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So today I was cleaning my kitchen, and I had a memory of when this chick flashed her t~~~ at me. And it lead me to ask a question to myself. WTF was that all about? So here ya go.
This last weekend I decided to head down to the local bar, maybe reconnect with a couple friends in the chance they were out and just basically say Hi to a couple acquaintances which I knew would probably be there. One of these acquaintances is a female, and our relationship is more like of a sister more than a desired catch. She would ask me advice on men and id ask her advice on woman. Which is great, sometimes id buy her a drink and sometimes shed buy me one. Mutual friendship you could say. And I of course met her, well call her Linda, thru my now ex wife.
Now my ex was as some would call her a social butterfly. She never had a hard time meeting new people, striking up conversations with strangers be it male or female and always seemed to be able to give good life advice that people really seemed to listen too. This is of course was one of her many qualities. So she made some strong relationships with men and woman. But mostly women.
But I on the other hand have always been a quiet and reserved person. But as time went on I got to now these female friends as well and we would have sometimes meaningful conversations or just shoot the s~~~. But that is when I started to notice that some of these girls would even though as harmless as it would seem would actually flirt with me. And at the time it was of course invigoration and flattering. I mean I can recall on numerous occasions a couple of the better looking of these female friends would sit directly on my lap and grind a little on me as they held a conversation with me or someone else. And sometimes right in front of my wife. I was asked to dance many a times with these girls which I always seemed to need to seek the approval of my wife first, I would get up and dance. Even pathetic as it might have looked. Dancing with a cane takes skill. But I had fun nonetheless.
But as time went on I enjoyed going out with my wife not only to enjoy her company but knowing that I was as I thought desired by her friends. So life was fun. Sure why not. At times a couple of these friends even made it over for dinner and we would just hang out. But let me make it clear yes there was flirting as subtle as I thought it might have been but nothing never ever happened. I never cheated. And as far as I know neither did my Wife.
So as pathetic as it may seem to sum I guess this extra attention that I received from these good looking ladies, really did boost my ego and I walked a little taller because of it. I saw myself a less of a man I guess because of my disabilities and its limitations. Didn’t really have the self confidence I had as a younger full intact man.
But let me get to the meat and potatoes here. SO My Ex and I have now been separated for almost 5 months now after a 10 year marriage. She moved out of our home and to another state even to another mans house. Which is fine whatever. His problem now. So I went thru a flurry of emotions after she left which ultimately lead to depression. But as men do, I picked myself up and decided that life isn’t over it actually is reborn. I saw a new start in this whole situation. I discovered that I am a good person, and a worthy one at that. But also decided. That’s enough. No more relationships. No more trying to pretend to be someone I’m not to impress some dame that is only really looking for the newest shiniest penny she can find.
So I went back to the bars. But not to find pussy, or a one night stand or something to fill this hole and cover this scar. No, just friends and fun. Comrades in arms. But what I soon discovered kind of surprised me and in reality really p~~~ed me the f~~~ off.
Now my guy friends, oh yeah had my back, no worries. “Bitches Right!”, “lets have a round to celebrate your new found freedom”. No problem there. Can always count on my Guy friends. Even if their relationships with their girl might a whirlwind rollercoaster of bulls~~~ and hellfire, they will always have your back. But on the other side these girls who not even three months prior would sit in my lap and grind a little or give me long draw out hugs, glances and smiles from across the bar, and in one case even flashed her new breast reduction in my kitchen while my wife was in the bathroom. I mean text book flirting, right. What else could it be. These ladies had me believing that “If only I was single, the fun we could have”
So here I go back to the bar, and with a new found appreciation for life, and I’m feeling good about myself, and excited to just see these girls. I mean I really had to intention of hooking up or anything but yeah, I wont not f~~~ em right? No! Hell No! I was treated as a social pariah. Like I had some unknown disease that they knew about and I didn’t. WTF!!
Two months ago I was desirable and now you wont even give me the time of day? And now the only time one of you c~~~s will pretend to be my so called friend is when you need a refill? GO F~~~ YOURSLF!! Is it true that woman only see men as worthy if another woman has taken the time to trick him into a long term commitment? Do they need the social acceptance that much as to believe that a taken man is a good man?
