When a women asks, "What's wrong?"

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

OK, trying to get some further insight into the “female mind” (I know a misnomer…lol), so I have a 2 part question:

1. When a woman asks”What’s wrong?” does she really know or is she just fishing?

   My theory is that this is just an interrogation technique (kinda like when the cops know you probably did something bad but they want the confession)

2. If she’s just fishing, why doesn’t this trick seem to work for guys when we try it?

 

 

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[Anonymous 12]

I think they ask for the same reason we ask, they want to know if they have upset us or lost any standing.

The difference is most men have the sense to lie whereas a woman will often respond with “I’m fine” which means she is p~~~ed and probably you are the cause of it.

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

I dunno, I always felt I was walking into a landmine when I asked “what’s wrong?”

I think my exes always made me feel like I should know and they shouldn’t have to tell me.

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

Math Ronin wrote:

I dunno, I always felt I was walking into a landmine when I asked “what’s wrong?”

Well, so you would presumably be much better off not asking in the first place, correct..?

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

[FermatParticipant 3478]

When a woman asks you what’s wrong it’s not because she wants to help you out of your funk fir the sake of altruism.  It’s for her to understand hidden features about yourself that she can control and use against in you when the harvest is ripe. Most questions women ask are not designed to help you.  They are designed to help her by making you think she is helping you.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[iT_suXParticipant 0]

Hi,
she checks how deeply you can be manipulated by revealing your secrets

[RoyDalParticipant]

Math Ronin wrote:

1. When a woman asks”What’s wrong?” does she really know or is she just fishing?

She is fishing. She has her mind made up. She just wants you to say something. Then, she will contradict it and turn it into an arguement.

Math Ronin wrote:

If she’s just fishing, why doesn’t this trick seem to work for guys when we try it?

It is her trick. She knows it inside out. You will never match her in double think and double talk.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

O.M.G. Morlock is absolutely correct.  It is a special branch of the “S~~~ Test”.  Never ask this question of a woman.  She has been waiting for you to ask it.  The answer, which is guaranteed (almost 100%) set up for her to reply “I’m fine” when you know dam well there is something wrong.  You are almost ready to fall into the trap.  Never say, “Well there must be something wrong”, because “You are the problem” and you are about to get a 12 gauge right between the eyes.

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

Robert Hallam wrote:

O.M.G. Morlock is absolutely correct. It is a special branch of the “S~~~ Test”. Never ask this question of a woman. She has been waiting for you to ask it. ….

I’ve always thought there were two versions.

The first version is when she is fishing. And I think because the right brain is the more dominant hemisphere for women, which is where non verbal information is processed, they’re better at it than men.

Maybe the second version is like what I think you are referring to. There is an issue that the woman wants to bring up, so she sets the man up with obvious non verbal clues that an elephant couldn’t miss (sighing, looking forlorn or sadly gazing out of a window), just waiting for the guy to take the bait.

Guys aren’t good at this because by nature we’re not underhanded, and we communicate in a direct factual manner. Men are like the British were in war during the colonial era; we march in an orderly fashion and obey the rules of engagement in a discussion (i.e. logic), whereas women are like guerrilla warfare experts that stage verbal wars.

[Anonymous 42]

Math Ronin wrote:

I dunno, I always felt I was walking into a landmine when I asked “what’s wrong?” I think my exes always made me feel like I should know and they shouldn’t have to tell me.

@Math, you forgot to mention with your pockets full of hand grenades and carrying two Gerry cans trash bags full of gasoline (high test, 105 octane)…

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

Ned Trent wrote:

Math Ronin wrote:

I dunno, I always felt I was walking into a landmine when I asked “what’s wrong?”

Well, so you would presumably be much better off not asking in the first place, correct..?

Yeah, but I learned this too late. I was still in the “protector” frame of mind that if something was wrong, I had to fix it.

But apropos of your observation, Bill Burr has a great piece about what he does when his girl gets p~~~y, how he actually narrates he little fits…LOL….it is so funny, wished I could find it.

