This issue has come more to the forefront of my mind lately as my graduation from university approaches and I look forward to the world I want to build for myself in the future. However, the reason for my thoughts turning to the subject of women dating assholes hasn’t been because of dating difficulty, but it has instead been due to relative success. For context, I live in Southern California. A lot of this post doesn’t apply quite the same outside of the states, but in general this is a reflection of base female nature.
Originally, I started putting myself out there on the dating market because I wanted to get laid. I quickly accomplished this, but I realized that the state of affairs in my life context right now simply made it difficult for me to casually date hot women who had decent attitudes and who weren’t crazy. A large part of that is due to my social circle and the fact that I must tread lightly with my very conservative family and friends, but the fact is that I am too busy with school and work and too poor to be particularly appealing to the girls I am most interested in. But because I am constantly consuming content about self-improvement, I know that for men, life gets better in general after 30, so I am looking forward eagerly to graduating, getting my finances in order, and getting out of this “spinning my wheels” stage of life that I’m in.
Because of this knowledge, and because I am always interested in learning more, I decided to keep my online dating profile up to watch how my SMV grows as I age and improve my life. The difference is already noticeable compared to two years ago. This has given me several opportunities to sharpen my first-hand knowledge of women and people in general, and one particular area where I have grown has been my understanding of how girls respond to kindness vs. assholery.
Now, we all know that women love assholes. But some of the things I have witnessed have made me quite disgusted with both women in general and with my own family for teaching me to pedestalize them. I have watched a girl friendzone me when I treated her with basic politeness, and then promptly do a 180 and try rather hard to convince me to be her boyfriend when she asked about my dating life and I told her point-blank that I prefer to have multiple casual friends with benefits and never saw her as relationship material to begin with. At one point she thought I had lied about being single and proceeded to cry for an entire morning and eat hardly anything all day (she looked like utter s~~~ when I spoke with her that evening). There are other, less extreme stories, of course. But the point I want to hammer home is how stark the difference is between how girls treat good, kindhearted men vs. complete assholes.
When you don’t hesitate to be self-centered, manipulative, and downright mean to women, they simply can’t let you go. While I am regularly disgusted and irritated with the behavior of SoCal broads, I find myself pitying them more and more because the truth about why these girls fall for assholes is that they are incapable of wanting anything less. This is what they want deep down. They want the guy who never loses arguments, the guy who brings up their past transgressions and makes them submit and apologize in order to regain his favor, the guy who doesn’t take them seriously and is constantly ready to leave and get a hotter girl. And they are fundamentally incapable of feeling the same way for a man who DOESN’T do these things.
Of course, there are some women who are more resistant to assholes. Obviously, women who are post-wall tend to go for beta bucks and will happily perform for a beta to get the bucks for as long as necessary. There are some girls who were legitimately raised well who don’t fall for your run-of-the-mill jerkboy or your typical Chad. But for every one of these “exceptions”, there is ALWAYS some man who could get into their pants and trigger them to leave their kind men and do crazy things for the new and exciting asshole. And that man is capable of getting women to willingly do things for him that they would never do for their sweet, good husband or boyfriend. Perhaps they never meet that sort of man, but these girls are still holding out on their men.
Why is this? Because women are constantly told that they are better than men. They learn a degree of arrogance, so they fail to value perfectly good men until it is too late. And it is only when a man confidently contradicts that narrative and demonstrates that fully knows he is better than them and can get better girls than them that a sliver of doubt runs through their lizard brains. If they can rationalize that they are better than the guy (perhaps he doesn’t quite have enough going for him in terms of looks and status), this doubt will then turn into irritation. They will try to assert that they are better than the man in question and become incredibly bitchy if they can’t “put him in his place,” so to speak.
But what if a woman can’t deny that the man is better? What if he can convince her that he is superior to her? Then she will try to gain his favor. This is how women operate, gentlemen: they kiss up and kick down. Women are hierarchical creatures: they always have a mental pecking order updating itself in their minds. And in that pecking order there are no equals; only superiors and inferiors. And if they see you as superior enough, you will quickly see their behavior change. If you have something they want, are superior to them, or have power over them, they will rationalize doing all kinds of crazy things to get into your good graces. And they are very susceptible to being influenced by the opinions of others, so it is often not too difficult to convince the average girl of this. Women wants a man who is superior, but they are viscerally repulsed by men who are superior and don’t act like it. Like I said, women kiss up and kick down, so if you aren’t kicking down at least a little at them, if you aren’t treating them like they are inferior, they will try to see if you are REALLY superior by attempting to kick down at you, and if you let them do this, they will take it as far as they can. This is because most don’t understand the idea of respecting those below themselves: a concept which men learn more easily.
Of course, both women and men like to try to deny this. But you know how you can tell that this is what women want? The same way that you can tell what men want. What do the most valuable men go for in mates? The top celebrities, the wealthiest men, the most attractive men? They overwhelmingly tend to date young, slender, pretty girls. Not old hags. Not fat chicks. And what do the most valuable women go for? The prettiest women? The supermodels? The college girls at the peak of their attractiveness? They date assholes. Not smart, nerdy guys. Not good guys. They only change their tune when they realize they can’t afford to keep playing the same tired song for another 8 years.
So what is the only solution? You must make it clear through your actions (not words) that you are better than the girl in question and that you know it. That is, of course, if you haven’t gone monk mode.
This post has been rather long and rambly, but the conclusion I wanted to state here is that the vast majority of women are chumps looking for a scammer. They crave to be submissive to a superior man, and while many are capable of treating good men well, even those girls will treat assholes worlds better because that is their nature. Am I that superior man? Not to most women. Do I feel good about myself when I treat girls like an asshole? Depends on the girl. But knowing that this is what they want deep down inside certainly makes it easier.
In the end, going monk mode is more peaceful, but dating is more entertaining. Enjoy the decline.
Just a misogynist virgin hiding away in his mother's basement. Nothing to see here...
Cali 16 minutes ago.
