What would John Wayne do?

[53ClicksUpParticipant 1345]

Last week I was cleaning out a dresser in a spare bedroom and found several items belonging to the “crazier than a s~~~ house rat” ex-wife. She’s been long gone for some 3 years and even though she has attempted to email me several times, I maintain a strict “go f~~~ yourself” no contact policy.

What I found in a bottom drawer was her Birth Certificate, High School Diploma, College Diploma, family photo album, some loose photos and a few letters from high school friends etc.

I am pondering one of two possible courses of action at this point:

1) Simply pitch all this s~~~ into a dumpster, douse it with gasoline, light it up and walk away, or….

2) Drop it off at her brother’s house. He and I always got along really well. We respect each other and I know he wouldn’t give me any s~~~ about showing up at his place and leaving this little pile of crap with him.

I will be motorcycling with some riding buddies right thru his home town this weekend.

So what is right thing to do here?

[MATRIXParticipant 2348]

Probably the most satisfying is to torch it all 😈

I would say the right thing to do is drop it off with her brother, show that you are so much better than she is, you don’t have to come down to her level 😝

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[No Ma’amParticipant 212]

I say leave it with the brother for your sake, not hers. Seeking revenge by burning that s~~~ just proves to yourself that the bitch still has a grip on you.

"Nobody loves me, but my mother, And she could be jivin` too." - B. B. King

[OldBillParticipant]

Give it to her brother. He has your respect and you have his. He can pass the documents along to her with no chance of blow back, especially seeing as you’re ghosting her.

Besides, burning it all in a fit of pique is something a women would do.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

Give it to the brother but tell him not to tell her that you found it otherwise she’s going to message you more. She’ll think it’s a sign to communicate with each other again. Bitches are crazy like that.

Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

[HitmanParticipant]

Drop it at the brothers place and run.

[GregB0Participant]

Hitman wrote:

Drop it at the brothers place and run.

As suggested above, you need to return the stuff through her brother and let him know that this is it.

You will continue to have his respect, the respect of the guys you are riding with and won’t be beating yourself up later if you don’t.

It is the right thing to do and costs you absolutely nothing to do it.

Have a safe ride

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Nothing purifies quite like fire—scorched earth my friend.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

GregB0 wrote:

As suggested above, you need to return the stuff through her brother and let him know that this is it.
You will continue to have his respect, the respect of the guys you are riding with and won’t be beating yourself up later if you don’t.
It is the right thing to do and costs you absolutely nothing to do it

Agreed. Well said G-Bo.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Drop it off at the brother’s house. That’s what Bill Elliot would do…

[Anonymous 14]

Considering what I said about my last ex in OneLaneOnlyPls’s thread consistency would dictate that I say burn em all, s~~~ I wouldn’t even go through that much trouble, just throw them in the recycling bin like you did with the ex wifey.

[Just a ManParticipant 934]

If you have to ask then the answer is #2, otherwise you would have already done #1. Savvy?

Philosophy, the female repellent

[Anonymous 12]

I would return the useful stuff (documents and Photos) to her brother, and dump (not burn) the letters.

A) Shows you are a dude that respects other People’ s property, even though you have no respect for the person. You are a man who controls what he does through reflection, not emotion.

B) Her brother might keep the Photos and value them more than you, or her (depending on who is depicted).
So go to the man, knock on his door and Tell him these might be of value to him or his sister.

Ideas:
* Prepare a little note for HIM (NOT HER) in case he is not there or someone else opens the Door.
* Spend no more than 60 seconds on his property, and have your riding buddies oversee the exchange.
* engines off so they can hear, or Body Cam.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

If she hasn’t needed those things in 3 years, she has no idea they exist. Personally, I wouldn’t waste gas driving those documents over to her brother’s house. They’d end up in my garbage.

[53ClicksUpParticipant 1345]

I just want to thank all of you gentlemen for you inputs. I’ve made up my mind to package the stuff up and drop it off at the brothers house. I’ll make it clear that this is not an invitation for a future dialog between me and the “ex”.

Many Thanks!

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

53ClicksUp wrote:

I’ve made up my mind to package the stuff up and drop it off at the brothers house.

Good move brother. Have one on me.

53ClicksUp wrote:

I just want to thank all of you gentlemen

Right back at you Sir.

Good job on doing the right thing and thanks for following up on this topic.

[53ClicksUpParticipant 1345]

Update…. I went by the ex brother-in-laws place and he was very happy to see me. I hung around long enough to take my helmet off, dig into my saddle bag and retrieve the documents and photos.

I handed the package to him and remounted my Harley. His wife (my ex sister-in-law) came out of the house at that point, gave me a hug and wanted to know how me and my son were doing. I gave her a quick update and then fired up the engine.

My ex brother-in-law then stepped forward and handed me his business card, with their home email address and phone numbers. He told me to call anytime I was in the area. He said that they often spoke of me and wondered how I was doing. He then added that he didn’t blame me, and said that no one could or should be married to his sister.

He and I shook hands and I then rode off feeling vindicated. They were plainly aware of all the s~~~ that I had put up with all those years and let me know that they still held me in high regard.

Often times the hardest things we choose to do in life, turn out for the best. Whether that is ending a toxic relationship with a woman or approaching someone when you are unsure of how you will be received. Both turned out for the best.

I definitely did the right thing. I went on to put nearly 1,000 miles on the bike over the next 3 days. It was purifying to say the least. I felt like a whole man again and the riding adventure on the open highway reinforced that fact.

[OldBillParticipant]

Thanks for the update, 53Clicks.

You did the right thing and were rewarded for it. While rewards don’t happen too often, that shouldn’t stop us from doing good anyway.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 12]

This MAN gave you his best show of respect he could.
Because you showed him a Sign of respect.

Onion cutting Ninjas here.

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