ass for no reason just to destroy your attempts to make her happy. Women thrive in their own reality. They live in their own perception of reality that we call Wonderland. Disney couldn’t even make a better playground. It is a reality totally devoid of logic, filled with hundreds of emotional roller coaster rides. Oh yes, the rabbit hole goes deep. The last reason why you can’t make her happy is because YOU ARE NOT MADE TO MAKE HER HAPPY. You are not created to serve her. F~~~ Jerry McGuire!. She can’t complete you. They may be fantastic mothers, cool siblings and relatives, good friends, productive co-workers and bosses but they have no idea how to care for the heart of a man. You were not made to complete her and she is incapable of completing you. They cannot bring you fulfillment, purpose and lifelong happiness. It’s not in their genes or their jeans. That comes from within.
3. SHE WILL DESTROY YOUR MASCULINITY- They will kill the very thing that attracted them to you in the first place: Your masculinity. You will be victimized via masculine castration. This is how the dictionary defines castration: To remove the testicles, to deprive of essential virility, to unman, to sterilize, emasculate, effeminize, maim, weaken, deprive of manhood. Let that sink in. Once your sense of self determination is assassinated and you’re pussy whipped, then you are useless to them. You have nothing that attracts them to you any more  because now your masculinity is FUBAR.
4. RELATIONS~~~  a.k.a. PUSSY CULT WORSHIP -Like a cult the relations~~~ is centered around control and manipulation. You will experience episodes of love-bombing, be a victim of bait and switch techniques and one-sided rules, she will induce guilt, shaming and shunning to re-enforce control. She will use isolationism to bring you closer to her and tear you away from your friends and family. She will have you seeking for permission because you fear disproval. She will always be right, you will always be wrong, she will always be good, you will always be bad, your shortcomings will always be worse than hers, you and everything you have will be accountable to her. Such is the worship of the Bitch-empress. She is a user and  consumer of natural male resources who must be sacrificed to on a daily basis. If you allow her she will have no problem taking everything you give until nothing is left but a hollow husk of a man. You will not only be financially bankrupt but physically, mentally and emotionally bankrupt as well. Then they move on to the next natural male resource.

 

 

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

I’d say you’ve pretty f~~~ing well nailed it there, brother. Fine work. Sorry you had to go through the ringer to get to this point but hopefully someone else can benefit from your experience.

[Ronin XParticipant 81]

That’s what I’m hoping for doc. I believe in being a student of life and I definitely learned a lot from my relations~~~s to last a lifetime.

[Anonymous 42]

@ronin X

Wow, all can think of to the contrary is nothing! We’ve been down the same road, and saw the same alleys. Some would conciser my kenneling of a woman in her own cage to be preposterous. It’s where they belong, kept as pets with no advantages whatsoever…perhaps it’s the only form relations~~~ that really works…But I’ll never know, I don’t have a kennel….

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

I can’t like this Post enough…

 

They will kill the very thing that attracted them to you in the first place: Your masculinity. You will be victimized via masculine castration. This is how the dictionary defines castration: To remove the testicles, to deprive of essential virility, to unman, to sterilize, emasculate, effeminize, maim, weaken, deprive of manhood. Let that sink in. Once your sense of self determination is assassinated and you’re pussy whipped

 

Absolutely goddamn right!.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[Ronin XParticipant 81]

Fellas I swear, I could not stop writing. These forums must be meeting some therupeutic need lol!We all could write books on this s~~~.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

I can’t like this Post enough

I can’t either.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Revenge on the herdParticipant 2]

1. FALLING IN LOVE IS A MYTH-It is the most popular and strongest most enduring myth and idol of our culture. Romantic love is always a temporary condition. The euphoric feelings of ecstatic lovingness always passes. The honeymoon always ends. The bloom of romance always fades. It never lasts nor was it meant to. We always fall out of love sooner or later and come back to our senses. The one who gets hurt is the one who snaps out of it last.

Im new to the MGTOW and have been enjoying the red pill..

I read this quote and just wanted to add about falling in love and the dangers of brain plasticity.

Brain plasticity is a human condition used for learning and creates or allows changes in your brain structure (neural pathways), the first time you have it is when you are a child and is used for fast learning of language, motor skills etc. When you are 8 years old this stage ends and fast learning becomes difficult.

Brain plasticity is your bodies way of making easy changes in your brain, leading to effortless learning.

You get brain plasticity (rewires your brain with chemicals) 2 other times in your adult life.

1. When you have your first child. This allows your brain to change its structure to cope with a new child. You can understand the evolutionary need for this.

2. Anyway the scary mgtow bit. The only other time you get this potentail for change is when you fall in love. That right falling for a women releases chemicals in the brain. These chemicals are designed to restructure your brain pathways. Evolution has designed it to allow 2 people to compromise and work together as a family.

The danger is that unless you stand your ground and do not waver. One wiff of pussy and she can change your neural pathways for ever. If you agree to her demands she will mold your brain into a pussy wipped cash machine, and you’ll never know its even happened.

Here’s the rub.

Wwhen you fall in love, your brain is now capable of creating new pathways and behaviours, as easy as a child learns. You have one chemical called dopamine which is released after sex. This chemical purpose (in brain plasticity) is to set any new pathways in place. (Permanent change)
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By her rewarding your “good” behaviour with pussy, she is creating and then fixing a new neural pathway (behaviour) in place. The more she repeats the good behaviour and sex reward, the more she fixes these changes in you.

You’ll be happy to keep doing as she asks because your own brain says its ok, it’s become a habit, it’s become YOU. So without you knowing it she has rewired your brain to function how she wants you to behave.

Now for the plus side. It happens to her as well. So as long as you stand your ground and dont fall for her s~~~ tests (brain changers), she can be moulded to how you want the relationship to be. if she refuses then she can f~~~ off. if she nags she’s trying to change your brain, she can f~~~ off.

Remember, Behaviour she wants + sex reward in the early part of a relationship. WILL CHANGE YOUR BRAIN.

So dont fall for the love myth and love science, it can save your life.

So take no s~~~ and go your own way

Thanks for the red pill

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