What's up gentleman.

[inneedoftruthParticipant 94]

I’ve been lurking for awhile and finally decided to join. What’s kept me from joining in the past is the complete opposite situation I am in than so many others on here. Quick background: Married a woman at 25 who was 5 years younger and already had two kids and was divorcing her first husband already. She had aspirations of greatness though. Wanted to be a Psychologist and have her own practice. She got pregnant with my son less than a year into our marriage. She then got accepted into doctorate school in another state. 3 kids, all under school age, I was full on the blue pill and decided as we couldn’t afford daycare for 3 kids in Chicago, I’d become a stay at home dad while she got her doctorate. That went on a few years, then she got pregnant again with our second son, child number 4 total. She now needed to go do residencies, practicums, etc.etc.. We moved to 3 different states the next 4 years. At this point, my resume obviously was shot. There were times I would pick up an overnight job just for some extra cash for us, then come home and watch the kids all day. Did that full time for 6 months and I swear it almost killed me. Anyways, finally, 4 years ago our youngest was in school and I was able to go to work full time. Spent two years working as a machinist, starting to finally get a trade and boom, wife says she wants to move again, open a private practice and since I have to quit my job anyways, might as well come work for her and run the practice so she can see patients.. Did that for the last two years.. Practice exploded. Moved into a bigger and much nicer space within 6 months, kept growing from there.. And then, a few months ago, out of nowhere, the wife announces she wants a divorce. Soon find out she’s f~~~ing someone else. Lying c~~~ then files a bogus protection order on me when I refuse to move out of my house. It got thrown out when I fought it a month later.

Current situation, living in parents spare bedroom at 40. Got a job that pays crap. Spending every penny on lawyers. But here’s where I differ from just about everyone elses current situation here. My lawyers are fighting for Alimony, Child support, and chunk of the business (or a payout)…

The problem is, as I read and learn more about MGTOW, part of me just wants to swallow that red pill for good and “go my own way”.. Say f~~~ the whole thing, keep everything, I’m f~~~ing out… I’ll find a way.I’ve already decided I want nothing to do with women anymore. I’m perfectly content with never having a relationship with a woman again. I’ve decided that’s my future. I need to refocus on fixing the damage I’ve done to my boys by watching their father turned into a Beta Cuck and make sure they don’t follow in my footsteps.

The other half of me says, f~~~ her, f~~~ this system, I’m going to get payback for men everywhere that got f~~~ed in a divorce..

Anyways, that’s my situation currently.. Going to continue to read and learn.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

That is a very hard story, wish it was A typical but its not. It is wonderful you have focus on your boys, good for you! As for fighting—others below will disagree with my advice but I say fight, and take anything you can—-scorched earth my friend! scorched earth. Burn that c~~~ to the ground if you can. Be a pit bull—bite hard and don’t let go.

And welcome, pull up a chair and pop a top on a brew.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome man. Keep reading.

[Anonymous 54]

Sugar and spice!!!

Imo..You helped build her buisness. Go after youre peice of it. Let the lawyers fight, in the mean time try and find peace.

AWALT

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Important that you go after what you have earned. Your blue side feels bad about it. But hang in there. You gave her something that is valuable to her. She will make loads of cake and would never have been able to do that and have kids at the same time without you. You could probably calculate what you have lost dedicating your time to her and family.

But yeah, the other part is true, MGTOW into the future, get your own career, afford childcare and be sure that when your kids move out of the house you are able to live your personal dreams.

Hang in there, fight. It is worth it. Let the lawyers do their job.

Let the good times roll

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome, Inneedoftruth. You’re at the right place. Plenty of Truth here.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[inneedoftruthParticipant 94]

Appreciate the support and the welcomes! She’s a dumb c~~~, that’s for sure. Had me heartbroken and willing to sign an agreement to walk away with a fraction of what my lawyers believed I deserved. Dangling the idea of possible reconciliation in front of me like a carrot if I just walked away like a good boy. “to give her space and time”. I had no idea about the affair.

Till my son texts me and says he over heard mom and a mutual friend “facetiming” talking about how they couldn’t wait to be together again the next night (when I had the kids) and that they were “meant to be together forever”.

Stopped the self pity, crying, beta f~~otry that instant. Started to regain my b~~~~ again and now, going to break that c~~~ and never let another one have my b~~~~ again!

[Anonymous 13]

Welcome.

After all you did and what you went through, to be just tossed aside like an old rag once she finds someone new.
You mean/meant nothing to her.

Now you can go quietly like a good little boy and let her have everything, just how she planned it all,

OR

F~~~ that s~~~.

Seize the c~~~!

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

WELCOME TO THE FOLD BROTHER. TRUTH IS HERE. PAIN IS REAL. BEING CHILDLESS AND NEVER MARRIED I DON’T HAVE ALOT TO OFFER. BUT I’M GLAD YOUR HERE TO SHARE WITH US.

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home,Inneedoftruth
Beer’s in the fridge.
I have to agree with PistolPete and the others. If the situation was reversed she would take you for everything she could. SHE CHEATED ON YOU FOR CHRISSAKES. Do the same to her. I have no sympathy for her. Your kids are another matter. They will grow up and figure out what your soon to be ex did and forgive anything you have to do to protect yourself. Think of yourself and what kind of retirement you will have.

[Mr.NeverAgainParticipant 146]

For what its worth, my own story is damn close. She didn’t leave me for another man (that I know of) but she blind sided me with the divorce after 10 months of being a stay at home dad after quitting my full time job. Had to get out of the house as she can play my anger like a fiddle, and manipulate me in so many ways its ridiculous. Wont drag on too much, but I did not listen to my MGTOW brothers and fight it. Im 32, living in my parents house, just started a new job. Im getting absolutely shafted in the divorce, but she makes so much more money than me, Im really only looking at child support…I know, I said “only” like its no big deal. But I’m going minimalist and monk. No pointless payments, fancy things, or girls. Just me, my computers, guitars and beer. AND SUMMER GARDENING! That s~~~ will zen you stupid!

I have found that many guys approach divorce in so many ways. I really believe that men get WAY more introspective throughout the process, while women never seem to get out of the “it’s all his fault, every bad thing that happened is his fault!” So they attack while most of us meditate and ponder.

Anyways, Im morning drinking but…Thanks for sharing your story and I hope you kick some ass!

“I know your race. It is made up of sheep. It is governed by minorities, seldom or never by majorities. It suppresses its feelings and its beliefs and follows the handful that makes the most noise." The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain

[AkhilleusParticipant 2486]

Welcome bro keep your head up.

Aloha means family you don't leave family behind. Who will be the next Draconarius for MGTOW? MGTOW = brothers = acceptance = belonging

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