WHY Keep In Touch With an "Old Friend"?

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

I have had a high school “friend” that calls me every once in a while. Over the years, if it wasn’t for him to be trying to keep in touch, I wouldn’t have bothered.

He’s not a bad guy, but he is just part of a long ago chapter in my life, and there really isn’t much to talk about with him. I don’t keep in touch with anyone else from that “era” including family. It was all just so long ago….

When I stop to think about it, he’s actually my only tie left to that long ago life…..

He’s a blue pill man that married a fat single mom about 20 years ago. They have stayed together, but she’s pretty much your typical lazy old fat bitch that has always had an excuse why she couldn’t maintain a full time job while he has held down the same paycheck throughout their “marriage”. He doesn’t make big bucks, but HE has consistently paid the bills even though it seems like they are always just squeaking by. Not my problem ….just an ongoing observation.

In the past, every time that I talked with him she was either starting a new job, or she just left one, or she was working per diem, or WHATEVER. He always had HER EXCUSE, and even before I was Awakened, I thought ,”WAKE UP CHUMP”, but hey I saw him so rarely that I wasn’t about to SPELL IT OUT FOR HIM if he couldn’t see it for himself.

He left me a message about a month ago, and in my usual fashion I have been meaning to call him back, but I just haven’t got around to it. Every time he calls, I ask myself WHY do I bother calling him back?

Is there a point to keep in touch with him???????????????

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[MonkParticipant 16985]

Awakened wrote:

Is there a point to keep in touch with him?

For you, No.

For him, you are a last link to the carefree days before he blew his whole life and descended into hell.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

In my opinion I think once you have the awakening it’s very hard to trust new people or meet new friends. Yes his life may not be the way you would live yours but he’s still a man you know for a long time which is rare these days. If chatting with him briefly doesn’t take to much out of your life why not continue until it completely fizzles out. Life is strange sometimes and as it comes full circle with his pending divorce, at least you know this is a genuine person that at least still kept in touch with you while married to a whale. My highschool friends lost contact the minute they walked down the aisle.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[Anonymous 38]

You, and your views on life, have changed over time. That is normal. Sometimes this means that two people who were previously ‘compatible’, are no longer so.

You already know the answer to your question.

My opinion is there’s no point in trying to make things work with anyone you can’t be 100% authentic with. That is my advantage in being single, perhaps it’s more difficult when you’re stuck in a marriage. Others are seemingly happy to keep a wide, or even small circle even though they can’t be authentic with those people – for me that’s just a source of stress, confusion, bad energy, negativity, etc, but each to their own.

I don’t keep anyone in my life who makes me think any kind of bad thought. Hence I no longer have such problems – I dropped lots of losers from my past. Just be authentic man, you don’t have to be a dick about it either – it’s just being authentic. I just ignored certain conversations I found BORING, stopped returning their calls/texts, or my honesty repelled them.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22510]

Awakened wrote:

I have had a high school “friend” that calls me every once in a while. Over the years, if it wasn’t for him to be trying to keep in touch, I wouldn’t have bothered.
He’s not a bad guy, but he is just part of a long ago chapter in my life, and there really isn’t much to talk about with him. I don’t keep in touch with anyone else from that “era” including family. It was all just so long ago….
When I stop to think about it, he’s actually my only tie left to that long ago life…..
He’s a blue pill man that married a fat single mom about 20 years ago. They have stayed together, but she’s pretty much your typical lazy old fat bitch that has always had an excuse why she couldn’t maintain a full time job while he has held down the same paycheck throughout their “marriage”. He doesn’t make big bucks, but HE has consistently paid the bills even though it seems like they are always just squeaking by. Not my problem ….just an ongoing observation.
In the past, every time that I talked with him she was either starting a new job, or she just left one, or she was working per diem, or WHATEVER. He always had HER EXCUSE, and even before I was Awakened, I thought ,”WAKE UP CHUMP”, but hey I saw him so rarely that I wasn’t about to SPELL IT OUT FOR HIM if he couldn’t see it for himself.
He left me a message about a month ago, and in my usual fashion I have been meaning to call him back, but I just haven’t got around to it. Every time he calls, I ask myself WHY do I bother calling him back?
Is there a point to keep in touch with him???????????????

Look, its clear you do not consider him a friend.