Was this the f~~~ing reality? What about the bitching and moaning I heard from these same woman that couldn’t find a good man who wont cheat? When all I saw from them was such outrageous flirting with a man they absolutely knew was married? And was a supposed friend of my then wife? How the f~~~ at 45 was I just know figuring this out? I must have had my head in a bubble. So I asked my friend “Linda”
Linda what the f~~~ is going on here?, I admitted that I wasn’t looking to get into any relationships with any of these girls. But they they made it clear it seemed it was as easy as being single and I get free access. So why not take em up on it? Get my dick wet. With preventive measures taken of course. Rubber and a pull out. Why not?
And Lindas answer surprised me and it didn’t. She said “when your were a married, you were forbidden fruit, the cookie on the table that if they tried to grab they would have their hand slapped hand away”. Of course I’m paraphrasing. I was a little drunk but this is the jest of it.
So I looked this up. Why do women desire married men?
And with the reading of a few articles, the only common sense conclusion that I can come up with, it simply is “because they can”. The Idea of doing something that they themselves deep down know would destroy two other peoples lives doesn’t matter or compare to the single instant of desire they would feel. That one brief moment of what they would consider to be dangerous. That moment is what would make a grown intelligent woman do something like this. Without regard to harm to anyone else, just to feel that one instant of that feeling of being desired. That fleeting moment of what a dangerous and spontaneous person she thinks she is being.Are woman this bored in their own skin that they will do whatever it takes to feel love. Or what they interpret to be love?. Are they really this empty and shallow?. That they don’t even respect themselves deep down, like we are forced to do as Men? And that man isn’t even worth a simple friendship if her needs cant be met. To me I found this disgusting. I Had to come to realize that woman in general are in fact mental. They themselves don’t even understand their own minds and feelings and wants and desires, but are quick to blame Men for not doing the same. How can we compete or even try to coexist in the normal sense of the word as just simple dad to day life as it happens with them on any level. I have no problem giving them respect, or honoring them if the deserve it. But they better have done something worth respecting and honoring. Just having a cute ass and nice legs isn’t enough. If they want equality then why don’t they act equal? Sure men can be dogs at times. But at least we have the ability of reason and common sense. I don’t know, just my thoughts. I’m no expert by any means. I guess this was my attempt at healing and better understanding the world.
I tried to link the articles on here. I don’t know what I’m doing. I found one on Psychology today titled “Why woman want married men?” and “What do woman really want?” on the same site. And these conclusions were my own. But I do encourage others to seek out your own answers. I mean we do have to face and live with Woman. Might as well learn how deep the crazy goes.
CHEERS!!
Anonymous24Most women are freaks. Most women like what is Taboo.
I had one ex who liked it in the ass… why? Now these are her words, not mine- “because it is dirty/taboo”. Now get that, it was not about how it felt, it was about how she felt she should not be doing it that was the turn on.
Them being after you when you were married, and less so when not, is no surprise to me.
Most women are freaks. Most women like what is Taboo.
I had one ex who liked it in the ass… why? Now these are her words, not mine- “because it is dirty/taboo”. Now get that, it was not about how it felt, it was about how she felt she should not be doing it that was the turn on.
Them being after you when you were married, and less so when not, is no surprise to me.
Yes taboo that was the word I was looking for Thank you THX
Anonymous43good enough for someone else, good enough for me, I guess.
Anonymous0And not just the taboo thing. It almost seems like they are saying to your then wife “Ha ha look at me. I could steal your man anytime I want”. Meaning that the flirting wasn’t for you but for your wife.
Also, if you are single and have money, they WILL find you.And not just the taboo thing. It almost seems like they are saying to your then wife “Ha ha look at me. I could steal your man anytime I want”. Meaning that the flirting wasn’t for you but for your wife.
Also, if you are single and have money, they WILL find you.well I got a house and good credit!! And I’m single but I hide my money!!! And I have to agree about them doing that to my ex wife. That does make perfect sense. Women seem to hate any form of competition real or made up.
