Why female family members always try to stuff you with food?

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I don’t know if this is more of a Eastern European phenomenon, but it’s very common there.
Moms, grandmas, aunts and the like – they tend to stuff you with as much food as possible. Usually during holidays, but not necessarily.

My ex mother-in-law is absolutely crazy with this thing – she wants everyone to eat until they cannot stand up. Kind of like a farmer overfeeding pigs before the slaughter. This s~~~ is disgusting and very puzzling. It’s like she was getting pleasure from watching you eating unhealthy,

Do you guys have any explanations of this and/or personal stories? I’d love to hear them.
I even thought of sending Sandman some money to cover this topic, but thought I should ask here first.

My only guess is that – because they’re your relatives and cannot use sex to control you – they use all other available methods to influence you. But that doesn’t explain why they want to harm you by overeating. Is that because they hate you and want to see you suffer? ))

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[WolfParticipant 890]

I never put any thought into this before.

I don’t think there is anything nefarious going on. It is typical for hosts to give you more food than you could ever imagine, and I see this from hosts regardless of gender. It’s a way to be generous. When they encourage you to eat as much as possible, it could be a simple motive of getting rid of all that food without throwing it away.

[Anonymous 3]

Well, it’s a foreign concept in the West, but this is what women do when they actually love someone. Very rare, but even in the West several generations ago women used to love to cook for family.

Actually on Thanksgiving I went to a relatives’ place, helped out with the cooking and everything. When people love you everyone works together to cook, clear the dishes, and eat heartily.

The West is an anathema to me, partly because I remember better times that have gone away as the stupid liberal feminist narrative has come to consume everything. I can’t pretend it doesn’t exist and forget it either, so the rare times I get to enjoy the rare people that haven’t succumbed to it I do have a bit of happiness from it.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Serbian family here, my grandma (and grandad too, when he was alive) does this.

I think she does it because she loves me and thinks I’m too skinny, and it’s like biological or some s~~~, you know, to give your offspring as much food as possible.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[нσтησσвParticipant 830]

i think it is just because they are bored; or rather were bored, so they cooked up a bunch of food… and rather than letting it go to waste, they give it to everyone that they can.

don’t see any of that \w modern women… cause none of them can even cook anyways lol.

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[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Wolf wrote:

getting rid of all that food without throwing it away.

Yup, this is part of it. Talking to my grandparents before they passed away, they all were recent immigrants, living through the great depression, when a real question for the family was “Will we have enough to eat this week?” That stayed with them forever, so even when times got much better, and no one in the family was ever at risk of going hungry, they’d *never* let food go to waste – just in case.

Anonymous wrote:

women used to love to cook for family.

I think this is the other part. One of the traditional gender roles for women was to make sure the husband & kids had good, hot meals every day. Dad had to have enough energy to work on the farm. Kids had to grow up healthy & strong. … and when that wife/mother turned in to a grandma with like 15 grandkids, she could look around and say “Damn, i made sure all those kids & grandkids were born healthy & raised properly” and all that.

At least that’s the theory – how it stacks up against reality, well, let me point you to the latest round of divorce statistics lol.

Yeah yeah i know i’m going off in to fantasy land here,

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Italian mother here… she makes dinner and throws holiday parties so that she can dominate everyone with her economic superiority and her house rules. Keeping people fed keeps them docile and hooking them on their favorite foods keeps them coming back for more.

Look up the concept of the “potlatch”… it’s an early socio-political contest for power that involves throwing absurd parties and claiming social dominance by being able to expend more resources on feeding other people than anyone else. These days the notion of “conspicuous consumption” has come to mean displaying our wealth power by having the best and most expensive things for ourselves but in earlier cultures this was shown by being the guy who could give the most away to other people. Of course, the largesse of the “noble” comes with its own price., the price of becoming someone’s subject.

[Anonymous 11]

Anonymous wrote:

several generations ago women used to love to cook for family.

There were once women who could cook meals. How quaint…

My Father was an excellent cook so my Mother got overshadowed by him. She learned to cook much better after he passed though. People always try to overfeed me. I prefer to make my own plates at family gatherings due to this.

I was the fittest middle aged guy in Popeye’s fried chicken a few weeks ago when I stopped by to get some lunch. One of the tubs of lard bought two desserts. If you don’t live in Popeye’s territory, you’re missing out on some really good fried chicken. I always go to the ones’ that hire older black ladies instead of lame teenagers. KFC sucks dog b~~~~ in comparison.

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

In South Korea people usually ask the person they care about did you eat yet? The reason for this was due to fact there a war in South Korea where there was very little food at all. My grandmother would constantly but stuffing my face. During the war in South Korea my grandmother would go days without food. Instead there food was given went to the children (my aunt and uncles).

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[Anonymous 5]

When I started living on my own I lost 20 pounds in 1 year and half. I found myself eatingvery healthy and engaging in move pro-active healthy things like not being p~~~ed when I need to bus 3 hours to get to work when the cars dead. Holding my head up like I should – I Ran into my epic blue piller brother (who I love/i guess am just going to forget 12 years of bullying) in his bmw walking to my stop guy dosent even live near me. “HEY brother Wanan lift!” Like where f~~~ing pals. No I rather walk my own way. Just like my mom feeding me up he made me fed up with his bulls~~~. This post of yours brings me right back into the insanity of living with my mother – (who I love) -but I can’t lie everyday to keep you happy.

[OhnoParticipant 668]

Maybe it is just because society expects this from women at a certain age.
I absolutely know what you are talking about…my aunts, grandmas ( when they were still living ), mothers of friends…they all love to see me stuff their food in my mouth… always when I say something like… im not hungry right now ( because i dont want to owe them anything and i often feel bad if i get kind of forced to eat ), they dont accept that and persuade me to eat something….I feel controlled in a way.