Save your valuable time for people you do want to be around.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 0]

I tried that a couple of times with “old friends” one male and one female and have decided that there is a reason that they were old friends. You can only go forward.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

I dont need friends i get by on my own.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Anonymous 1]

Awakened wrote:

He’s a blue pill man that married a fat single mom about 20 years ago. They have stayed together, but she’s pretty much your typical lazy old fat bitch that has always had an excuse why she couldn’t maintain a full time job while he has held down the same paycheck throughout their “marriage”.

I’ve got an old friend like that. Same situation.

I’m actually getting to a point where I don’t like having old friends. I’m trying to distance myself from that high school era. I’m looking towards the future now, not the past.

[joetechParticipant]

I have a couple of old high school friends that don’t keep in touch anymore. I went to see one of them 2 years ago during Christmas. He’s living the life in San Diego and over the years he’s turned in to the sanctimonious asshole I always knew he would turn in to. He threw me away, so did the other one. I guess old friends only keep in touch when they want something. That’s what I learned.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Colin Combover in a ComaParticipant 5066]

Carnage wrote:

I dont need friends i get by on my own.

Liar. Your alien is your best friend.

[Branched offParticipant 10928]

You may have grown apart from your friend but a friend from the old days is hard to replace. I would keep him. You have grown apart from him but life may one day send him your way. As we get older we lose friends through natural wastage. I would never throw one away. Men need men.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[Just a ManParticipant 934]

He’s still trying, for a reason OP. It is difficult for men to reach out, and apparently he keeps doing so. I have no access to the actual conversations, but it sounds like he’s trying. I understand we cannot go back, but we can go forward with old concepts. Give him a chance and ask him. It will either end it or continue it. You have nothing to lose.

Philosophy, the female repellent

[QuellParticipant 2538]

I gotta vote no on this one. This man doesn’t add any value to your life anymore, why waste anytime whatsoever digging up old dirt with someone who really isn’t a part of your daily life to begin with.

The fact you haven’t returned his phone call has already given you the answer you were looking for.

[Professor ChaosParticipant 489]

I’ve “broken up” with a few old school friends because we just had nothing left in common. Conversations felt forced like a work colleague that you small talk with.

I feel bad about it a little but don’t regret it even more because my time is valuable.

Happy New Years fellas!!!!

[bladeParticipant]

My dead bro .

I was in a real bad situation that was going to get a whole lot worse when he passed away get this at 40 km on a bike .
So a year had passed and a whole lot of s~~~ was going on . No drinking or drugs i just blacked out and fell on the concrete floor . I herd water washing up on a beach and could see even though it seemed dim . It looked beautiful there were palms , perfect but dim . So all i am hearing is the water washing the beach not waves or anything .

Then i heard my bros vioce say my name several times. He then said this .. everything is going to be ok .

Came out of it with my mate in my face in a pannic because he didn’t know what the f~~~ was going on niether did i . Because i just dropped on the concrete .

So i look back on that . New him since i was a kid . Went to school , worked together from time to time . Miss him heaps . Hospital f~~~ up . But he didn’t die for nothing as his name now helps others in tragedy.

I will see him again and what seems long on earth is only a blink of an eye

Hospital . GUILTY

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

I do keep in touch with some people. Mostly not from high school so much. You begin to realize the reason why they want to keep in touch with you is that you are the person who has value. And they were always holding on to your coat tails.

When I go out, I still get that same experience when I do go out and hit the dance floor or do something just for me. I do it cuz I want to.

Old friends that are true never really leave you. Most are Military buddies of mine that I still keep in constant contact with mainly on their Birthdays etc.

I guess if I had something truly great to celebrate, and look forward to? Maybe I would do more of that. But until I get there? Or you? Its going to be a rough time.

The sad thing is, a man never really has time to look into the past if he is going forward.

“The road is long”

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[Daryll55Participant 2950]

I guess that depends,….’
How good of an “old friend,” is he ??
I have 2 old friends like that both are male. We seldom call/talk to one -another and when we do we play “catch up” and then talk about the old days. Its good to have old friends. Sometimes they give you a perspective in life that others ordinarily would not.

So, what is he worth to you?

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

You make some friends, you lose some. Heck I’ve actually made a lot of mistakes when I had a close friend. Hard to tell why I bother to try to reconnect with said person.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Colin Combover in a Coma wrote:

Carnage wrote:

I dont need friends i get by on my own.

Liar. Your alien is your best friend.

My fleshlight is my best friend.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[MaverickParticipant 811]

Have any of you tried reconnecting with old friends that you haven’t seen in 20+ years? If so, was it worth the bother?

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