What women do to their men

[RASmanParticipant 1994]

Ever wonder why with a woman you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t? It’s by design:

” Learned helplessness is behavior typical of an organism (human or animal) that has endured repeated painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it was unable to escape or avoid. After such experience, the organism often fails to learn escape or avoidance in new situations where such behavior would be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in aversive situations, that it has lost control, and so it gives up trying.”

Thus after years of this training we find the bumbling husband sitting on the couch looking absolutely lost and confused.

[joetechParticipant]

When I’m out with my GF around these husbands I can almost see the collar and leash on them. They hate seeing me being so independent with my GF. It sets a bad example. Ha! I love the look in their wife’s eyes when she glares at me. Then, when they look at their husbands I see fear in her eyes as if she’s thinking, “I hope he doesn’t think I should be that good to him.” Hehe…yeah, he does, bitch.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

A beaten dog will either be abandoned eventually or turn in its oppressor.

We all have free will and choice but some slaves don’t know they can just walk away.

They will have nothing …. but … FREEDOM

A price very much worth the pain.

[Anonymous 0]

One noted psychologist says that “learned helplessness” is a big component of common depression. An oppressor puts you in a position where everything you do is wrong. Eventually you get used to being in this situation, and it doesn’t even occur to you to question the oppressor any more. Instead, you beat up on yourself for always being in the wrong. You start viewing yourself as being fatally flawed since everything you do is wrong. Even when offered freedom, you won’t take it since you take it for granted that you’ll f~~~ that up as well.

That’s why depressed people have that permanent “dragging-ass” look about them. They expend so much energy beating up on themselves that they have none left over for looking for a way out or planning an escape.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Marriage is the act of voluntarily putting yourself into a position where another person, who you already know to be driven by emotion instead of logic and reason, can destroy you financially, socially, legally and emotionally for any reason she chooses, or for no reason at all. When doing so, she will have all the protections and assistance from the most powerful government on the planet, in the history of the planet. She will become the owner of the majority of your financial assets immediately as you earn them, and the government will enforce that as well.

This is the arrangement that real slaves had with real plantation owners, and comparing the two legally… is not a stretch.

In the history of human behavior, it is as true on an individual scale as it is on a national scale, that large imbalances in power between people pressed closely together inevitably leads to abuse.

Even if participating in this set of circumstances was guaranteed to add 100 years to my life, I would not choose this option.

I would rather live 50 years free than 100 years as a slave.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[joetechParticipant]

I remember a line from a diary that read, “I’d rather be dead than be a n~~~~~ on one of those plantations.” I see husbands that I can tell are miserable and I think, “Yeah. Get some sleeping pills. Take the bottle and go to bed.” Suicide is the only way out without them profiting. Most life insurance policies don’t pay when it’s suicide. No wonder women discourage it so much.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Ask any man who gives his ex half if he has more cash in his pocket. The answer in the vast majority of cases will be yes. How can a guy only getting half of HIS earnings do better than when he was married, he isn’t hemmoraging money every day.

Divorce is expensive to men because freedom isn’t ever free, unless you avoid the prison altogether.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[Nice Guy EddieParticipant 527]

Ogre wrote:

Ask any man who gives his ex half if he has more cash in his pocket. The answer in the vast majority of cases will be yes. How can a guy only getting half of HIS earnings do better than when he was married, he isn’t hemmoraging money every day.

Divorce is expensive to men because freedom isn’t ever free, unless you avoid the prison altogether.

Exactly.

I took this approach with financial settlement with my hypergamous, lazy, unintelligent ex.

A very generous, up-front, no-alimony deal for her which meant I didn’t have to support her ridiculously lavish lifestyle any more.

Her eyes lit up when she saw the numbers, and she stupidly jumped at it.

If will be moderately painful short-term hit, but will pay off for me in the long term as my income will continue to rise in the forseeable future.

NGE

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

@ niceguyEddie,
I have been there and done that, and I believe you made the correct decision. Your net worth will decrease, and then begin to steadily increase from the moment she cashes the check. Her net worth will increase the moment she cashes the check, and will decrease progressively after. This is as rich as she has ever been, and she will never have this level of net worth again. She will almost certainly spend all that money on cars, clothes, jewelry and other depreciating assets.

I give it somewhere between 6 and 24 months before she returns, broke, looking to reconcile. Mine took less than a year.

If you are here, then you know what to do when that happens…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

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