OK. So when my best friend first brought up the subject of MGTOW I had absolutely Zero interest in joining, or even investigating, any new men’s organization whatsoever, much lest one that was called migtow (which sounded too much like an old racist slur for brazil nuts (nig-tow, or n~~~~~-tow). (I happen to be white, but I still find most racial slurs to be offensive)
Then when John told me that was an acronym for Men Going Their Own Way, I still had no interest in an internet forum where men just rant about their issues with women. I was completely sure that I REALLY WASN’T INTERESTED AT ALL! Especially since I got quite tired of trying to cultivate a healthy relationship with women or even bitching about what’s wrong with them YEARS ago. In fact, after decades of failed relationships, including 3 divorces, 3 failed live-in relationships, and too many one-night-stands to even remember them all. I also spent years complaining about them and finally got burned out on the entire subject. On top of that, I had found those few men’s groups that I had joined to be mostly endless bitching sessions and their complaints seemed just as superficial as the tiresome to me as rants I heard from my female friends
But then, today, on the phone, my friend John brought it up again and did his best to convince me that there was a whole lot more to this ‘group‘ than men complaining. So I said, OK I’ll check it out, and here I am – before even reading a single blog or seeing a single video from this site – writing about myself to countless unknown online readers who may or may not give a s~~~ about my weary point of view.
So here it is. I’m just going to let-er-rip! I think men and women – at least in America, the only culture I have been repeatedly exposed to are BOTH pretty f~~~ed up. But, with all the sophisticated mind control technologies we continue to endure – not to mention the ‘less technological’ social, political, religious, and familial ‘brain washing’ we’ve been subjected to, how could we possibly not be royally f~~~ed up?
Still, being a heterosexual male who has never wanted to have the type of sexual intimacy with a man that I crave with a woman, it wasn’t hard to see why sustaining a healthy relationship with women was far more complicated. So naturally heterosexual men have far fewer ‘issues‘ with other men than women, largely because we don’t try to date, screw, marry, have children, deal with in-laws, or have long term intimate and extremely complicated legal and financial relationships with men. Plus the fact that the kind of cultural BS women are exposed to is very different than what we men have endured.
So is only natural that we would tend to get along with other men far better than we do women (if the word understand even applies here). There for, one thing that I have always recognized is that the average male is just as messed up as the average female. Perhaps I understood that early in life because, in my adolescent and teen years, all of my platonic friendships (pals) were with girls that I didn’t pursue romantically. It was only in my 20s that I began to acquire a rare few males who seemed to have an above average I.Q. (or at least E.Q. (emotional quotient/maturity). Nonetheless I soon realized that most guys were just as screwed up as gals, but in distinctly different ways. Then, of course, theres that whole mysterious thing called incompatibility, which I don’t really pretend to understand, other than the fact that I was no good at realizing in advance that none of the women I ever dated or married was really ‘compatible’ with me, yet for some strange reason I pursued an intimate relationship with each one of them anyway, which always (with 2 months to 2 years) ended up being unsalvageable. But I don’t even want to launch into that whole bewildering subject at this time.
So, having said all that, I still have no idea if this website, or the group forum that it hosts, will be of any real value to me, or that what I have to share will be appreciated by other men here. But since I like to share and learn from others, perhaps I will find a niche here with which to usefully express some of my thoughts, feelings and values, and glean valuable insights from others. I already have a Youtube channel with a modest 1500 subscribers who apparently feel that I have something meaningful to share. I post videos there that I have written, edited, or loaded with relevant photos, which gives me a good creative outlet for sharing subjects that really matter to me. So, if a few other men out there have similar tastes and interests to my own, perhaps we’ll have some interesting and helpful information to exchange.
rainydaykid 5 years, 1 month ago.