I dont see any good reason why moms of my friends ( talking about around 15 years ago mainly, im 33 now ) care so much that my stomach is full, but they seem to do. My guess is that “society” has programmed them and they are living up to the expectation, that young men must eat alot and its their job to make sure they do. It just has to be like that without any deeper reason it seems.

[ResidentEvil7Participant 9583]

My mother is the exact opposite of the original poster. She wants me to eat as less as possible and she makes a huge deal of what is being eaten. If I order a peach tea at Olive Garden, I get a 10 minute lecture of it containing sugar; if I don’t order just plain water at any restaurant, I get the nagging lecture; if I don’t eat mainly tossed salad all 7 days a week, she’s on my case about that; if I order something other than vegetable soup, she bothers me. With her you have to be VERY careful about what you eat and drink. Just 1 minor mistake, and she makes sure you hear about it. So she’s not trying to stuff me with lots of food; she’s a health nut, which she wasn’t before 4 years ago. I don’t know what made her change, but I hate having to be careful about what I eat. I’m 33, damn it! I should decide what goes in my trap, not her! At holidays, it’s mainly fresh vegetables, chopped fruit, fully lean meats (sometimes the grease and fat is tasty), no soda. It’s horrible. I mean at Christmas I want to enjoy pleasuring foods including eggnog.

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[HitmanParticipant]

i think it’s a control mechanism they employ ..also , if THEY are overweight then it’s even worse . misery loves company….

[HeadstrongParticipant 84]

Hehe i have friends from balkans and they always make me eat like a pig. Funny thing, but nice too, laughing and eating like crazy.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I also have an idea that this is because women get brainwashed from an early age that “the way to a man’s heart lies through his stomach” and some bitches take this saying waaaay too seriously

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[KeymasterKeymaster]

Russky wrote:

I also have an idea that this is because women get brainwashed from an early age that “the way to a man’s heart lies through his stomach” and some bitches take this saying waaaay too seriously

No.

I have a theory on this – and can’t really “prove” it – but I am pretty damn sure what’s up.
They want to lower you options and make you less attractive to (other) women.

This isn’t just in your imagination. Girlfriend’s Moms always wanted to stuff my face. “Have another cookie”. No thanks “Come’on I made it special….. have another one.” No really I can’t. Chocolates. Cakes. Another piece of cake. Another occasion to have another piece of cake. Like I was obligated to eat, and the pressure was unbelievable. Have one, and they want you to have TWO. “More ice-cream?” They won’t take no for an answer.

I’m thinking “what the hell is up with that?”.
Then It came to me – she wants to fatten me up to eliminate her daughter’s competition!

Laugh if you want, but I would bet a dozen Krispy Kreme donuts on it.

I also think it’s an excuse for THEM to eat so they grow fat and become less attractive to their husbands and don’t have to put out. Like a slow and calculated neutering. The husband / father never pressured me to eat more – but he also never said “stop pressuring him! he’s had enough! “. Maybe he was in on the conspiracy too.

Why doesn’t she try to stuff HIS face??
It’s the daughter’s boyfriend.

8 people at the table, and I am the only one who had to have 3 cookies and another piece of cake? F~~~ you.

Russky wrote:

“the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”

That’s the way to a man’s heart attack.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Keymaster wrote:

I have a theory on this – and can’t really “prove” it – but I am pretty damn sure what’s up.
They want to lower you options and make you less attractive to (other) women.

1) She does not discriminate. She wants to stuff anyone unfortunate enough to stop by at her house.
2) Because we no longer married – there is no reason for her to make me less attractive to other women (unless she’s dreaming of getting us back together)

She probably wants to secure my affection to her without f~~~ing me. If she needs to move or falls ill or some s~~~ like that – she wants me to be there to help her, That’s why she thinks feeding me will soften my heart for her, so she could pretty much count on me. I don’t see any other reasonable explanation for this behavior in this particular case

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[RusskyParticipant 13503]

BTW She almost killed her husband. He gained tons of weight, worked two jobs, got a heart attack, could no longer get it up, so she dumped him

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[KeymasterKeymaster]

Russky wrote:

She probably wants to secure my affection to her without f~~~ing me.

Maybe you could teach her “the way to a man’s heart is through his zipper”.

?

Russky wrote:

She almost killed her husband. He gained tons of weight, worked two jobs, got a heart attack, could no longer get it up, so she dumped him

Well that’s classic.

“I hate that old shirt”.

“Ok I’ll throw it away”.

“I’m leaving. You’ve changed.”.

The female handbook.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22578]

Keymaster wrote:

I have a theory on this – and can’t really “prove” it – but I am pretty damn sure what’s up.
They want to lower you options and make you less attractive to (other) women.

I believe you are correct.

As a child, my mother would only feed me junk food, sweets, sodas, and other sugary drinks.

When I tried to eat healthy, including salads, my mother punished me and she said that such healthy food was too expensive. That did not stop her from being a hypocrite, and eating healthy food for herself.

I topped out at over 300 pounds as a teenager, until I was able to stop to get a better handle on my diet, and what I ate.

I have since dieted and my weight has gone up and down. Currently on the down trend. I haven’t even had any soda in over three years. Right now, for my age, which is middle-aged, I look okay. And I look a hell of a lot better than most people my age, especially women. Many of those women were slim as children and teenagers.

I take satisfaction in that.

I have to wonder, how many of these women were only slim when they were younger because their parents controlled their diet, and they had not personal control, which showed as they got older and lived on their own. While my mother did was she could to wreck my life and make me fatter, among other problems she created for me.

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