[GunslingerParticipant 242]

When I asked the wife two months ago what was wrong “nothing…don’t worry about it” and now I’m getting divorced…that’s what I get for asking.

So moving forward, there will be no reason to ever ask this question again, because no relationship will ever progress to the point of justifying it. And if for some reason it does and the immediate answer is not “I just really wanna give you a blow job right now, but we’re in public” or “I really wanted to make you a sandwich but we are out of your favorite cheese” then I am getting the f~~~ out of that relationship.

 

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

When you don’t ask a woman: “What’s wrong?” she interprets it as you don’t care. And she uses that to manipulate you with guilt. When you do ask a woman: “What’s wrong?” she interprets that as you aren’t sensitive enough to her needs to already know. And she uses that to manipulate you with guilt.

It’s lose lose.

So don’t play.

[EdogParticipant 254]

“What’s wrong?”

What’s wrong is thinking you can inject logic and reason into a discussion based on female emotion and ego. You can’t ask a female what’s wrong without it going bad for you. She’ll twist it all up and throw it back at you. Who knows what kind of backward s~~~ will spew forth if you have the b~~~~ to ask this question to a female, especially one you’re in a relationship with.

These very questions are why I find even the notion of a relationship constricting. Seriously, dealing with that kind of s~~~ just isn’t worth it.

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

sidecar wrote:

When you don’t ask a woman: “What’s wrong?” she interprets it as you don’t care. And she uses that to manipulate you with guilt. When you do ask a woman: “What’s wrong?” she interprets that as you aren’t sensitive enough to her needs to already know. And she uses that to manipulate you with guilt. …

Awesome observation…..only thing I would add is that if you don’t ask, she might not say anything but your behavior will reaffirm her suspicion that you don’t care. This will fuel her already insecure nature and the results will probably be ten times worse for you down the road.

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

Here’s you when she tells you “what’s wrong”

and here’s you when she doesn’t

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Math Ronin wrote:

Awesome observation…..only thing I would add is that if you don’t ask, she might not say anything but your behavior will reaffirm her suspicion that you don’t care. This will fuel her already insecure nature and the results will probably be ten times worse for you down the road.

Which is why it’s important to ACTUALLY NOT CARE. And straight up tell her you don’t care.

She desperately needs you to care. It’s evolved into women. It’s so deeply ingrained into her that she cannot conceive that you don’t. You’re not reaffirming her suspicion that you don’t care, you are reaffirming her suspicion that you are withholding something from her to get something, because that’s exactly what she would do.

When she says: “You don’t care about me!” she figures you really do care and she can use this as guilt to manipulate you into proving you do care in some way that materially benefits her.

If you straight up tell her you have no f~~~s to give, it completely pulls the floor out from under that game. Instead of fueling her insecure nature you are excising it from her like a surgeon with a sledgehammer.

You should not have to prove yourself to her. You don’t owe her anything. She is the one who needs to earn your attention.

[Ned TrentParticipant 4894]

@ Math Ronin: Cool now that’s a great analogy there (the in car display going wild I mean) brill..!

I'd rather die a natual death with a clear MGTOW conscience somewhere off the grid than one within "modern" civilisation with a big stress mark on my forehead and a couple of dozen tubes plugged into my body. Back to the plantation..? Me..? Hey, literally: I won't ever fucking kid myself...YZERLMNTSIC

[Math RoninParticipant 86]

sidecar wrote:

Which is why it’s important to ACTUALLY NOT CARE. And straight up tell her you don’t care. 

You know,even after taking the red pill, I’m surprised all the things I still haven’t yet understood.

I was about to ask you “well if you tell her you don’t care, why is the girl going to stay with you?”

And then it dawned on me “You don’t care if she does”

Thanks @sidecar

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Math Ronin wrote:

I was about to ask you “well if you tell her you don’t care, why is the girl going to stay with you?”

And then it dawned on me “You don’t care if she does”

Exactly.

She probably will stay around, though, because she NEEDS you to care, and she knows that isn’t going to happen if she leaves. Only now she’s there on your terms.

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