Why do women make accusations in the form of a question?

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

Why do women make accusations in the form of a question?  I have noticed this pattern.  If there is something serious that they want to accuse you of, they think it is not an accusation if they make it sound like a question.

Background: The SO has a friend of seven years, that happens to be a black woman (we are white).  The friend is infuriating, because 50% of the time she will be very late or cancel.  The friend even jokes about the stereotype, and says “Yep, I am on ‘BPT’ today!” (Black People Time).  So they all had plans to go out, including my daughter, but the friend cancels.  The next day I am in the car, and the daughter asks about why the previous day’s plans got cancelled.

Kid: What happened yesterday?

Me: She cancelled again.

Kid:Why?

Me: Because she is on BPT.

Kid: That’s racist.

Me: No, she uses it herself all the time.

Kid: Well it’s still insulting.

Me: Ok, how about I use the old saying “Never go to a second location with a hippie!”.  Same applies to Theresa.

Kid:  :annoyed:

Soooooo.  They next day the SO hears some grumblings from the overly PC kid, and uses the accusation in question form technique.

Her: “Did you say RACIST things about Theresa, to the kid yesterday?”

Me: “Whaaaaaaaaa?!?!?!”

Her: “Because the kid said you were very insulting about Theresa.”

Me: “Uh.  She asked why you didn’t go out to eat.  I told her she runs on BPT, and to always expect it.  And to use the *don’t go with a hippie* analogy.”

Now in my mind her “question” sounds like an accusation.  It is not like she only said “Did you say something insulting about Theresa?”.  She made the ‘question’ using very “charged language”, and phrased it assuming I did it.  Of course she deflects and tells me it is my fault if it feels like an accusation.

I see this time and time again.  Some sort of passive/aggressive tactic by females. They were not involved with the actual conversation, having zero hard facts, yet they assume the worst and jump right into the drama, based on the rest of the scenario which they fabricated in their mind.

They will say they are not playing mind games, but they have many many ways to accomplish them.

Sovereignty above all else.

[RoyDalParticipant]

It is an accusation. It is also a well known trick of rhetoric. She is attacking you but making it sound like a harmless conversational gambit, but you have already figured that out.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[EntropyParticipant 902]

Because they’ve seen/heard it done by their female role models and/or it’s worked for them in the past to gain the upper hand in an argument they are trying to start with you.  Your “it’s a trap”  instincts are on point.

"Compare your lives to mine and then kill yourselves" -BBR

[Lazarus LongParticipant 365]

You know this reminds me of something my father told me when I asked him about running for office (never won but when you go in with $150 against hundreds of thousands it’s hard to win). He said: When you are in a debate you always want to accuse the other person of being a pig f~~~er without actually saying it. Second you want to use questions that are traps EG. When was the last time you beat your wife?

The question presupposes that you beat your wife and there is no response you can give that cannot be used against you somehow.

Women are naturals at these things or at least they get a ton of practice growing up.

Willfully turning aside from the truth is treason to one's self. -Terry Goodkind

[MrDextroParticipant 111]

haha, yeah I don’t debate with woman, a lot of woman (applies to narcissists f~~~s that don’t know whats going on, but want to be in charge) DO exactly what they say, when it doesn’t work and the project is f~~~ed-up…1. they will walk away 2. never admit s~~~, your hands touched it your fault 3. when the problem is fixed; oh I was about to do that, in factthe first suggestion; was just to see if it would work tee-hee, I knew what the right answer was, tee-hee…then you stand there like WTF? okay, wow…whatever f~~~-face I  only have to see/deal/ be around you a few hours of the day!

Woman cannot handle responsibility they literally spin s~~~ (hamster), so “what they did is justifiable” I have seen other men do the same thing; but very rarely, men can do it too…but I only met maybe three (3) in my ENTIRE LIFE that acted this way!

They absolutely can’t be wrong so asking in a question, to get information…or for you to flat out say what happened, she cannot be held accountable for ASSUMING…I think that’s f~~~ed up before I’d play head games back…when you do they just walk away (wait about 10 minutes) they will bring up the conversation in a way so that it was all just a misunderstanding. We all have better s~~~ to do, so arguing with a woman or man… I’m just like oh yeah your right, wow, cool…then slip the f~~~ out because, I have better s~~~ to do LOL, ppl hate it. want to p~~~ off a Narcissist; IGNORE THEM. p~~~ of a woman; IGNORE THEM. Before I used to feel bad, NOPE…you were being used the whole time.

[Bread BaronParticipant 23]

You caught on. Manipulative assholes use questions like these to torment people. They also use loaded questions such as: “When did you stop beating your wife?” The question assumes that something is true.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Because it makes you do all the work of proving something to her.

It’s a trick, makes you look wrong and makes you answer, while she is looking innocent. You become looking guilty the instance the technique is put on. Evasive strike at its finest.

 

It can sound as question “Why were you racist in front of the kid ?” or pointing exactly to it “You were saying racist things in front of the kid.” etc.

Basically, the idea is the same no matter the form of the sentence used.

 

Im guilty as charged when it comes to being very passive/aggressive when Im annoyed with something, so I learned why I unintentionally, sometimes do it, online.

Offline, IRL I do it intentionally if someone p~~~es me off.

I like to use same tricks vs women who give me s~~~, and just because they had a bad day, they feel totally fine to treat customers like s~~~. I don’t let it slide and learn from the best (from them), when It comes to manipulative speech, all I have to do is listen and fire back the same BS. Feel like a ninja.

Still it’s negative energy and I dislike/avoid such situations.

 

I don’t find same evasive tactics working with men, as It’s about facts and logic, and there is less bulls~~~ involved. Tell it as it is, agree/disagree and move on, transparent dialogue and arguing the point. It can get heated but it’s simple. IRL argument I mean, not talking about online trolls.

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