Anything that women do is not for a man’s attention and approval it is for the attention and approval of the surrounding women. I agree with M52. The strategy is to let the nearby females know that they can take their man and that gives them the validation they crave.
Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.
And not just the taboo thing. It almost seems like they are saying to your then wife “Ha ha look at me. I could steal your man anytime I want”. Meaning that the flirting wasn’t for you but for your wife.
Also, if you are single and have money, they WILL find you.well I got a house and good credit!! And I’m single but I hide my money!!! And I have to agree about them doing that to my ex wife. That does make perfect sense. Women seem to hate any form of competition real or made up.
Then I think more about what you said, does that make me an asshole for allowing these useless bitches to use me to f~~~ with my ex like that? I have to say yes, it does I am the asshole lol and it refreshing to learn a little bit more about how crazy and f~~~ed up woman are.
Social proof. Oh, and women are jealous of and hate each other.
When you’re shopping for a farm horse – you don’t think of taming a wild horse. You find some farmer with a good obedient and strong work horse and acquire it
married men are already broken in and potty-trained
proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome
Most women have the impulse control of a 5 year old on meth. They want what they can’t have. It doesn’t matter how stupid it is, she wants it. It doesn’t matter why she wants it, she wants it. Women don’t think about this s~~~.
Another point is that women love to stir s~~~ up. They will cause drama and bulls~~~ because they love it and thrive on it, and nothing stirs s~~~ up like p~~~ing off another entitled c~~~.
Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.
When you’re shopping for a farm horse – you don’t think of taming a wild horse. You find some farmer with a good obedient and strong work horse and acquire it
married men are already broken in and potty-trained
only 20% of men breed women are perfectly willing to share a strong alpha provider this whole monogamy thing is just a social construct not like gender or race which are biological wish the regressives could get one thing right.
maybe your ex talked s~~~ about you so she would seem like the victim
I bathe in the tears of single moms.
maybe your ex talked s~~~ about you so she would seem like the victim
well I wouldn’t doubt that one bit. I know when the girls got together here at the house the gossip was almost evil in nature. The s~~~ these grown woman said about each other and their men was terrifying. No person or subject was safe. But then to bring it into the light, she is an EX for a reason.
She said “when your were a married, you were forbidden fruit, the cookie on the table that if they tried to grab they would have their hand slapped hand away”.
That’s part of this. I’m married, and I know exactly what you’re talking about. My wife’s sisters and friends, women at work, exes., wives of friends, have all at one time or another have done everything from flirt to attempt to seduce me. And it ain’t because I’m some hot alpha. I’m merely a dude that has proven over time that I can provide well for a women and her children. Do that, and women will seek you out.
I began his game long ago to see how ridiculous I could get with these women, even my sisters-in-law. I’ve been grinded on, solicited, flirted with, taken out on dates, etc.
What makes it worse, for them, is that they aren’t sure if I’m on to them or not, but I know what they’re up to.
It’s their ego and narcissism if they already have access to resources. If they’re broke or don’t have a man, they simply want you for resources.
A recent occurrence with one of my sister-in-law’s friend was the result of her hoping they could both seduce me enough to let her friend have an anchor baby just as my sister-in-law had. The worst part is that my wife if so fcuking naive, they managed to convince her to ask me if she could stay with us after some other dude knocked her up and she couldn’t close the deal.
The hope before this was that I would some how be stupid enough to impregnate her friend and be daddy, then she could not only get citizenship for her kid, but plausible deniability, while I would now have another mouth to feed. Of course while I foiled their plan, the friend managed to shack up at some white knight place about a few hours from me.
My saving grace is that I derive from a family of non-western and manipulating women going back for generations, so I’ve been raise amidst the duplicity of women and full-blown hypergamy. My mother-in-law matter-of-factly told me she hooked up with the father of her children because he had beaucoup resources and she had siblings to take care of and he was willing to help in exchange for her lucky charms. Unfortunately, papa was a rollin’ stone…
Remember, women don’t need men. They just need what men can provide. Married men (especially with kids) are a safe and resource proven male, validated by another woman.
"Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another" - H. L. Mencken
Anonymous0She said “when your were a married, you were forbidden fruit, the cookie on the table that if they tried to grab they would have their hand slapped hand away”.
That’s part of this. I’m married, and I know exactly what you’re talking about. My wife’s sisters and friends, women at work, exes., wives of friends, have all at one time or another have done everything from flirt to attempt to seduce me. And it ain’t because I’m some hot alpha. I’m merely a dude that has proven over time that I can provide well for a women and her children. Do that, and women will seek you out.
I began his game long ago to see how ridiculous I could get with these women, even my sisters-in-law. I’ve been grinded on, solicited, flirted with, taken out on dates, etc.
What makes it worse, for them, is that they aren’t sure if I’m on to them or not, but I know what they’re up to.
It’s their ego and narcissism if they already have access to resources. If they’re broke or don’t have a man, they simply want you for resources.
A recent occurrence with one of my sister-in-law’s friend was the result of her hoping they could both seduce me enough to let her friend have an anchor baby just as my sister-in-law had. The worst part is that my wife if so fcuking naive, they managed to convince her to ask me if she could stay with us after some other dude knocked her up and she couldn’t close the deal.
The hope before this was that I would some how be stupid enough to impregnate her friend and be daddy, then she could not only get citizenship for her kid, but plausible deniability, while I would now have another mouth to feed. Of course while I foiled their plan, the friend managed to shack up at some white knight place about a few hours from me.
My saving grace is that I derive from a family of non-western and manipulating women going back for generations, so I’ve been raise amidst the duplicity of women and full-blown hypergamy. My mother-in-law matter-of-factly told me she hooked up with the father of her children because he had beaucoup resources and she had siblings to take care of and he was willing to help in exchange for her lucky charms. Unfortunately, papa was a rollin’ stone…
Remember, women don’t need men. They just need what men can provide. Married men (especially with kids) are a safe and resource proven male, validated by another woman.
I had to read your post three times for it to sink in. Every word is true. And I for one am sick and tired of being used. Seemingly, over 18,500 other guys are as well. Great post RTF.
Also, love your tag line.A married co-worker of mine who was a player always wore his wedding ring when picking up women. It was a chick magnet.
The reason is that women are very dependent on other women’s opinions. That’s why they have a secret desire to steal another woman’s man. It builds their ego. Before getting involved with a man they always seek the approval of their female friends.
Men, on the other hand, don’t care what their friends think if they like a woman. This is best described in the song by Percy Sledge, “When a Man Loves a Woman” where he says, “When a man loves a woman, she can do no wrong. Turn his back on his best friend if he puts her down.”Women know that married men are neglected by their wives. Minimum effort and attention to that man could result in some nice perks and no commitment required.
I bathe in the tears of single moms.
The reason is that women are very dependent on other women’s opinions.
Yep. Kind of the quality mark. I’ve been using that trick few times and it works well.
Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)
Anonymous16Women want what they can’t have, its all about challenge, there is this hoe at my job she is 46 she keeps fit and can pretty much have a lot of men, she as a boyfriend, and i decided to test that bitch for us men purpose.
My friend went to see her and told her i was attracted to her. We started talking took her about 3 weeks to get her boyfriend in the conversation. I back down, we where sending messages on facebook. At some point i ignored her and she kept sending some messages asking why, what was more important then her in my life and dumb ass s~~~ like that. She is the perfect tease.
This week i gave into her, went to see her twice at the job wrote her messages. Now she is ignoring me been 2 days since i last texted her… she did not reply back, i force myself in the friend zone to make a point. Ignore them become a challenge and they will chase you, there mind goes crazy just the fact the you ignore and pay no interest to them while other men do anything for them.
That is the game women play today and its a game men need to understand. To be honest i am glad she stop replying to me, that was going nowhere, she was just a tease, we can go to diner or coffee but that never happened. And the conversation where getting boring too LOL. But i am sure that being independent she is gonna write back this week or so. Then again who cares.
Married men are a huge challenge to women, a few PYA guys used to ware fake wedding rings that made picking up bitches much easier haahha.
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